My son is set to arrive in two weeks from tomorrow & his dad just threatened to take me to court all because I said his girlfriend wasn't allowed to come to the hospital. What should I do/say?
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he can't tell you who can and can't be there. it's your decision and if he can't respect your decision than tell him to stay in the waiting room. you don't need that kind of stress in the delivery room. trust me. my daughters bio father was at the hospital and so was my boyfriend. I decided that neither of them could be in the delivery room bc I didn't want issues or it to be awkward. so go with your gut instinct.
Make sure you stand your ground at the hospital about that since you don't want her there... If for some reason you didn't, he sounds like the type that would take advantage of you and the situation.
Don't let him get to you. There is a VERY small chance he would end up even taking you to court, and even if he did, nothing will happen. It's very expensive to take someone to court, obtain a lawyer, and it takes time. You have nothing to worry about dear! He has no say in this one!
Why would she want to come?? He should have enough respect for you to not mix the two.
I didn't want ANYONE at the hospital because I was so exhausted and overwhelmed... Let alone someone like that.
@tatimjayne, he is stupid and he & she shouldn't be in the hospital at all, he doesnt have no right to be their
Technically he can bring whoever he wants but that doesn't mean she needs to be anywhere near you or your baby until you and baby are out of the hospital. that child is yours and his not hers, she doesn't have a right.
@toooldforthis81, I told him if she doesn't let him come without her that he can stay at home with her. I think what I'm going to do it give the people at the front desk a picture of both of them & tell them that he's allowed to be there if he shows up alone, if she shows up with him, neither of them are allowed there, & if she shows up after him, they both need to be escorted out.
tell him that his girlfriend wasn't there when he was getting you pregnant and doesn't need to be there at your birth! if she comes anyway call security!
@theirmommy_2, no he wasn't there at all. Granted, he lives 60 miles away from me & I didn't tell him I was having his baby until like 4 months ago because I didn't want anything from him. I've seen him twice throughly this pregnancy. The one time I drove an hour & a half just so he could feel his son kick & the other time, he showed up at my apartment with his girlfriend with a package of diapers & said that I can't say he didn't provide for us.
@tatimjayne, you should tell him to suck it and that if he can't come alone then he can't come at all... I kicked my son's biological donator out of the hospital because he was being an ass
where I'm having my daughter you can have a code name so if someone who doesn't know it or u don't want there says your actual name the hospital says they don't have anyone by that name... Ex: u could use peanut, if they say Ur real name instead of peanut they aren't allowed in.
I'd also look up the child custody laws in your state.. I know here in texas even if dad signs the birth certificate he has no legal right to the child until he files for legal paternity with the courts
she doesnt have any right to be there anyways. its not her baby that you are delivering.
Tell him to suck it up, and if she does show up at the hospital you can have her removed immediately, just tell the nurses, hell even get his ass thrown out if he wants to be childish. She isn't anyone important that has to be there, and if she stays in his life, she will be around plenty enough to see your child if you wish. She doesn't have to be there for that moment. Thats your moment.
Your son is coming out of YOU, it'll be YOUR room in the hospital, it's YOUR say - so. He can't do anything about it.
the courts can't make you allow anyone at the hospital.. and unless you and him are married he has no legal rights either until he files with the courts to put himself on child support and claim legal responsibility..
@shianaaa, that's what I said. I told him that I'm not comfortable with her being there even if she's just in the waiting room because she's not related to me & his response was "this is just as much my child as yours & I have every right to bring whoever I want to"
I agree with @shianaaa you're supposed to be comfortable while you are there even if that means you don't want her or anyone else there bc I know I wouldnt.
you should be able to say who you want there it is your baby
Honestly, HE doesn't even have to be there. There really is nothing he can say about who YOU want to have in your room or around YOUR baby in the hospital. You'll have sole custody unless he goes to court to even get visitation. Do what you need to to protect you and baby. and a father that doesn't go to 90% of the OB visits is already considered abandonment of the child.