Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
Locked my husband out of our bedroom I’m so sick of him staying up till 5 am playin video games online then sleeping till he goes to work while I’m taking care of the kids and house! This is gettin so old and his excuse is he works 10 hrs a day so he deserves to relax... well I work 24/7!!!! I never get a dam break
Mommas who are separated from their childrens dad. If my sons father is to get our son every other Friday-Sunday, but then tells me halfway through the week he can't take him Friday until Saturday due to taking up an optional shift at work, can I legally tell him he either takes him Friday at his ordered time or doesn't get him? He's constantly cancelling whole weekends or taking our son a quarter of his ordered time. He also isn't following the meets on the order. Almost every Sunday he has him I get a message that he doesn't have a car so I have to get my son, or he tells me i have to run him out there. I'm already having cut hours at work and getting no child support from him since he's been continuously in and out of work.
How would you guys feel if your husband drank every night between 6 and 12 beers with children in the house. But the only time he drinks is after 7. Sometimes if he works his night job on the beach doing the tractor he comes home at midnight and starts drinking 10 beers. He doesn't get up in the morning to help with kids and is passed out on couch???? Oh and instead of pissing in a toilet when he's drinking he pisses in and old formula bottle or Gatorade bottle then pours it down the sink. But he says he not a drunk he's a good father and provides for his family. Ok but then that makes him a functioning alcoholic right? And his excuse will be he works a lot that's why he will not get up and help in the morning when he has off. No it's because you have a hang over and we're up till 3 drinking. I just don't get it. And if I say anything he gets all defensive and asks why am I starting with him. Am I wrong here is this normal and ok for him to do? He thinks it is. Oh and he has been telling me since I've been with him (almost 6 years) that he is gonna cut back and take nights off. I'm still waiting to see that happen
Got home around 11... washed lil man up and made him a bottle... asked my husband to get off his phone and help me put him to sleep... as soon as I did, my husband sat on the couch and fell right to sleep with Zach in his arms... I walked over to him and picked Zach up and he has to nerve to jump awake talking about I scared him because he thought he dropped Zach... this is why I’ve stopped asking him to hold him... he is irresponsible... I ended up setting up Zach’s stand up floor lamp, rearranging his room, making him a late night/early morning bottle, rocking him to sleep in his car seat and then moving him to his room all while my husband was knocked out in the living room.... I swear I feel like a single mother
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@butterflymommy, this is sad smh I hate seeing and hearing stuff like this but hopefully you'll find the strength to leave and do bad all by yourself ! Women are strong creatures !
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@butterflymommy, it sounds like you're trapped in your own prison he's abusive and he cheats ... So my question is why do you fear leaving this man?
chelsea·
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Okay. @jrose114 thanks. foreal. I never have anyone to talk to fr. And @phasion tell me about it. And he'd never offer me a foot rub. he won't even offer a belly rub. when I ask him to feel where my son is moving he says oh I've felt it before he does that all the time. even if it feels the same, idc if I ask you to feel it then feel it
deleted-user·
Omg sounds like you taking care of a child and he only does what you allow him to do stop doing all that for him because that's ridiculous . You're pregnant how about he offer the foot rubs , etc.
missing107user·
Lol I bet he is cussing him out!! If you ever need to talk just msg me k
chelsea·
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that makes sense. lol I used to wonder if he did that because he was happy to hear his daddy or was warning me to stay away. @jrose114
missing107user·
Yeah definitely a belly phase. Or else he is cussing him out cause the way he treating you.
chelsea·
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@jrose114, hopefully. he doesn't really like to move or anything unless he hears his daddy somewhere close by. So hopefully it's just a belly phase
missing107user·
Well If you stick it out try to look out for yourself cause it sounds like he won't. Spoil him like he is expecting you to but make sure you spoil yourself to. Start making it your life with him in it. You know? Luckily you will have your boy who will most likely be a mammas boy
deejones·
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@butterflymommy, that relationships isn't healthy for you or your baby. I know it's not easy but you have to do what you have to !
chelsea·
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@gamermommy2015,
chelsea·
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@jrose114, I feel like I can't really leave. I think I want to but my son. I don't want him to grow up without HIS dad. And he says he will fight me for custody, and being up my entire past to win. I don't have much fight in me left. he destroyed my fight
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All of this sounds like me and my ex husband. We don't have any kids together but he always treated me like that. We were together almost two years before his mom pushed us to get married. It got really bad then. I told him he needs to change he's ways with me or I'm done. And well he never changed and now I'm with my baby's daddy and he treats me like a queen. I've never been spoiled my whole life. So when he goes and buys me things I tell him no I don't need it yes I would like it but I don't need it. And he gets it anyways. Everyone needs a man like mine who puts he's girl first and talks things out when things get heated. I hope you can get him to do the same thing. And if not I hope you find one that will love you and the baby :)
missing107user·
I was in an abusive relationship before I met my husband and I was afraid to tell anyone and afraid to leave. One of my boyfriends friends at the time told my sister who then got my husband now to come and get me out of the relationship. Without him i probably would still be in that abusive relationship or worse. So please if it is this bad now and he is controlling find someone in your family that you trust to talk to and help you be strong and tell him your done.
chelsea·
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@jrose114, friends? I don't have ANY of those. I'm from Kentucky. I stayed with my aunt in Illinois while passing to move to Montana and met him and stayed in Illinois. people don't like me. I've never been one to deal with fake friends. And so I chose to keep my circle to me. people around here are fake and I just think it's better that they stay away, that and he likes to cheat. So I don't need other girls hanging around with me. ya know? I'm fine hanging with him and his guys bc I won't cheat. But not him
chelsea·
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@jrose114, everyone thinks I'm a mean person but to him I can't be like ugh. I try and it gets me no where. he always wants to say it's over when we argue but when I say it he's like really? after all we've been thru? like what? And I even gave him my phone to use when he's at work because he broke his, and now he thinks he owns It, he gives the number to everyone and is currently hiding my own Damn phone from me somewhere. I'm so close to leaving, I just don't know if I can do it. @deejones
missing107user·
You are a gorgeous girl and any guy would be crazy not to treat you right. Please don't settle with him because you think you have to . Does he restrict you from having friends?
missing107user·
Yeah you have to put you and the baby first screw him. Will your family be by your side if you left him. ? Is it a possibility or are you scared to leave?
missing107user·
I know it's hard especially when you love him and now your having a baby together but it won't get any better if you don't put a stop to it. Trust me. It won't and it gets exhausting. I love my husband more than anything but the way he treats me sometimes is uncalled for and when he does it he hears it from me It's not right
chelsea·
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funny thing is we haven't even been together for a year. we got pregnant when we were just messing around and he only started being with me bc my family pressured him behind my back. like you can't just use someone like that. he claims the love is real now but how do I know that ya know? @jrose114
deejones·
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@butterflymommy, stop doing all that stuff for him. If he starts being mean you be worse.
missing107user·
For example he is waiving his hand in my face to rub it lol my problem is I spoiled him when we first started dating now he expects it. But we have been together for 7 years
chelsea·
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@jrose114, I tell him when I'm hurting and when I'm tired and everything and he just tells me I complain too much. And when I get contractions he laughs at me like it's funny.
missing107user·
I think you just explained my husband! I swear I don't feel appreciated sometimes. But what is helping is me speaking up. I tell him when I'm tired and just can't do it Or if he doesn't like it then do it himself. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't depending on his mood. I told he has over prepared me for being a mom. That this baby might be our first baby but he is one big baby that I take care of daily lol. I don't know if you do but it's good to speak up and let him know your tired or that you don't feel good.
chelsea·
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I've tried being a total drag and a mean ads but then he starts being one too. like I can't get a break here. I don't sleep bc if I do he will hit me and kick me in his sleep. he never does any of those things for me. he doesn't even care. he doesn't touch me ever. And I'm starting to feel completely used. @mrsvelasquez
Johana·
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sounds like you need to stop so nice to him. Sorry to say, but, being a bitch pays off.