Cristal Miranda
miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

I really need to vent I really don't know what to do so as you might know I went to the hospital on Thursday to see why I was bleeding and having contractions well I found out I have an std please don't judge me I thought I was happily married we have been together for 8 years we have 3 boys and 1 on the wAy my question is what would you guys do in my situation I have my house but I don't work and well no one will hire me being preggo please help me I feel so alone I can't talk to anyone because I'm beyond embarrassed ......😞😕😢🙁

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

Thank you girls I really appreciate it @foreveryoung247 @jess335

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foreveryoung247
Justina·Мама троих детей

When the time comes leave his ass where he stands .... Take him to the bank get alimony and child support ... Do what you need to and be prepared even if that means not telling him your plans until our ready to leave .... Im so sorry sweetie he put you and your child's life in jeopardy and with no regard. That's awful. We are hear for you .... Keep your head up ❤️❤️

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foreveryoung247
Justina·Мама троих детей

I would do what you have to for now and

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jess335

Right there is millions that are doing it right now and one day a man will take u under is wing with yer children if a man loves u and wants u he takes the whole package

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

Yes he does but honestly I don't think it will work in so sick of being played and honestly I would rather be by my self this is not a joke it's my life my body I'm lucky I didn't get hiv or something crazy that has no treatment after baby is born there will be a new me and if that means I'll be a single mom of 4 so be it @jess335 @bets @arijane316

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jess335

I would when that happen to me i made him feel the way i did fuck that

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arijane316
pattalee·Мама двоих (9 лет, 11 лет)

You're right but you got it because he made the choice to sleep around on you. I would punch him in the face. at the very least I'd back hand him a couple times. if he was sorry he wouldn't have done it in the first place. I'd make his ass sleep on the couch.

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

@arijane316,

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

Yes Hun but I'm a married women not a whore that gets stds like really I'm so pist honestly I want to punch him in the face!

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bets
Bets 💛·Мама двоих (9 лет, 16 лет)

He has a whole lot of making up to do to fix this. who cares if it was a year ago, to you its like it just happened yesterday. Actions speak louder than words.

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

He said that he feels like trash and that he knows I don't deserve this and that he's beyond sorry blah blah that's all I hear @bets

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arijane316
pattalee·Мама двоих (9 лет, 11 лет)

you shouldn't feel gross, you're not the one who did it. this is his fault. but you do have every right to feel betrayed because that's exactly what he did. he betrayed your trust and your vows to each other and he needs to answer for it

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

Thank you girls and yes I was hurt before Hun I was getting beat up by my ex and he said he would never do anything and look he's a poor excuse for a man I honestly thank god for not sending me a little girl like I wanted I don't want any girl to go through all of this it's the worst feeling ever @hennamama @jess335

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bets
Bets 💛·Мама двоих (9 лет, 16 лет)

message me if you need to talk or anything babe :/

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bets
Bets 💛·Мама двоих (9 лет, 16 лет)

@miranda4, come live with me, screw him 😒😒 I can't believe he would do that to you. My SO all he did was get drunk one night and bought a girl a rose and got her number and to me that was the end of the world I cannot imagine him sleeping with someone. idk what I would do. Specially him giving you an STD. it's such a hard decision to make, what did he tell you about it? besides admitting to it. And then putting you and your baby at risk for his nasty act. It disgusts me too.

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

Yes I know I need to stay calm for my baby he's my little miracle boy with all of the odds against him he's sticking to me no matter what my kids are my world and that's all that matters at this point I honestly feel so betrayed and gross but I really appreciate every single one of you @arijane316 @jassybby6991 @emeliaday @lil_bigmama @rebcamdot @swtlilangl

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jess335

If it was a year ago how are u now just finding out and u know he could be lying still i hope not but I wouldn't trust him for a very long time matter of fact i do not trust no man to the fullest cuz exactly of things like this and it has happened to me and yes i was mad sad and embarrassed but now that i am grown I don't get embarrassed cuz ik its not my fault

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hennamama
Jessica Velilla·Мама двоих (9 лет, 18 лет)

I'm sorry to hear that you're in this situation. Just know that's it not your fault, and stay clear of him. He should still be responsible in providing for your financial needs and you have us ladies for emotional support if need be.

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jassybby6991
jassybby6991·Мама сына (9 лет)

well for now just take it easy, get your treatment and talk things with your husband, after all he is someone you're gonna need communication with. @miranda4

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missing110user

@miranda4, I'm sure you're a roller coaster of emotions right now. I can empathize having been cheated on, but without the other complications you are facing. You don't have to make a decision now. Right now focus on yours and you baby's health and allow yourself to have every emotion you feel. Focus on loving your boys and keeping a sense of normalcy for them. If you ever want to talk, feel free to message me too. You're in my prayers!

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

It's caused by a parasite trich is it's short name @mercy475 I have no respect for him at all @emeliaday I know my poor baby is feeling me being sad and my other boys aswell they are beyond worried I just don't know what to do @jassybby6991

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arijane316
pattalee·Мама двоих (9 лет, 11 лет)

actually to be honest anyone who cheats on their wife isn't a man at all

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arijane316
pattalee·Мама двоих (9 лет, 11 лет)

is there any way you can get fiancial help until you can support yourself? I know leaving and having kids would be hard but you don't need that kind of man in your life.

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swtlilangl
Amanda Scott·Мама троих детей

My husband cheated about 3 months ago. It took a lot of time for me to look at him the same and I still think about it sometimes. But he has shown me it isn't going to happen again and I still love him so for the sake of my family I forgave him and am giving us another chance. But if I ever have another doubt or it happens again it's over and he knows that.

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

I really don't know what to do girls I can't just walk away I don't work it's almost Christmas and I don't want my boys to suffer I'm due in March but honestly if I could I would just leave that's how disgusted I am of him I honestly wish this was just a dream @rebcamdot @lil_bigmama @arijane316

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jassybby6991
jassybby6991·Мама сына (9 лет)

I'm sorry you're going through this but honestly no one can decide what you do from here on but yourself. if you feel like you can forgive him try and talk things through, its definitely not your fault so don't feel bad one bit. this is something HE did. and I know this is easier said than done but try and relax mama your baby can feel Everything remember that! and your baby doesn't deserve this pain because of a mistake his father did. hope things get better hun! @miranda4

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mercy475
mercedes·Мама сына (9 лет)

if you don't mind me asking, what kind of std?

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emeliaday
Emily·Мама сына (9 лет)

I would lose all respect and trust. He put your baby at risk by stepping out and being unsafe. If it were me he would be gone immediately.

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jess335

Girl txt me i been thru exactly what u r going thru now

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arijane316
pattalee·Мама двоих (9 лет, 11 лет)

I'm the kind of person, now, that if you cheated on me once, I'm done and you can go. I don't play those games. I've put up with it too many times that I don't have time for that shit anymore

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

I didn't have any symptoms until I got preggo but I thought it was just because of my uti that I was bleeding but nop

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

Well I was never tested for a std before just like AIDS and stuff like that but they said that normal routine test would not show this kind of std I know I can't even look at him he grosses me out so bad like what kind of rounchy girls are you sleeping with ugh I get sick to my stomach even thinking about it @arijane316 @hennamama @tayek

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missing110user

@miranda4, There's definitely no excuse for what he did and I hope for your sake he isn't continuing. I have a friend whose husband cheated and contracted an STD and passed it to her. Neither of them had any outbreaks and weren't diagnosed for almost a year until she had an outbreak and had to get treatment. They didn't have any children and divorced. I know for me that would be what I'd be wondering the most, was this an isolated incident or ongoing? Can you work through this for the sake of your family? But most importantly you need to focus on you and taking care of what you need right now. This is no way a reflection of you and you should not allow yourself to be embarrassed or ashamed!

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lil_bigmama
lil_bigmama·Мама двоих (9 лет, 13 лет)

I hate it 4 yall don't let this make u think any less about ur self he just has 2 get his stuff 2gether & show u he's not going 2 do it again

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arijane316
pattalee·Мама двоих (9 лет, 11 лет)

I wouldn't even be able to look at him I'd be so disgusted.

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missing225user
missing225user·Мама двоих (9 лет, 19 лет)

@miranda4, don't you dare feel gross or dirty. YOU didn't do anything but what any wife or girlfriend does. HE did something dirty and gross.

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

I know this can happen to anyone but how could you just sleep with someone just like that I would never do that

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missing225user
missing225user·Мама двоих (9 лет, 19 лет)

True @arijane316 they don't have a dormant stage. He is still playing around.

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

Yes they told me it could put me in pre term labor and my baby can be smaller in size I'm getting treatment now and so is he I'm just so disgusted how could he sleep with someone just because he was drunk I feel so dirty and gross @tayek @lil_bigmama @rebcamdot @mamix3

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arijane316
pattalee·Мама двоих (9 лет, 11 лет)

if he slept with someone a year ago and you just found out that he gave you an std, he's lying still. it wouldn't take a year to show up

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hennamama
Jessica Velilla·Мама двоих (9 лет, 18 лет)

Nothing to be embarrassed about. You get the treatment that you need to make sure you and the baby are healthy. He should be treated as well obviously and only you can evaluate where your relationship is and how you proceed. That type of betrayal is not easy and in your condition, remember to take time for yourself.

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mamix3
Chell·Мама троих детей

Do you still want to be with him? every woman is different, but u also have to think about the situation if u walk away now.. u won't need him forever. sounds petty but if It was me I'd be in same boat as u. I can't get hired atm..

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missing110user

@miranda4, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Even though it was a while ago, its new for you. How are you feeling about it so far? You have nothing to be embarrassed about, you should definitely talk to him and talk to someone to help you work this out

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lil_bigmama
lil_bigmama·Мама двоих (9 лет, 13 лет)

if u can get over it try 2 work things out ik it well b hard but u do have a family together & it was a year ago

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missing225user
missing225user·Мама двоих (9 лет, 19 лет)

It's definitely time to have a talk with him. I don't think you need to be ashamed. You didn't do anything wrong. But hubby needs to answer for this. It could have affected the baby!!!

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

Yes I did and he admitted to it @mamix3 @ilovebabyjosiah

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mamix3
Chell·Мама троих детей

Have u asked him.. best way to get answers is not to freak out on men.. As bad as we wanna.. that's a hard situation to answer too..

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ilovebabyjosiah
Celeste·Мама сына (9 лет)

Your husband gave you an std ? Confront him about it .

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miranda4
Cristal Miranda·Мама четверых детей

He admitted last night that he got drunk one night when he was working out of town and had sex with some girl like really this was like a year ago

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