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Abby Mattingly
Abby Mattingly

I need advice. My BIL lives with DH and me. He's a cool guy and I don't mind living with him, however, I'm concerned…

I need advice. My BIL lives with DH and me. He's a cool guy and I don't mind living with him, however, I'm concerned about him living with us when the baby gets here. He has people stay over every weekend and his girlfriend randomly comes over. Which, normally, doesn't bother me but, I don't see it going well with a newborn. Also, he works crazy hours so, he's coming in and out of the house at crazy random hours and it's impossible to be quiet in our apartment, it's fairly small (a two bedroom) and noise just travels here. I really love him and I don't really want him to move out, but I also don't want my daughter to be woken up or disturbed by people always coming in and out of the house.

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yourmommylovesyou

Mandy Rene

Мама двоих (3 года, 5 лет), ждёт третьего

Please do.. @abbymattingly14

abbymattingly14

Abby Mattingly

@yourmommylovesyou, I'm going to talk to DH when he gets home from work. I'll let you know how it goes. lol

yourmommylovesyou

Mandy Rene

Мама двоих (3 года, 5 лет), ждёт третьего

Yeah probably, but your mom.. You have to put your foot down and show them the importance of a good schedule for babies.. Don't let up, stand your ground cause that baby need you to make sure she get enough rest to be happy and healthy..

abbymattingly14

Abby Mattingly

@yourmommylovesyou, I don't think DH realizes how big of a deal it is that a baby has a good, consistent sleep schedule. Neither DH or BIL have any idea what it's like to live with a newborn. I lived with my parents when they had my little brother 3 years ago, and I babysit him everyday. I've tried to stress the importance of a schedule but, I'm pretty sure he just thinks I'm overreacting.

yourmommylovesyou

Mandy Rene

Мама двоих (3 года, 5 лет), ждёт третьего

right, and when she does get on a good sleeping schedule, you don't want people waking her because then your up and she's cranky the next day.. And it would just be hell hun..

abbymattingly14

Abby Mattingly

@yourmommylovesyou, Yeah DH and I need to set some ground rules. I really don't want baby's schedule (whatever that may be, lol) thrown off by people coming in and out, it wouldn't be fair to her.

yourmommylovesyou

Mandy Rene

Мама двоих (3 года, 5 лет), ждёт третьего

About the noise I don't have a solution, maybe hang more pictures and maybe some decorative blankets on the walls some more throw rugs to keep the sound from bouncing off everything..

yourmommylovesyou

Mandy Rene

Мама двоих (3 года, 5 лет), ждёт третьего

Sit him down and give him some guide lines for how the house had to run after the baby arrives, no more random over nighters, because you really never know people... No more late nights in and out if it doesn't have to do with work and hope he's okay with it..

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday…

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?

Since my husband's a SAHD am I going to have to pay him if I kick him out of our house? It's our house because it's in…

Since my husband's a SAHD am I going to have to pay him if I kick him out of our house? It's our house because it's in both of our names, but all of the bills are paid by me and in my name. He's telling me I can't kick him out because he has no car or money to start off on his own. And he's also saying he will take the title to my car if I kick him out because he sold his car to buy me mine. Which I don't believe anyone cares about because this car is in my name, I don't think anyone cares who got it for me lol. So just wondering if anyone is familiar in anything like this. Nothing's set in stone obviously, just continuous arguing out of nowhere the past few days and I'd really like to educate myself on my options so I can be aware of all sides and not ever feel trapped in my own house, which is how he made me feel tonight.