It bothers me when ladies brag about not having an epidural. Good for you, that's great! However, the ladies who do get an epidural, are doing just as good of a job as you are!
@soon_2_be_mom_of_4, exactly, it's crazy. We should all be supportive, and as long as baby is healthy, who cares !
I want to go without an epidural, my first out four babies to do this with. However I was telling one mom, that if I did it wouldn't discourage at all. Well she proceeded to make me feel like poo, and all. Also I am all for c-sections and stuff, as long as baby comes out healthy. However the same woman who was trying to make me feel like poo, me on my fourth her only on her second. She opted out for a vbac, and went straight to a c-sectiom without even trying. However that was her choice, so with me being me. Iwas for it. I am not agianst epidurals, and honestly I tell you for me it makes labor so easy. I agree people shouldn't make others feel like poo. Honestly I don't feel like poo, because I have three healthy kids and one on the way to.show for it. LOL. It's like one of my friends, tried and make her little sister look good. Saying she is strong, and she takes labor good. Well I asked was she using pain killers, and my friemd said no. Well her sister said, I was calm thanks to them drugs. I don't understamd why people turn stuff like epidurals, c-sectiom, and so on into a big deal. I.say aslong as we get our baby out, that is all that matters.
@babymama85, I definitely understand. Women just need to be more considerate in general I think. Healthy mom and baby is all that really matters! :)
for me, it was a big accomplishment to be able to give birth without any medication, and I am very proud of myself for it. however, I would never try to make anyone feel lesser or inferior just because they are planning on/ had an epidural. giving birth is one of the hardest things we will ever do in our lives, even if you have a C-section. let's all encourage eachother and not try to tear eachother down :)
@babybue16, I agree with you!! It's just very discouraging to hear women brag on and on about not having an epidural.
This is my first and when I tell people I'm trying to do it without I get "you just wait" "you say that but you'll get the epidural" "why would you put yourself through that" "you're crazy" "everyone gets an epidural" etc... It's very discouraging. I'm sure women who do it without feel accomplished after everyone tells them they won't be able to. I don't think most feel like they are better than someone who gets it or mean to come across that way. I know I'll be proud of myself either way. Everyones pain is different and I'm happy women have options. Either way, you make and deliver a little person and that's hard and amazing regardless of the pain management you use.
Because alot of moms are that way, my doctor was scared to recommend an epidural on my second child. It was due to her heart rate being so.high, and epidural slows the heart rate. The nurse assured him, I am a mom who wants her child healthy. So I did what it took. I never had a birth plan due to that, because I do not know what will pop up.