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The father of my son and me are NOT together, we have a rocky relationship although he has gone to all of my…

The father of my son and me are NOT together, we have a rocky relationship although he has gone to all of my appointments and says he is going to be their for our son. I really feel like giving our son his last name is a the right thing but none of my family agrees they think I need to give him mine. I have discussed this with my son's father and he wants him to have his but ultimately said it was my decision and wouldn't mind either way.

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aryanasmommy

Shayna Trout

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My family is the same way, but me & my daughters father are together. They said if I don't have his last name then neither should my child. But in the end, it really is your choice. You could always give your child your last name at first & if he does stick around you can always put his name on the birth certificate. If he doesn't end up sticking around (not saying he won't) then your baby doesn't have to grow up with the last name of a man he doesn't know.

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nica26

Kennica L

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If he is there for the baby not just physically, but financially, why not? If that man has made a commitment (and shown you) that he will be there for his child, there is no reason to take that away from him by not giving his son his last name just because you all aren't together.... Yes I do agree it is ultimately up to you. Just make sure you make your decision not based on your feelings or your family's opinion of the situation.

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shelly

Мама троих детей

You have to do what's right for you and the baby. I gave my first born my last name. His father was a horrible person and my baby didn't deserve to carry a name for someone that I wouldn't allow around him for my son's safety. Think long term if you feel that he will be there and is worthy of your child then he's I can say it would be good. But if you think he may just bail then maybe not because I always feared giving my child his last name and something happen and regretting it. Names can always be changed. With my daughters dad we were back and forth I gave her my last name. We are engaged now and expecting twins. My daughter who is 7 loves her dad but is very happy I gave her my last name. The biggest thing is me and my family were there from day one and always will be no matter what. It's a huge load for a child to carry a last name for an absent person. My fiance has the last name of his biological father never met him and its hard for him.

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jlspoores

Jennifer spoores

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you could always give the baby both last names just use a hyphen

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ftm_2016

lena

@jlspoores, i thought about that but that would make his name WAY to long!

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jlspoores

Jennifer spoores

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I'm not married to my child's father but we are together and the baby is getting his last name and even with just his last name it's name is going to be long it's father's last name is Von Kiedroeski

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gabbator95

gabriella

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coming from somebody who has a hyphened last name, dont do it, cause its such a pain in the ass cause when i go to doctor appointments or pick up meds or go the hospital i can never remember what last name they have cause they dont use both, they either use one or the other

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