I need advice... So I was friends with this girl for 9 almost 10 years now and she has always put her boyfriends first…

she probably just wants a gift.. i wouldnt go.. but im petty as hell! you get tired of it..the bac and forth i lost a friend of 10 year..and i honestly feel so much better.

I lost my best friend of 7 years...we grew apart an it still bothers me, if she invited me to something I wouldn't go, it's been over a YEAR since we've talked, I always fear I'll see her somewhere and it will just be super fucking awkward but it's your choice do what you think is best for you and your life...if you feel your friendship is salvageable go if you feel it's over let it be over. go with your gut girl

No no no. I have dealed with her ditching me and putting me (her supposed to be best friend) off to the side for her stupid boyfriend. Every time I needed her! That isn't a friendship... And no she won't spend time with me there, at my own baby shower I had to switch from guest to guest to keep everyone happy.

I thought it was stronger but she is never here for me when I need her.... I've called her crying and she told me I couldn't come over because her boyfriend was there. I have always put her first and made her a priority when something was wrong. I've tried so hard to keep our friendship going and she doesn't. And yeah she came to mine, and I feel like I should go to hers but the thing is. She hasn't even talked to me in 4 months... She's ignored my texts and phone calls and when I was pregnant she didn't talk to me for 6-7 months.... I'm a mom now and I don't have the energy to argue and fight with her.

I would go. if you still care about her then show her. I know you're mad at her for ditching all the time, I'm the same way with my cousin right now, but maybe it's a way for you to spend a little bit of time with her. after that just sit and wait for her to come to you.

I say go but limit the gift to something within your budget.

You have to look at the bigger picture is your overall friendship stronger then the recent issues you had ? She wants you to be at a huge life event that she's having bc maybe she feels like your important to her still and wants to celebrate with you . Did she attend your baby shower ? But if you feel like your friendship is truly over with and you can't see your self getting past what y'all have been going through then it's totally pointless to go and support her when you have no desire too . A friendship of ten years is more like a childhood friendship at my baby shower I invited my childhood besties and they came and although I don't spend every day with them any more I was sooo happy to have them there with me .