Ok I need advice to make sure I am not just being hormonal. My husband works with this girl who I found out today literally texts him multiple times a day. It's almost always about work stuff but I just feel like it's really inappropriate . I have only met her once and it's very weird bc she stalks my social media sites. She's on them all the time. I don't want to over react but I don't like this. My husband always says he doesn't care for her at all and she's texting him about work stuff but I'm still not feeling ok. Also I'm really pregnant, I don't feel pretty, I feel huge, our sex life has been non existent due to me being high risk. So, I guess I'm extra sensitive about that too. Am I just being hormonal or what do you girls think? Sorry for the rant!! Now I am REALLY going to have insomnia!!
That's all it was, it took one bad vibe from her for me to know she's got something up her sleeve and she had some kind of plan. I told him from the day she knew we were officially dating she had progressively got more and more jealous and decided to do something about it. She didn't want him to tell me she said anything but literally the second after it happened he called me to come over to his dorm and showed me all the texts messages and needless to say she got an ear full the next time I saw her. Like its just one of those things you just don't do. I get the feelings part, I've been there back in high school but never would I intentionally test my luck and see if I can break two people up for my own good.
I think you should trust him. I'm sure if she gets inappropriate he will shut it down. Have faith in knowing that your heart chose the right man ;)
@scc2413 yea from what you say I would've felt the same about that girl. You just KNOW when something is off. You know it. And yes she asks him about me all the time too, he told me that. I thought that was really weird, like why are you so interested?? And I agree he won't be forceful so I really want to say something too and she's now blocked off of everything so she can't stalk me at least. Bothers me so much. Like go text your own husband, and leave mine alone
Aww @pretti_preggo you are too long thank you so much!! I just feel so yucky and not myself and I have gained a ridiculous amount of weight and the sex thing and she is NOT helping. I don't know where people get off crossing the line with people's husbands, boyfriends, I will never understand it
Like I hate to brag but my instincts are usually always right when it comes to people that give me a bad vibe. Like this girl was nice but from the first time I met her and hung out with him her and one of their friends, I just knew something was off. The way she acted around him, she got all awkward when I was there too and hardly talked to me, always asked him about me like things she could ask me herself such as my major, where I was from, what dorms I lived in (we met in college) and it was just weird. I have her blocked on all my social media because after everything happened she literally went through my instagram and fb and liked every single picture that he was in. I would have been mad though! your story reminds me of the movie obsessed with Beyonce in it lol. Even if your husband says he'll handle it, they're never really forceful with it. I'd still say something to her even if he does take care of it but I'm just kind of crazy when it comes to girls like this so I believe I have a reason!
if she has a question or something to say about Work say it at WORK and leave it at that cause once you leave work who really wants to worry, think, or talk about "work" she's trying to find a way to talk to him out of work on the sly put your foot down woman let him know what has to be done or you'll do it for him and if she continues you reply yo her on his phone and this is how you start "listen up skank ...." jk but if you want to by all means go ahead lol but yeah if you have to read her, her writes do it don't be afraid cause no one cares about work that much to want to talk about it outside of the workplace and mama you are beyond gorgeous pregnant and all he is a lucky man to have someone as beautiful as you as his wife ❤❤👌
Thank you, so much again 💗😊 Lets hope she stops or I will put that phone right where the sun doesn't shine 😡 @raegenice
No problem. I definitely understand. I've dealt with similar things before when my husband was only my boyfriend and when he was my fiancé lol. Here to talk if you need me and good luck momma!!🤗
Thank you @raegenice and you're probably right I think I would feel like this regardless. I actually just blocked her tonight so I don't have to worry about that anymore. It's just so strange and this is the last thing to be stressing about 6 weeks before having our first baby
They are always slow to realize @scc2413 but I do think a woman's instinct is most always right. I mean why would she always be stalking MY social media sites? This was well before the one time I met her. Then we had a co Ed baby shower and his work people were invited and it was from 4-7pm. Well get this she comes at 3:30 and parades in MY house like she owned the place. My husband was upstairs with his aunt and uncle who we knew were coming early and no one else was there bc it hadn't even STARTED yet. Just so weird. I'm so fired up!!! I so wish I could handle this myself!!!
@brooklynsmom, best bet would be to ask him if she's texted him or bothered him at work. he shouldn't have an issue with you asking due the weirdness of the whole thing and should be honest. But don't stress it. He should know your feelings are fragile at the moment but not always just hormones. I think you'd feel like this even if you weren't pregnant. Block her on your social media accounts as well so you'll feel a bit better on that side of things.
@brooklynsmom, Right! Like this girl would always text him, call him while she was drunk, and everything. I get that they were best friends but I have a guy best friend and even he's said that I've never came off as flirting or being all up in his business 24/7 and all of his girlfriends loved me. Her on the other hand, would constantly ask him how we were doing like she was waiting to hear "not good", asked him if I liked her, asked him if she could tag along when him and I would go eat or go to the movies and the second he told me all of that I told him the next day she was jealous and he needs to start distancing himself from her for himself not even for us and a few weeks later he realized I was right.
@scc2413 I agree about instinct! He's worked with many females and I haven't felt like this about them. BUT they also haven't texted him 24/7 I don't care if it's about work or not. I would never text someone's husband like that so much. Ever!!
Thank you @raegenice that makes me feel so much better. Now I'm laying here stressed and I know it's not good for the baby. The thing is how do I know he handled it ?
Oh yeah, tell him to handle that or you'll do it yourself. It's nothing wrong with putting your foot down. That's really inappropriate.
@mrsthig I totally agree with you! Funny you said that I literally blocked her from everything tonight. I so want to call her out myself but he said he would deal with it. I'm just so angry! It bugs me too especially being pregnant and feeling awful
Well I'm crazy after my boyfriend had a "best friend" that wanted more then to be friends and he was so blind to it and always stuck up for her because I told him I didn't trust her at all and sure as shit she cries and spills her feelings to him and I flipped. Its been about a year and a half and they don't talk at all anymore. I almost felt bad because I came along after they had already been good friends but then again I was like yea you had your chance while you knew for 2 years he liked you and you kept turning him down so back off.
needless to say, trust your instinct. haha
@Mimiz amen!! She is married with a 1 year old. Just soooo not appropriate at all. Ugh now I want to strangle her!!!!
I agree @raegenice talk at work. Don't text. And yes he knows about her stalking my profiles and he always agrees with me it's so off. So what the hell? I guess I need to let him handle it but I so want to reach out to her right now . She's married too with a 1 year old
No, she needs to chill. Especially with the social media stalking. You can tell when a woman likes your man even if he's not entertaining her. It's doing the most. Have you told him she stalks your stuff? If so...let him handle her. The constant texting isn't necessary, she can talk to him about work....at work.
She needs to get a man and if she has one the hellllllll you texting another guy so much work or not ask your damn boss you whore lmao these hormones
YES! That's how I feel! She's texting him more than him and I text. Work stuff or not, stop it!! I'm SO angry right now @Mimiz
@mrsthig I COMPLETELY agree. No he's not her best friend/brother. I hate that!! That's just like my husband said its all about work stuff. Well she has a mouth right? She can talk, or email like regular people do at work. No female needs to be texting my husband more than I do, period. She does not want my hormonal self to get any more fired up. I have an extra 45 lb on me and I'm not afraid to use it!!!! LOL!