Any mothers on here who's SO has a kid with someone else and the girl is ALWAYS around his family because they invite…

I think you should have a talk with your partner to speak to his family regards to that ... I think the child should always be welcomed but the ex? She's much irrelevant it's sort of disrespectful towards you... Personally

I honestly would try to get to know her since our children are siblings. A happy family that gets along is so much better then having beef with one another. My mom is very cool with her husbands ex wife cause of the kids. She was in the family before you so you can't blame them for having her around cause her child is apart of their family. Just try and get to know her if you can. That's my opinion

Well personally we can't change who people hang with are what not but out of respect they should limit that but again if they are around her and he's not that's on them not him. Cause that's like my husband family loves me and if anything was to happen like that between us yes I would still be around maybe even spending day and night with his parents that's how much love we have. But you need to either know he has nothing to do with their actions and move on from it and say o well that's them cause y'all together not you him his family and the ex

Do they invite you to the same extent and treat you just as well as they do her? If so, I'd say get to know her for your children's sake. If you feel like they exclude you and you aren't comfortable with it, have a talk with your SO about it. I had the same issue with my ex boyfriend but his family never treated me like they did his ex girlfriend in the whole 3 years we were together and they basically worshipped the ground she walked on because she had his child. I guess it's all about how you feel about it.

@brendam96, He has spoken to them about it, he says it's mainly his grandfather that invites her everywhere (not his biological grandfather).. And he gets so uncomfortable. So every time they invite us he rather just not go because he gets mad that she's invited..his grandfather just doesn't respect how he feels about it. But his grandma and mom knows what she did to him so they don't like her but they deal with her because of his daughter (she's 4)

@amaperalta03, I feel you in a way, I've never met her in person or anything. I don't know how we would begin to even speak? Lol she has a Facebook his mom, grandma, grandpa, Etc has her , and her mom on their Facebooks but I don't want to add her and message her like randomly idk how she would feel about it.

I thankfully do not have this problem! And I think if my bfs ex wife lived here their still wouldn't be that issue. Because my BF only talks to her because of his children. Try's to keep it civil for his daughters sake. I doubt his parents would have her around because he wouldn't want that and out of respect for me. Now if it did happen I guess I'd just have to put on my big girl panties and be friendly and try to have a better attitude about it even if I didn't like it. I'd probably say something to my BF if it really bothered me.

@lexirosex3, speak to your man about this maybe all 3 of y'all can go grab some lunch. Cause eventually you will be around her child. I personally would want to know whose gonna be around my kid. But it's up to you love and talk to your man about it.

@mommyofcohenjayceandmatthew, yeah, he stays away. He feels like she shouldn't be around, only the daughter. He's spoken to his family about it. His mom and grandma understand but his grandfather (his grandmas husband) still invites her everywhere and he doesn't care about how my fiancé feels about it. But I feel like I'd never get to meet his family than. I've only met his mom and grandma.

I think that should not stop both of you from attending events you should simply be the bigger person and greet everyone including her .. And pretty much it ignore the fact she is even there afterwards

Maybe she'll start speaking to you ..

@kelcyfreese, Well, they invited us one day to a family barbecue but she was there so he didn't want to go because he hates her. His mom and grandma love me but I've never met any of his other family because she's always invited and he said that it'll always be like that as long as his grandmas husband is alive. He gets mad and he doesn't like to even hear her name or look at her. Etc. it sucks though because I really want to meet his family but so far only met his mom and grandma. (His daughter is 4 she'll be 5)..

@missjess, yeah exactly, but my fiancé doesn't even talk to her at all. His mom is the one who picks up his daughter and drops her off. He hates his daughters mom with a passion. So his mom is like the third person they communicate through her basically as far as anything to do with their daughter.

@amaperalta03, I've talked to him and he doesn't want me to be cool with her. He hates her. I'm just so stuck on what to do because I don't want him to get mad if we talk. Ya know? But for him to be in the same room as her he'd NEVER do it. Lol she knows her daughter is going to have a sister and everything. I would like to meet her.. But my fiancé probably wouldn't be around if we did.

@brendam96, that's why I told him that why should I be the one to not go? When I'm the one who you're going to marry I shouldn't have to hide ya know.. And he agrees but says until she stops going around his family so much than he doesn't want anything to do with them. (Meaning family stuff) besides with his mom and grandma.

@lexirosex3, damn that's complicated now. Well first ask if it's okay if you contact her. If he's not okay with it I wouldn't do it then cause you don't wanna cause problems with your relationship.

@amaperalta03, yeah exactly he has her blocked on Facebook and his phone everything. They were broken up before she had the baby she didn't tell him she was pregnant till she was 7months and he felt like it was a set up.. (Because his family rich, Long story) but I was like well damn.. Also she cheated on him and laid hands on him.. Etc. so he hates her guts I remember asking him before and he said no.. And said not to bring her up because she makes him sick. So I'm like wtf.. But im going to ask today and see what he says.

As long as she was nice and respectful to me I wouldn't care. If she was like a person who talked crap and then acted like an angel around the family then I would hate it. But I think people can be civil with their exes and their SO's exes. My sister does it with her husband and her oldest sons father. He gets invited around a lot, even spends the night with the oldest son in his bunk bed at their house some nights.

@klarrissab, wow that's crazy. But that's good for them

my husband has a child with some chick in dr had him while with me but im kind so i let it go and he moved to the states with me. but his sisters and cousin are so nosey they visit the child and mother. and he told them not to get involved. he has her blocked on all social media and she cant have his #i said so!. i cant stand the noseys in his family but im glad that on one ocassion they went to visit with grandma and she refused to bring the lil boy out and in all honesty i believe its because grandmas know best and that child looks nothing like my husband or his family.

@mamix3_, wow that's so crazy!

Yes that's the story of my life. It's horrible and if I knew to the extent it would be the way it is (extremely fucking complicated) I would have gone about things a whole different way. Everyone's in for a rude awakening when my daughter is born!

@bria, girl same here!!!

Don't know if u ever saw my post a couple days ago about my BFs parents.. They are close with his ex wife- who is immature and in denial about a lot of things, and his parents act like I don't exist. They have never met me, nor have they reached out - they are aware that I'm pregnant and how far I am.. And despite my attempts at trying to reach out to them in a non threatening manner by sending food, baked goods to their house- I have never even received a thank you. It hurts me because my daughter already is getting treated like she doesn't matter.. And I know it's going to cause HUGE problems for my relationship ☹️.. I don't know how it's gonna all play out and don't want to jump to conclusions but I have a feeling the way I get ignored will be something permanent 😑

@bria, ah yes! I've read that that's so damn messed up! :/

@bria, if you ever need to talk message me!

@lexirosex3, same girl! Thank u:)