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Caitlyn Dierks
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My husband hit me with an ultimatum today. He told me if i don't get a full time job asap so he can quit his job and go…

My husband hit me with an ultimatum today. He told me if i don't get a full time job asap so he can quit his job and go to school full time that he'll leave me. I just had our son two weeks ago. Just after his birth my husband was saying how he didn't want me to go back to work and wanted me to be able to stay with the baby. Apparently he changed his mind since then and then dumped all this shit on me. I'm breastfeeding and told him I just at least want my 12 weeks with the baby like most mom's get after giving birth. He basically told me no and I'm not entitled to have time off with the baby and how his mom worked full time right away and didn't have time off so why should I get that. He thinks I don't do shit and caring for a newborn is the same as doing nothing. I literally just gave birth 2 weeks ago and he's calling me lazy... is it really so unreasonable for me to want the first couple months with my baby before I work again? I also worked through my whole pregnancy, just part time but it was still tough for me and he thinks I'm lazy for that too because it wasn't full time.. I just feel so lost and so damn stressed, my husband isn't like this usually. He's normally so understanding about things like this. I just don't know what to do.

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bellen27

Luz ZunigaМама сына (2 года)

Yes, all these women gave you good positive advice. he could be stressing off finances and probably want better for you and the child.it doesn't hurt to go back to work, you will eventually get tired of being a stay at home mom, it happens trust me.me and my hubby do 50/50 I go to school and he works full time someone has to sacrifice to do better by getting some type of education to a degree. Although, him saying he would leave you was really mean, but I'm sure you guys can get through that.hope this helps.

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2_fahrenwald_boys

Kenna FahrenwaldМама сына (6 лет)

I agree with all these ladies. That's bullshit and seems like someone's filling his head with this shit. Don't back down. Show him you have a say in this and he doesn't get to just tell you what you are gonna do!! You have to talk about it and agree on a compromise. @hellocaity

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tigerlilly

jennipher solisМама дочки-младенца

your not his mother. and if he wanted to go to school full time and stop working then maybe he shouldve rethought having a baby. cant have everything and your child comes first. he cant expect you to just up and take care of all the expenses and everything alone. especially after just having a baby. thats nonsense

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momma1

MarianaМама сына-младенца

@hellocaity, put your foot down and let him know what you need don't let him talk you down

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hellocaity

Caitlyn DierksМама сына-младенца

@spacekitty0426, @tigerlilly I'm not sure, but I wouldn't be surprised if someone has been filling his head with stuff. I don't know :( all I know is I don't want to lose him and I want our family to stay together. we're usually so happy together, this shit totally blind sighted me. @momma1 I don't think I'm wrong for my wants though, I just wish he'd compromise :(

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momma1

MarianaМама сына-младенца

@hellocaity, tell him to leave shit you don't need people like that what about your needs and dreams

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tigerlilly

jennipher solisМама дочки-младенца

does he have anyone whispering is his ear about that. telling him that u should already be working.

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spacekitty0426

meganМама двоих (младенец)

sounds like some one got in his head. but hey you aren't lazy you need to take care of the baby and yourself. you do what you think is right and if you two can't agree maybe he doesn't deserve you.

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mrsmoore

Sarah krashinМама троих детей

I'm sorry but he can work a part time and go to school full time as for you you could do a part time as well but get your rest

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