Hubby got a new phone a few days ago. I was playing on it and seen where he had been looking at porn. I am very upset. I used to not care, but we have maybe had sex 4 times in 6 months. Mainly because I don't want to with this pregnancy. I don't know how to approach him about it. I don't want to start a fight because it's really not that big of a deal. (I understand for some women it is.) These damn hormones have me all sorts of crazy.
I used to want to a few weeks ago but these last few weeks I don't even feel like it, it always ends up hurting and my belly gets in the way so it's just difficult but I've always been the type to get jealous when my SO watches porn. Past relationships I didn't really care. This one, I'm happy and I actually love the guy I'm with I mess with him all the time about porn then still end up irritated (he doesn't watch it I just irritate myself lol) I used to watch it all the time I just don't want him looking at other chicks 😂
@missyowl92, he told me today to take an extra week on maternity leave because once I'm cleared to have sex again, its going to take that long to recover from him. lmao!
I wouldn't mind if my hubby watched porn instead of always trying with me lol. I'm not in the mood very often, rarely am actually, and sometimes he bugs about it and I get so annoyed lol.
I'm glad I'm not the only one! We have a kid free weekend planned soon. Maybe I can really, really try to make it up to him lol
I'd much rather see porn on my man's phone than messages or pictures from another woman. But I totally get where you're coming from. We haven't had sex in a while because it freaks him out knowing his daughter is right there. Which I get. But some days when I want to have sex and he says no it makes me feel gross. Like the reason is because I gained weight and I have stretch marks. Even though I know it isn't. It's my hormones.
My first pregnancy, we had sex maybe twice at the very end, just to help induce labor lol. I would try to get into the mood and just couldn't which wasn't normal for me so I felt horrible but he was very supportive and I just promised to make it up to him afterwards. Which I did :) Sorry it's different for you this time but it is completely normal as a pregnancy symptom so don't beat yourself up. You're doing lots of hard work, growing a baby for him (and you)! I'm sure he understands :)
@mommabird, you are probably right. I feel horrible our sex life has gone down the drain. I have tried to get on the mood and it just don't happen. this is my 5th kid and I have never experienced this before.
ohhs i was just confused about the post lol you said u were very upset, then said it wasn't that big of a deal to you. sounds like hormones. it'll be okay
Maybe you feel like he's only doing it because you aren't being intimate with him and that makes you feel guilty? If that's the case, make sure you aren't just taking it out on him and you shouldn't feel guilty. Hormones are to blame, which you can't control. At least he's handling it in a healthy way, instead of cheating or getting mad at you.
I'd be happy its porn and not a dating site!!! All men watch porn my boyfriend just starts jerking off in front of me lolol hormones are a bitch.
because I'm pregnant lol. it's happened before a few years ago and it didn't even bother me. I think it's just my hormones
Yeah it's not like he doesn't want sex , it's you that doesn't want it. Which is perfectly normal btw
@ktwins188, its not that simple. he would rather go without than me force myself to. he does have respect for my feelings