How to Cope with a Miscarriage and Seek Answers?

Omg 25 weeks?? that's so terrible. I'm sorry. Im a little happier that I didn't have to see it with no heartbeat or anything and it was passed naturally on its own.. That would've made it a little too real for me. Honestly the opinions and wording of some doctors piss me off!!! I understand everybody makes mistakes but some of them are f*cking idiots lmao just speaking of my last ob who refused to even give me an ultrasound or blood test when that would've shown my baby at approx 4 or 5 weeks, so nothing to see but it would've gave me reassurance!! She just told me I was not pregnant bc her urine test was negative

@jordangastgaber, it feels great and scary all at the same time. My ex husband and I are no longer together ( he is the father to both my rainbow babies). The first time I was 25 weeks, I passed the baby at home so when I got to the hospital there was nothing to really test. They tested the placenta but didn't find any actual reasoning. I was told it can be because I have a incompetent cervix (lies)... The second time I was 12 weeks and I didn't really get any explanation other than "miscarriages are Gods way of telling you you're not ready to be a mom" (yes a Dr told me that tsk)... But with this baby I'm so cautious and I just pray everyday. My last sono everything was good so it's just waiting and praying.

@trezelle, and I'm always here for you to talk as well, I'd love to hear more about how you finally fell pregnant! Was it just basically the mix of dna causing the miscarriage?

Thank you, this was so nice to read.. I'm so glad it finally worked out for you and you're going through a healthy pregnancy :) and thank you for that advise I definitely will because I'm not too sure what it could be at this point. There was nothing there when they did my scan so they said it could've been an extremely early miscarriage where the pregnancy tissue left the uterus naturally when i had spotting(which I thought could've been breakthrough bleeding) or it was a chemical but I thought a chemical lasted a short amount of time, not even enough time for the doctor to confirm so I won't know until I go back!

I'm commenting on your status again but seriously reading this raised such horrible memories and emotions in me! I cannot begin to explain to you how awful I feel that you had to experience that. I am always here to talk if you need me. When you do go to your Dr you should request a genetic test for you and your partner. My Dr told me that I probably miscarried both times because my ex's DNA and mine was probably not a match... Also ask them to check your cervix for possible incompetent cervix. I'm not a doctor or a medical person but those were the two things I was told could be a possibility. Are you having a D&C?

@lajo, not sure why the tag did not work! And @jamies I know I'm more torn up about not knowing the cause of what is wrong.. Thank you so much

@iajo, thank you I will definitely mention that to my doctor and have her run plenty of tests!!! We're thinking its a hormone imbalance possibly thyroid because that's what my mother has, so glad to know your friend was lucky enough to still be able to conceive.. Best of luck to the both of you!!!

:( that's terrible, I'm sorry

So sorry to hear. Wishing you all the comfort and ease going forward. A good friend of mine struggled through a few miscarriages before she was able to successfully conceive and deliver. Her blood ended up being too thick, so she had to take baby aspirin on a daily basis before and during pregnancy. She's on her second pregnancy now. Always keep the hope and faith that it will happen. :)

Just read your bio, was hoping for my little girl as well.. Both of our princesses are now Angels 👼🏼 my prayers will go out for you as well. I'd love to talk, anytime!! Thank you so much, and I'm so sorry for your little one also

I'm sorry love God called my angel home last night. he is a healer . I'm praying for you we will get through this! if u need to talk I'm here "

Thank you all so much I'm definitely gonna keep trying after they give me the medication to start up my period! They didn't tell me to wait two months either so it must've been early when it happened. I wish you all the best of luck and a happy rest of your pregnancies ❤️❤️

Sending prayers your way, I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss.

@jordangastgaber, so sorry for your loss, praying for better days for you and your family

so sorry for your loss 😞

Thank you ❥ do you know how to change my pregnancy status by any chance?

I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you get some answers and closure.