Just a vent. I'm 18, I don't talk to my mom because exactly one year today, I was kicked out of her house by her boyfriend. we always got into fights, he said he didn't want me in his house (it's under his name and he paid most of the rent) he would make jokes of me being fat, make fun of my brother for being gay so I would stand up for us because my mom wouldn't. I parked on the public parking alongside a curb in front of our house and he got mad told me to move it cause it was his parking, I said no because it's public parking. that's why I got kicked out. my mom did nothing to help me, but take his side. He was 30 but he acted like a damn kid. He called her at work to tell her and she texted me to move my car. I was 17, I lived in my car for a few days until I found something. I stopped talking to her because I despise her for choosing him over her kids. I haven't talked to her since. My grandparents (her parents) were forcing me to give her another shot. I did, her boyfriend and I got into another fight and she chose his side. That was in April. I gave up. Now that I'm having a baby, she thinks she's gonna be a grandma but my son will not have contact with her. But my grandma is trying to force me to let her help with the baby shower and my grandpa is trying to force me to let her see the baby. I hate it because 18 years old and I don't need her. I graduated without her, I got multiple jobs without her, I fed myself without her. I hate when they try to force me into letting the baby see her. He's not going to.
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My mother choose my step dad over her own flesh when I was young. Our relationship isn't great. She doesn't come by to see my daughter and that's her fault. I've thought about shutting my baby out from her but in reality I'm only hurting my baby. they need family and if your mom decides to be part of your baby's life then be the grown up your child needs you to be. It's no longer about you and your mom. it's a hard pill to swallow but it avoids drama if you just let it flow. at the end of the day you will do right by your baby. good luck honey.
Follow your gut instinct. My sister (half) did the same with her father but down the road once she had kids she wanted to make sure they were 1st safe, but 2nd did know their grandpa to some extent. You'll know what decisions to make now and down the road if you listen to your heart. ♥️♥️
wow. that sounds like my child hood.@aidensmommy, thats how my mom was too. i so feel you but my mom got clean and we have a great relationship now. shes my best friend. she got to be in the delivery room for every one of my children. i love her so much. so yes it does get better when she is ready to pull her head out of that mans ass she lives with.
well if that's how you feel then nobody can change that!! Just know that you have to live with the decisions you make, just make sure you won't regret what you say!! You know better than anybody what's best for your baby so do what you feel is best (: @aidensmommy but trust me I understand and it took me a long time to forgive but people make mistakes, even we as mothers will make mistakes.
yea that's what I'm doing @aidensmommy
I hope things go well
@mommys3angels, thanks, I hope it does get better. @vanessasmommy yeah I don't even want her to know what room I'm in. I don't want her visiting us in the hospital. @marie_xo when my brothers and I were little, she would be out doing drugs, fucking random guys. I was 3 changing my little brothers diapers cause she was never home and the babysitter she would leave us with would be drunk and passed out on the couch, if I didn't feed us, we wouldn't get fed. I was only 3-4 years old. when I was 6 I went with my grandma, she raised me my whole life, when my brothers were 7 & 6, they went into the foster system because they were caught walking around town while she was doing drugs or under another man. my brothers were raped and beaten in there. she barely got us back when I was 11, and they were 9 & 8. then she let her boyfriend make fun of our weight and make fun of my brother for being gay. if she died tomorrow, I wouldn't even go to the funeral. she didn't raised me. my grandma did.
My mom did the same to me, been on my own since I was 14 living with different people. But I truly forgive my mom because regardless I thank her for the times that she was there for me. & you only get one mom, if she was to die tomorrow it would kill me to know that I didn't speak to her today!! So just let go of your grudges and let her be there for your baby. if she wants to. That's the right thing to do
I can totally relate to you my mother did the same thing to me but instead of a boyfriend it was her girlfriend
and now that I'm getting induce Monday she thinks that she can come
nope we haven't talked since I was 4-5 months pregnant
it's hard girl but sometimes you have to let people go sometimes even family
@aidensmommy
@aidensmommy, she has no right to see your baby. your his mother. keep standing up for yourself. i no its hard. my mom choose men over me my hole life so i no what it feels like. her ex husband kicked me and my three month old son out in 07. her own grandson. trust me it does get better. im here if you need to talk
its all up to you if u Dont want her to see him then so be it they better deal with it
you ever need someone to vent I got you!@aidensmommy
@angelamarie, thanks girl. I'm trying. @blessing2016 I thought so too.
you do you girl! its YOUR baby don't let anyone let you do anything you don't want! props to you for being strong and keeping it together!👊
@Anayeli, thanks. She was never a mom to me. So it's not going to hurt the baby because he's going to have my grandparents and my boyfriends parents.