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jassybby6991
jassybby6991
jassybby6991·Мама сына (9 лет)
My son literally cried as soon as I put him down! So I literally have to be holding him all day, I'm drained. I live my baby but this is getting outta control. How can I get my son to stay on his own without crying?
31.03.2016
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mommakay3
mommakay3·Мама троих детей
Have you tried swaddling? It helped a lot with my 1.5 year old and my mother n law suggested sleeping with one of his blankets so he could smell my scent while sleeping
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hellosweetie
Alexandra McMillan·Мама четверых детей
Awww glad I could help 😄
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jassybby6991
jassybby6991·Мама сына (9 лет)
@hellosweetie, lol I hope its not for long! lol my poor baby! thank you so much hun for your kind words. It def. helped me make a decision. I guess I'll carry my baby boy away😊 he def. knows I love him!
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hellosweetie
Alexandra McMillan·Мама четверых детей
It will be alright mama, someone else will be there for him and he will learn that comfort comes from other people, too! Not just mama lol he may be cranky and give his dad or grandma or whoever a hard time at first, but as long as someone is caring for him he'll get used to it! It sucks whenever you have to be away from your lil angel....I am lucky that I don't have to work yet, and she is definitely attached to me but she misses her daddy when he goes to work 😢 either way they'll be missing SOMEONE when they're gone! You're doing a great job mama, keep it up and I'm sure he'll get through this soon! Btw, he's likely going through a growth spurt, give him LOTS of patience lol and he'll get past it soon enough 😉 until the NEXT growth spurt hits 😨😂
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jassybby6991
jassybby6991·Мама сына (9 лет)
@hellosweetie, aww I'm glad you shared that with me thank you so much. I hope he just don't suffer when I go back to work and I'm not there to comfort him 😕
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jassybby6991
jassybby6991·Мама сына (9 лет)
@hhmariah, thanks hun.
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hellosweetie
Alexandra McMillan·Мама четверых детей
He's still real young, so this isn't seperation anxiety yet....he is just likely scared and wants comfort! Babies ALWAYS cry for a reason when they are that young, they are either hungry, scared, have gas, lonely, cold, hot, growing pains, teething pains (rare that young but possible), or something! I know there are a lot of differing opinions about this, but PLEASE don't let him "cry it out". It has been scientifically proven that it does NOT teach them to "self soothe". What it DOES teach them is that help will not come when they cry, so there is no point in continuing to cry. They have done brain scans and found that when a baby cries their brain releases a hormon called cortisol, the stress hormone, and those who are left to cry remain in stress even after the crying has stopped! Cortisol can cause brain damage in high doses and can have lasting effects, whereas a baby who is held when they cry and loved unconditionally will grow up to be confident and independent in the the fact that everything will be alright and they can fix things to feel better and that they are never alone, a baby who has been left to cry too much can grow up to be MORE needy and attention grabbing, and they will likely never ask for help even if they need it because they don't trust others as easily and will push people away when they are upset. Now, I'm not saying to NEVER let your baby cry at all and jump to their rescue immediately, if you need to take a breather for a minute and no one is there to help, by all means set the baby somewhere safe and walk out of the room to gather yourself. But it's the method of letting them cry to teach "self soothing" that does damage, as long as you are there for your baby and trying to help him, your baby can sense it and will be better off for it!!! As for suggestions to get him to sleep in his bed rather than crying the minute you set him down...I would try maybe putting a shirt under the mattress sheet that smells of you? Also, let him cuddle or nurse until you KNOW he's ready to knock out, then set him down. You could also try soothing bath before bedtime with infant massage, his legs and belly may be sore from growing pains or gas or whatever....and remember that loving your baby is NEVER going to spoil him, so feel free to love him and cuddle him and co sleep and nurse him to sleep! He will outgrow ALL of that soon enough, enjoy it while you can!!! (P.S. for anyone doubting me, my girl is 7 months old, exclusively breastfed and sleeps 8 -sometimes more- solid hours straight every night! She is adventurous, independent in many ways already and WAY ahead in all her milestones! I have loved her, and held her, and nursed her to sleep every day since she was born and I don't regret a thing 😊)
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hhmariah
Hannah Mariah·Мама двоих (8 лет, 9 лет)
Well, try some things that can catch his attentuon and keep him occupied... if that doesnt help, could try calling his doctor and see if they have any suggestions... hopefully he doesnt have colic, even if he does it sounds like a mild case...
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jassybby6991
jassybby6991·Мама сына (9 лет)
@hhmariah, I tried the boppy pillow and nope lol
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hhmariah
Hannah Mariah·Мама двоих (8 лет, 9 лет)
or he may have acid reflux, try propping him up a little bit instead of flat and see if that helps?
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jassybby6991
jassybby6991·Мама сына (9 лет)
@rosaml, I tried that one mama
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rosaml
Rosa·Мама двоих (9 лет, 10 лет)
try putting a stuff animal near him it's the only way my daughter stayed in her crib @jassybby6991
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jassybby6991
jassybby6991·Мама сына (9 лет)
@queeneden, it's horrible lol
@hhmariah im going to try
that
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hhmariah
Hannah Mariah·Мама двоих (8 лет, 9 лет)
or maybe even a noise machine that makes soothing sounds?
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hhmariah
Hannah Mariah·Мама двоих (8 лет, 9 лет)
Do you have a mobile or something that has bright colors on it that could help get his attention so he's occupied?
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missing41user
missing41user·Мама троих детей
When you find out, let me know please. I haven't put my baby down in days.
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jassybby6991
jassybby6991·Мама сына (9 лет)
@hhmariah, yesterday I tried that for half an hour. he cried so hard that he literally turned red almost purple.
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hhmariah
Hannah Mariah·Мама двоих (8 лет, 9 лет)
Sometimes you just gotta let them cry, they have to learn how to self soothe.
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