Thank you all very very much, at least I don't feel alone !

I has the massages done midwife used oils while pushing I believe that helped so the tear wasn't that bad as it could have been

if it's your first your probably will tear. I did had to get stitches but everything returns to normal my so still says how tight it is like I never had kids. also have to have a small speculum used during pap tests

alright, awesome!! thank you :) @theosmommy

@paisleesmommy, try to look up about this perineal massage I justt wrote above your comment.. even though you don't have almost any time, it could be helpful.. maybe doing it twice a day..

oh my gosh just yesterday my Dr did an exam and was like "wow it's so tight in there girl I can barely get my fingers to your cervix" I was like oh that's wonderful how the hell am I supposed to get a baby through there!?!? lol

there's one exercise you can do to stretch your vajayjay, you have to start at least 5 weeks before labor to be more helpful.. ссылка

it will be OK and you may tear it tends to happen alot or you maybe lucky and not tear. I tore with my second and had to have an episiotomy with my third. our bodies know what to do when it comes to pushing a baby out.

they cut me because I'm really tight too when I had my son

I actually had a nurse say "wow, no wonder your having another csection" during an exam. They do stretch and sometimes tear. they'll give you an episiotomy if necessary to prevent tearing too severely

They may cut you a bit then

ugh ikr o.o not to mention my baby is big compared to what he should be and his daddy is built like a line backer so I'm scared his shoulders won't fit if by some miracle his head does lmao