@firstbabybump you're welcome hun! if you need to talk, I'm here

And same to you too I really appreciate it @babykamya2016

Thank you for taking the time to talk to me I really appreciate it @atw2016

@firstbabybump it does hurt. I would just sit back and see where his head is before you give up. you don't deserve the pain.

I've had this talk so many times tho and with my hormones all off the place I get mad and he says I Spazz out so he asked for distance for the first tine 2 weeks ago and I think it finally sunk in to just leave him alone . I just can't take it anymore . My mom loves him to pieces she says to be patient and I don't mind being patient but it's totally different when you don't know what direction y'all are going you could be wasting your time or not . It looks like I won't know anything any time soon I'm not trying to waste a year or 2 and wasting tears @babykamya2016 @atw2016 it's hard not talk to him as much but hopefully this will help me lose feelings for him and be able to look at him as just a friend . It feels like we're friends with benefits .

Im sorry about that love smh it hurts . @atw2016

Try seeing where he head is at when it comes to trying to work out a relationship with u again. I would just have a serious talk with him and just let him know how u really feel

I've been through that type of situation before were this guy treated me like his girlfriend but wouldn't take it to the next level. Things were perfect! we absolutely clicked on every level and then when I thought he finally choose me , he pretty much dumped me and so I left him alone. About five months later , he text me wanting another chance. He may just have to miss out on you.

@firstbabybump that's what I would do. I wouldn't get too much attached since he can't even take the chance and just be with you plus he had feelings for this other girl. I would just be careful. but I know you don't deserve to be an option and his when he feels like it. he got some thinking to do!

Exactly ! He says he's trying to build himself up for a relationship and a family like he wants his own place he's also 23 he just graduated and he's back in his parents house he has a good job he's saving up for his own place and he just wants to be stable before he takes that step he also wants his next girlfriend to be his last . And I totally understand that but he can't expect me to be all buddy when he treats me like his girlfriend . He's not on the same level as me . I tell him I love him 24/7 because the way oriole are dropping now a days you never know what your last words will be . He tells me every blue moon . He gets mad when i get upset because he confuses me ! And then on top of that he has this girl bestfriend who he use to talk too she's in a relationship but they are just so close . I've witnessed it they be all on top of eachother and I'm like wtf but I can't get mad because he's not mine he says I have nothing to worry about they just friends but I see different . She glows when she sees him and he does the same . It's just so much girl . Idk what to do . It's been 5 months now of back and forth and mixed emotions from HIM ! hell make me feel like hell choose me in the end then bust out and say something different basically saying I might not be the girl he chooses . So right now I'm just real distant and trying to keep my wall up I can't take any more heart break . @atw2016

I think he needs to make up his mind. it's not fair to you for him to be going back and forth, especially with another life almost here. he needs to tell you exactly what he wants from you.