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I work night shift, 6pm till 2am or later. My boyfriend works days, so he's gone when the kids get up. That puts me…

I work night shift, 6pm till 2am or later. My boyfriend works days, so he's gone when the kids get up. That puts me getting up early with the kids. I'm so over tired there are days that I can't function. I'm​thinking about quitting. Letting my boyfriend go back to working 2 jobs (he likes it better that way). But that puts him not being home at all and me being home all the time. But he'll be happier and I'll have more sleep. I'm just not sure what to do. There's down sides with either choice.

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tiredmom

Julia BolesМама троих детей

@walking_mombie oh wow. That sucks.

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mombie.queen

CandiceМама четверых детей

@tiredmom yes 😑 I did but it seems I'm having issues with my messages..this is the 3rd msg I've sent then it just disappears like I didn't write it lol..I'll send again :)

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tiredmom

Julia BolesМама троих детей

@walking_mombie you can inbox them to me when ever you have time

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tiredmom

Julia BolesМама троих детей

@walking_mombie thanks

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mombie.queen

CandiceМама четверых детей

@tiredmom no these aren't like that..I'll get them for ya.

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tiredmom

Julia BolesМама троих детей

@walking_mombie I've looked into some but the only ones I could find are the ones that you have to buy stuff to sell to other people.

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mombie.queen

CandiceМама четверых детей

Oh :/ yeah I'm a night manager so I make over 9$/hr.. I have kids around your age..sometimes they nicely watch a movie while I doze in my chair lol. :/ thought about w@h jobs? Ik a few websites you can look at and see if they are hiring

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tiredmom

Julia BolesМама троих детей

@walking_mombie the ages my kids are at makes naps impossible. And making 7.25 an hour means I have to have full time plus over time if I can get it.

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mombie.queen

CandiceМама четверых детей

Can you just work 6-1 or 6-12? I work the same shifts & have the same issues. I just try to control my crabby side lol and try to nap on the days they let me which is usually none.

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cantdeletebutimgone

cantdeletebutimgoneМама дочки (3 года)

@tiredmom lol, good luck!!! 🍀

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tiredmom

Julia BolesМама троих детей

@lorrainev @mommiesaremagical14 now for the hard part of telling the kids. They get away with so much crap when their dad's home.

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tiredmom

Julia BolesМама троих детей

@lorrainev he said he'd call on his lunch break. To make sure this is what I want and I'm not just doing it to make him happy.

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ffhjg

Ffhjb

@tiredmom, great!

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Ffhjb

Yeah if your husband thinks it's fine for you to become a SAHM then just quit. Maybe have one more chat with him to verify his feelings and then put in your two weeks

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tiredmom

Julia BolesМама троих детей

@lorrainev @mommiesaremagical14 thanks ladies. You helped me feel less guilty. I just texted my boyfriend and told him how I was feeling. He's happy about it and said he would stop by one of the places that's offers him a job recently.

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ffhjg

Ffhjb

@tiredmom, Oh that's nice! I bet your a fantastic cook. I love food 🤤🤤🤤

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tiredmom

Julia BolesМама троих детей

@lorrainev culinary arts. But it was tech school over 5yrs ago so all of my certifications are out of date.

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cantdeletebutimgone

cantdeletebutimgoneМама дочки (3 года)

Ive been struggling to find work that would even be worth it. Right now any money I make will cover school for Jocey and maybe 1/2 the groceries. So it isn't even worth it for me right now.

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ffhjg

Ffhjb

Wait what did you go to school for?! Surely you can find something that offers better pay than fast food joints

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ffhjg

Ffhjb

Welp, hopefully you figure something out. Sleep deprivation is no joke 👎🏼

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tiredmom

Julia BolesМама троих детей

@lorrainev with the little I make I have to have 40 hours to make ends.

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tiredmom

Julia BolesМама троих детей

@lorrainev he makes more than me. Drives me nuts, because I went to college and he never finished high school. We would have more if he works instead of me. And the kids would be better taken care of with just me here.

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ffhjg

Ffhjb

@tiredmom, if you enjoy working have you thought about finding a weekend job?

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tiredmom

Julia BolesМама троих детей

@mommiesaremagical14 that's where I'm having the issue. I love working even at a crappy job. But I'm struggling keeping up with the kids during the day. I'm considering quiting because it'll be better for the kids if I'm not sleep deprived and cranky.

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ffhjg

Ffhjb

@tiredmom, that's really nice! 🙂same reason my husband is quitting his job. He doesn't want to have to give up his income, it actually stresses him out having to rely on me financially but he's doing it cause he's supporting me and my goal to finish school sooner rather than later

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cantdeletebutimgone

cantdeletebutimgoneМама дочки (3 года)

That is tough. I mean if you'd both be happier with you staying home again and he's happier working 2 jobs then why not? I'd like to go back to work myself. Even if it's just part time. I need it for 1, to GTFO of this house once in a while 2, to have some adult interaction 3, so Jocey can be around more kids and 4, I'd like to have my own money. Even if it's just a little bit.

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tiredmom

Julia BolesМама троих детей

@lorrainev he says for me to do whatever​ makes me happy.

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ffhjg

Ffhjb

@tiredmom, If you guys have already talked about it and he's fine with you leaving your job then no you're not horrible! If it was a mutual agreement you shouldn't feel bad at all!

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tiredmom

Julia BolesМама троих детей

@lorrainev my question is would I be a horrible person if I quit? It's just a McDonald's job. It sucks and it's full of drama. He can make more than me on any job he gets. He would just have to work 2 jobs to keep our bills paid if I quit. But he hates me working and would rather me stay home with the kids and him work 2 jobs.

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ffhjg

Ffhjb

Same here! Only I'm gone from 5pm-7am and my husband works from 8am-12pm so I have to watch my daughter in between that time. It's been very hard on my body but my husband is leaving his job soon so I'll be able to get some kind of sleep some days!

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