I need to vent

my son is 9 days old now... he is congested and and every one is saying it's normal that he like this the first few weeks I read about it also... I feel so bad for him cus he like gasps for air some times I tried to tell hubby I was scared and I got optional he got ad at me because I woke him up yes he worked all day and has for since the day after we came home full time plus over time everyday... bit all I wanted was to be held and told everything is OK... not I'm being to emotional and needy and he doesn't care right now because he tired I'M TIRED TO I'm up every two hours.. feeding getting pooped/peed on and thrown up dealing with him.. so I know tired am I wrong for wanting to be told it'll all be OK.. this y first baby he's had step kids from his previous relationship so it's my first time dealing with this kinda stuff