Idk what to do. My daughter is excited to go to school each day but when she’s actually in school she’s giving the…

It’s frustrating but she just started and this is a new thing. I don’t think she’s had enough time to adjust properly.

We are going through something very similar but it’s not totally out of left field for us. Shoot me a message if you want to chat.

Is she five? Is this kindergarten or prek? Is this a public school or private? I would leave her in and instead of taking away things, work with her teacher about rewarding her in real time until she learns her new routine better. It's only day 3 which is a small amount of time for her to learn what she needs to be doing and her teacher should know that.

Exactly what I'm going through with my youngest to a T. She's in first grade, has an iep, running out of classroom, hallways, frustration etc. We had a meeting on Monday regarding a change within her iep.. classroom, incentives, curriculum, reward systems, (extra support) a daily assistant/assistance etc. This week we started transitioning her to a smaller class but there's still been some struggles. So I'm hoping with time and patience things will turn around. She was a virtual learning student at first then switched to in person and it's still taking her more time to adjust so i feel you girl. Hang in there k y'all both got this.

@dope.ass.mom i added a few details to my comment but also I'm here if you need to chat or vent...and thank you for sharing your journey with us. At times i just felt like i was alone on this so it brings comfort knowing I'm not. This has been the biggest learning experience and adjustment for myself as well.

Same with our son. Our school wouldn't do anything to help him transition and we took him out. I tried for 8 days working with him and the school just gave up and said "we just have to let him do what he wants"

Struggling with my daughter too. She is great in class but it's the "I'm going to miss you" and crying every day at home. She did so well last week no tears but this week has been rough again.

My daughter.

So she was in early childhood last year which was recommended by her speech therapist because of her behavior. She would throw the WORST tantrums. Screeching and all. She never ran out the classroom tho. I started to let pick out anything she wanted to do after school IF she had good behavior. Like painting, board games, crafts, a special treat, hide in sneak etc. I had the teacher contact me if it was bad and if it was I put her in timeout when she got home and tablet is immediately taken away. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ it worked. This year I’ve only had the teacher contact me once and it’s been a month. Major progress. Now we’re going to be doing monthly rewards that she can get a $5 toy or something. So I DEFINITELY WOULD NOT take your child out. Either way she has to get use to having good behavior at school. I hope it gets better for you.

Lynnie has been working ahead, talking A LOT, she even told the other kids to not listen to the teacher when she asked them to pick up. She goes to our church school with only 9 other kids so I thought she'd be chill. She doesn't mind me so yesterday my husband came to the school to have a talk with her after I learned about her misbehavior from Monday. Her teacher said she did better yesterday and today but still talked a lot and works ahead. I'm praying she starts behaving soon. I should have put her in pre-k last year but I was scared of covid and me being pregnant 🥴 try to hang in there, lynnie has progressively done better her teacher says and this is week 3 or 4. So I think your daughter will get better with time. 🙏

Ok this was my daughter when she started kindergarten weeks ago. Because she was never in a school setting or around kids her age really. So it took awhile for her to get adjusted to the rules and teachers but I’m telling you, she’ll get there! My daughter is doing amazing now but her teachers and the dean told me adjustment for kindergartners is always hard in the beginning. I was also thinking about taking my daughter out and I would cry. Keep working with the teacher on what you can do at home for your daughter and stick to your guns about her earning her incentives back. I promise it’ll get better!

I also want to say I can't believe how many of us go thru this. 😔 I was feeling like a crappy mom because I thought it was just my daughter. I wanted to pull her out too but I wanted to give it time. It's pre school and it's not necessary and only half days. Kinder is full days and she HAS to go so I emailed the teacher and she said it's only really at drop offs. She does good during the rest of the day they both (students teacher) have been so helpful. They help her as much as they can

I’ll message you soon once I get mine down. I would definitely agree not to pull her out.

This is us! We are going through this right now. The teacher said she can only get him to do things one on one or he is up wandering the room. I messaged her back but haven't heard anything.

Mine was like that for a couple years 🙃hardest thing. Had to pull a bell on the classroom door. We had to have an emergency meeting to instill a safety plan into his IEP meaning the teachers are allowed to grab him when necessary (running away, running out the front door etc.) he got put into a special education separate classroom with the most amazing teacher I have ever met. Idk how she did but she eventually taught him the “rules” of school and eventually listened. He had an aide and carried around his personal Velcro star chart. 5 stars and he gets a reward. It was a lot of trial and error. He goes to the general education classroom in the morning, lunch, recess, and before they leave for home to ensure socialization as this is also the least restrictive environment.

Ok so I wrote in a private comment but now having seen how many people are going through this I would like to a mention for others that it may be worthwhile to look into a positive support plan. It really is helpful in collecting the data needed to determine when your child is having the most trouble and helps ensure that the teachers are able to provide the best support

This is EXACTLY why we did PreK twice and why my 6 year old is only in Kindergarten. Our first year of Pre-K was ROUGH. He was never a daycare kid and school was a HUGE shock to his system! Not to mention freakin Pre-K is a FULL day here now, not half. That's a LONG day, especially for the littles who are used to it bein just them and their Mama/Grandparent. Goin from that, to a room full of screamin brats, where you're NOT the sole receptacle for love/attention AND they actually tell you "No" 😳??! It's a LOT to take in.

He would literally just DECIDE when he was done with their shit for the day, grab his backpack and just walk out the classroom, talkin bout "I'm jus dunna walk to my Grammaws". 🤦‍♀️ I got called SEVERAL times to come get him, only to show up at the school to find him locked in the principals office, while she physically- with her BODY-barricaded the door to prevent his escape while he SCREAMED hysterically from the other side. It was sad, but for his safety. He was LITERALLY tryin to just walk out the front door of the school to the damn street, so he could "walk to his Grammaws". 🙄 EMBARRASSING! 🤦‍♀️ REALLY thought I was a HORRIBLE patent and thanking my LUCKY stars I only had 1 human to fuck up and I wouldn't be responsible for any others! 🥺

Workin with his teacher and principal, we switched him to half days for the rest of that first year and re-did Pre-K last year. He was a COMPLETELY different kid!

You are NOT a bad Mama and you are CERTAINLY not alone girl. Keep your head up and keep advocating for your baby! You'll have to work closely with the school, teachers, principal, school nurse, hell we even had Miss Jody (the lady that runs the elementary office-and really the entire elementary) on our team! It LITERALLY takes a village Mama, DON'T be afraid to reach out and get you a good, solid, SUPPORTIVE one built for her and you! Having their input was INVALUABLE to me, once I put my ego aside and dropped the "Whatchu MEAN, my PRECIOUS baby might not be ready for school" tude I was havin. Those teachers have put 100s of kids through school, I'm sittin here just startin my first, thinkin I know better than them?? 🤯

Here's the thing, they know kids-in general- and the process of school MUCH better than I. At the same time, I know my child better than any of them do. It was really for the best that we work TOGETHER.

I'm TELLIN you, he's a completely different kid at school now. Just be patient with her Mama, and ask the school to do the same. She WILL get there, PROMISE. 😊

BIG hugs to you in the meantime girl. I know how rough it can be. 😘