I really need to vent I really don't know what to do so as you might know I went to the hospital on Thursday to see why I was bleeding and having contractions well I found out I have an std please don't judge me I thought I was happily married we have been together for 8 years we have 3 boys and 1 on the wAy my question is what would you guys do in my situation I have my house but I don't work and well no one will hire me being preggo please help me I feel so alone I can't talk to anyone because I'm beyond embarrassed ......😞😕😢🙁
When the time comes leave his ass where he stands .... Take him to the bank get alimony and child support ... Do what you need to and be prepared even if that means not telling him your plans until our ready to leave .... Im so sorry sweetie he put you and your child's life in jeopardy and with no regard. That's awful. We are hear for you .... Keep your head up ❤️❤️
Right there is millions that are doing it right now and one day a man will take u under is wing with yer children if a man loves u and wants u he takes the whole package
Yes he does but honestly I don't think it will work in so sick of being played and honestly I would rather be by my self this is not a joke it's my life my body I'm lucky I didn't get hiv or something crazy that has no treatment after baby is born there will be a new me and if that means I'll be a single mom of 4 so be it @jess335 @bets @arijane316
You're right but you got it because he made the choice to sleep around on you. I would punch him in the face. at the very least I'd back hand him a couple times. if he was sorry he wouldn't have done it in the first place. I'd make his ass sleep on the couch.
Yes Hun but I'm a married women not a whore that gets stds like really I'm so pist honestly I want to punch him in the face!
He has a whole lot of making up to do to fix this. who cares if it was a year ago, to you its like it just happened yesterday. Actions speak louder than words.
He said that he feels like trash and that he knows I don't deserve this and that he's beyond sorry blah blah that's all I hear @bets
you shouldn't feel gross, you're not the one who did it. this is his fault. but you do have every right to feel betrayed because that's exactly what he did. he betrayed your trust and your vows to each other and he needs to answer for it
Thank you girls and yes I was hurt before Hun I was getting beat up by my ex and he said he would never do anything and look he's a poor excuse for a man I honestly thank god for not sending me a little girl like I wanted I don't want any girl to go through all of this it's the worst feeling ever @hennamama @jess335
@miranda4, come live with me, screw him 😒😒 I can't believe he would do that to you. My SO all he did was get drunk one night and bought a girl a rose and got her number and to me that was the end of the world I cannot imagine him sleeping with someone. idk what I would do. Specially him giving you an STD. it's such a hard decision to make, what did he tell you about it? besides admitting to it. And then putting you and your baby at risk for his nasty act. It disgusts me too.
Yes I know I need to stay calm for my baby he's my little miracle boy with all of the odds against him he's sticking to me no matter what my kids are my world and that's all that matters at this point I honestly feel so betrayed and gross but I really appreciate every single one of you @arijane316 @jassybby6991 @emeliaday @lil_bigmama @rebcamdot @swtlilangl
If it was a year ago how are u now just finding out and u know he could be lying still i hope not but I wouldn't trust him for a very long time matter of fact i do not trust no man to the fullest cuz exactly of things like this and it has happened to me and yes i was mad sad and embarrassed but now that i am grown I don't get embarrassed cuz ik its not my fault
I'm sorry to hear that you're in this situation. Just know that's it not your fault, and stay clear of him. He should still be responsible in providing for your financial needs and you have us ladies for emotional support if need be.
well for now just take it easy, get your treatment and talk things with your husband, after all he is someone you're gonna need communication with. @miranda4
@miranda4, I'm sure you're a roller coaster of emotions right now. I can empathize having been cheated on, but without the other complications you are facing. You don't have to make a decision now. Right now focus on yours and you baby's health and allow yourself to have every emotion you feel. Focus on loving your boys and keeping a sense of normalcy for them. If you ever want to talk, feel free to message me too. You're in my prayers!
It's caused by a parasite trich is it's short name @mercy475 I have no respect for him at all @emeliaday I know my poor baby is feeling me being sad and my other boys aswell they are beyond worried I just don't know what to do @jassybby6991
actually to be honest anyone who cheats on their wife isn't a man at all
is there any way you can get fiancial help until you can support yourself? I know leaving and having kids would be hard but you don't need that kind of man in your life.
My husband cheated about 3 months ago. It took a lot of time for me to look at him the same and I still think about it sometimes. But he has shown me it isn't going to happen again and I still love him so for the sake of my family I forgave him and am giving us another chance. But if I ever have another doubt or it happens again it's over and he knows that.
I really don't know what to do girls I can't just walk away I don't work it's almost Christmas and I don't want my boys to suffer I'm due in March but honestly if I could I would just leave that's how disgusted I am of him I honestly wish this was just a dream @rebcamdot @lil_bigmama @arijane316
I'm sorry you're going through this but honestly no one can decide what you do from here on but yourself. if you feel like you can forgive him try and talk things through, its definitely not your fault so don't feel bad one bit. this is something HE did. and I know this is easier said than done but try and relax mama your baby can feel Everything remember that! and your baby doesn't deserve this pain because of a mistake his father did. hope things get better hun! @miranda4
I would lose all respect and trust. He put your baby at risk by stepping out and being unsafe. If it were me he would be gone immediately.
I'm the kind of person, now, that if you cheated on me once, I'm done and you can go. I don't play those games. I've put up with it too many times that I don't have time for that shit anymore
I didn't have any symptoms until I got preggo but I thought it was just because of my uti that I was bleeding but nop
Well I was never tested for a std before just like AIDS and stuff like that but they said that normal routine test would not show this kind of std I know I can't even look at him he grosses me out so bad like what kind of rounchy girls are you sleeping with ugh I get sick to my stomach even thinking about it @arijane316 @hennamama @tayek
@miranda4, There's definitely no excuse for what he did and I hope for your sake he isn't continuing. I have a friend whose husband cheated and contracted an STD and passed it to her. Neither of them had any outbreaks and weren't diagnosed for almost a year until she had an outbreak and had to get treatment. They didn't have any children and divorced. I know for me that would be what I'd be wondering the most, was this an isolated incident or ongoing? Can you work through this for the sake of your family? But most importantly you need to focus on you and taking care of what you need right now. This is no way a reflection of you and you should not allow yourself to be embarrassed or ashamed!
I hate it 4 yall don't let this make u think any less about ur self he just has 2 get his stuff 2gether & show u he's not going 2 do it again
@miranda4, don't you dare feel gross or dirty. YOU didn't do anything but what any wife or girlfriend does. HE did something dirty and gross.
I know this can happen to anyone but how could you just sleep with someone just like that I would never do that
True @arijane316 they don't have a dormant stage. He is still playing around.
Yes they told me it could put me in pre term labor and my baby can be smaller in size I'm getting treatment now and so is he I'm just so disgusted how could he sleep with someone just because he was drunk I feel so dirty and gross @tayek @lil_bigmama @rebcamdot @mamix3
if he slept with someone a year ago and you just found out that he gave you an std, he's lying still. it wouldn't take a year to show up
Nothing to be embarrassed about. You get the treatment that you need to make sure you and the baby are healthy. He should be treated as well obviously and only you can evaluate where your relationship is and how you proceed. That type of betrayal is not easy and in your condition, remember to take time for yourself.
Do you still want to be with him? every woman is different, but u also have to think about the situation if u walk away now.. u won't need him forever. sounds petty but if It was me I'd be in same boat as u. I can't get hired atm..
@miranda4, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Even though it was a while ago, its new for you. How are you feeling about it so far? You have nothing to be embarrassed about, you should definitely talk to him and talk to someone to help you work this out
if u can get over it try 2 work things out ik it well b hard but u do have a family together & it was a year ago
It's definitely time to have a talk with him. I don't think you need to be ashamed. You didn't do anything wrong. But hubby needs to answer for this. It could have affected the baby!!!
Have u asked him.. best way to get answers is not to freak out on men.. As bad as we wanna.. that's a hard situation to answer too..
Thank you girls I really appreciate it @foreveryoung247 @jess335