Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
I give up. I'm done trying get him to follow thru with anything. he says well have a good night tonight and he's sleeping. he's been sleeping since 6. he always wants foot rubs and back rubs, and I stay up till 2AM doing his laundry, I wake up early to make his lunch and coffee. And I even wake him up to feed him so he doesn't go to bed hungry, I make sure he has everything for work, and I pretty much do everything. he spent his entire paycheck last week and I gave him the only 50$ I had to my name so he could make it to work till he gets paid again. did I get a thank you for any of those? no. I get him sleeping all day every second he's off work, and being an asshole to me when I miss something.
How would you guys feel if your husband drank every night between 6 and 12 beers with children in the house. But the only time he drinks is after 7. Sometimes if he works his night job on the beach doing the tractor he comes home at midnight and starts drinking 10 beers. He doesn't get up in the morning to help with kids and is passed out on couch???? Oh and instead of pissing in a toilet when he's drinking he pisses in and old formula bottle or Gatorade bottle then pours it down the sink. But he says he not a drunk he's a good father and provides for his family. Ok but then that makes him a functioning alcoholic right? And his excuse will be he works a lot that's why he will not get up and help in the morning when he has off. No it's because you have a hang over and we're up till 3 drinking. I just don't get it. And if I say anything he gets all defensive and asks why am I starting with him. Am I wrong here is this normal and ok for him to do? He thinks it is. Oh and he has been telling me since I've been with him (almost 6 years) that he is gonna cut back and take nights off. I'm still waiting to see that happen
Am I wrong to be upset? Last night I was running a fever, weak, tired, sore, my left boob feels like it got used as a punching bag. I asked my husband to call out of work today to help me with the kid so I could get some rest. He went to work. I texted him this morning. Part of me thinks I mean. The other part of me thinks I was fine for saying that because he should've stayed home with us.
I wish I could do this all day and night. He sleeps in his bassinet at night though with no problems. He hardly ever wakes me up, which is kind of a problem because it's so hard for me to get up to an alarm to wake him up to feed.
Anna David·
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We are in the same boat with the feeding thats for sure. And he already told me that he's not changing a poopy diaper
Anna David·
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And i sure as hell wont be the only one waking up in the middle of the night to feed her
Alyce Curtin·
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@cumminsbaby_98, see the thing is he tells me he wants to get up at night and feed the baby and take care of him and change diapers and stuff and he came right out and asked if I'd let him and I'm like well duh your are going to be his dad you kind of have to but I just know how my husband is... he'll say one thing but do another or nothing at all. If he won't even wake up at night when I try to wake him up for something... then how is he going to take care of a baby?
Anna David·
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Thats exactly how my fiancé is he will say wake me up if you need anything or if you're in alot of pain but when you try to wake him up he won't wake up or get all mad.. I just hope when my baby girl comes his dad instincts will kick in and wake up and help
Alyce Curtin·
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@cumminsbaby_98, omg haha mine says the same thing too, just wake me up for anything even if you just need help getting out of bed to pee (since its really easy for me to pull muscles in my sides right now) and I never ask him because usually if I just did what I needed myself it would get done quicker
Anna David·
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Exactly i sleep on the inside of the bed by the wall so if i need to pee I have to wake him up to move then regret it later
Alyce Curtin·
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@cumminsbaby_98, oh geez lol. I made sure when we rearranged our bedroom that I would be on the outside but my hubby bitches about it from time to time because he hates scootching down the bed lol
Anna David·
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Mine hates sleeping on the inside so i just said f it ill sleep on the inside
Alyce Curtin·
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@cumminsbaby_98, just can't win huh? Women are difficult but when it comes to difficult men it's just 10x worse lol