My son literally cried as soon as I put him down! So I literally have to be holding him all day, I'm drained. I live my baby but this is getting outta control. How can I get my son to stay on his own without crying?
Have you tried swaddling? It helped a lot with my 1.5 year old and my mother n law suggested sleeping with one of his blankets so he could smell my scent while sleeping
@hellosweetie, lol I hope its not for long! lol my poor baby! thank you so much hun for your kind words. It def. helped me make a decision. I guess I'll carry my baby boy away😊 he def. knows I love him!
It will be alright mama, someone else will be there for him and he will learn that comfort comes from other people, too! Not just mama lol he may be cranky and give his dad or grandma or whoever a hard time at first, but as long as someone is caring for him he'll get used to it! It sucks whenever you have to be away from your lil angel....I am lucky that I don't have to work yet, and she is definitely attached to me but she misses her daddy when he goes to work 😢 either way they'll be missing SOMEONE when they're gone! You're doing a great job mama, keep it up and I'm sure he'll get through this soon! Btw, he's likely going through a growth spurt, give him LOTS of patience lol and he'll get past it soon enough 😉 until the NEXT growth spurt hits 😨😂
@hellosweetie, aww I'm glad you shared that with me thank you so much. I hope he just don't suffer when I go back to work and I'm not there to comfort him 😕
He's still real young, so this isn't seperation anxiety yet....he is just likely scared and wants comfort! Babies ALWAYS cry for a reason when they are that young, they are either hungry, scared, have gas, lonely, cold, hot, growing pains, teething pains (rare that young but possible), or something! I know there are a lot of differing opinions about this, but PLEASE don't let him "cry it out". It has been scientifically proven that it does NOT teach them to "self soothe". What it DOES teach them is that help will not come when they cry, so there is no point in continuing to cry. They have done brain scans and found that when a baby cries their brain releases a hormon called cortisol, the stress hormone, and those who are left to cry remain in stress even after the crying has stopped! Cortisol can cause brain damage in high doses and can have lasting effects, whereas a baby who is held when they cry and loved unconditionally will grow up to be confident and independent in the the fact that everything will be alright and they can fix things to feel better and that they are never alone, a baby who has been left to cry too much can grow up to be MORE needy and attention grabbing, and they will likely never ask for help even if they need it because they don't trust others as easily and will push people away when they are upset. Now, I'm not saying to NEVER let your baby cry at all and jump to their rescue immediately, if you need to take a breather for a minute and no one is there to help, by all means set the baby somewhere safe and walk out of the room to gather yourself. But it's the method of letting them cry to teach "self soothing" that does damage, as long as you are there for your baby and trying to help him, your baby can sense it and will be better off for it!!! As for suggestions to get him to sleep in his bed rather than crying the minute you set him down...I would try maybe putting a shirt under the mattress sheet that smells of you? Also, let him cuddle or nurse until you KNOW he's ready to knock out, then set him down. You could also try soothing bath before bedtime with infant massage, his legs and belly may be sore from growing pains or gas or whatever....and remember that loving your baby is NEVER going to spoil him, so feel free to love him and cuddle him and co sleep and nurse him to sleep! He will outgrow ALL of that soon enough, enjoy it while you can!!! (P.S. for anyone doubting me, my girl is 7 months old, exclusively breastfed and sleeps 8 -sometimes more- solid hours straight every night! She is adventurous, independent in many ways already and WAY ahead in all her milestones! I have loved her, and held her, and nursed her to sleep every day since she was born and I don't regret a thing 😊)
Well, try some things that can catch his attentuon and keep him occupied... if that doesnt help, could try calling his doctor and see if they have any suggestions... hopefully he doesnt have colic, even if he does it sounds like a mild case...