Okay guys.
My biggest issue seems to be letting go. I hold onto a very bad past that happened between my current significant and I. I don't know why but every time we fight or argue, I resort back to the past and everything he's done. It's not healthy. And I know I'm wrong in doing it. But I still do. Any ideas on how to just let it all go?
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Well, same thing with me. But my husband brings up my past mistakes when he gets angry. It was a complicated situation, but I cheated three years ago. Before living together, being married or having babies. I was young and it was a mistake. I've apologized a million times. But I honestly never think about it until he brings it up. So I think you should drop it and leave the past alone. It can only open old wounds.
Who would you be without your sad story about the past?
@gabriellamomof3 I've been through a similar situation with my SO, I bring up the past A LOT! But I've learned that bringing up the past just causes even bigger problems and that you can't live in the past you can only live for now and what the future holds... My best advice would be to try to let it go, what helped me was knowing that I can't change anything and I confronted him one night on all the bs from the past and asked for answers on why he did what he did it really helped with me moving on... I hope it helps!!
If the situation is as bad as for you to bring it up all the time.. keep doing it, kuz somethings arent forgiven until it has been and then you wont have to bring it up anymorr