What made you guys decide to move to where you want to move?...my husband and I are at a stand still. We've had knock…
What made you guys decide to move to where you want to move?...my husband and I are at a stand still. We've had knock down drag out fights about where we want to move to. Connecticut is expensive but realistically we can afford something between $450-600k. We want a 3or4 bed/2+bathroom...
My husband wants to buy in a neighborhood with kids and people, a park nearby, etc....he wants the exact childhood his parents gave him🙄. I think we should buy land and build our forever home in the current town we live in. There isn't much land here so we have to buy now before it's gone. I want to stay here because I like this little town and it's cheap taxes (at least for now lol) which is hard to find without living in the hood in CT. Whatever we end up doing I just want him to understand that although his parents provided more than enough for him (upper middle class lifestyle) the economy has changed drastically since then and I also didn't sign up to live my in-laws life on repeat 😑
Cassandra·
Thats a tough one. We moved our family a couple years ago out of a smaller town we both hated to be on the outskirts of a large city. Although I loved the town it was expensive and we didn't have the extra money we were accustomed to having. He wasn't happy with his career there (same career, just transferred). We ended up moving to a smaller city a couple hours away from our hometown (across the province from where we were). I found work right away and he took a transfer. We bought a large 4 bedroom home with potential for more in the basement for about a quarter of what we would be spending where we were. There is more here now than the previous smaller town and I can see us both settling.
I hope you guys can come to a happy medium. Sometimes it takes doing what you think you want to make you see what you actually want.
The EK 💋··
@massgirl, In his defense (kind of?), there’s definitely a W vs. WL thing. Especially if he was a baseball player. We were all snobby about WL when growing up.
Mandy··
lol I know where it stems from....and he was anything but a baseball player 😂
Mandy··
I've moved a lot in my early 20s (ex military wife) and I hated being in big cities....my husband has lived in the same 5 mile radius his entire life and doesn't know big vs. small town living
The EK 💋·
I think it’s reasonable to buy land and build your forever home, especially in a town with lower taxes than others in the area. Knowing the area, you’ll still be really close to parks and neighbors/friends but without the subdivision life that he grew up in. It’s not like buying land and building in your current town puts you in the middle of the boonies so I am not understanding his hesitation. Does he want to stay in your current town? Or move to W?
Mandy··
@dance.uni. we're avoiding the Granby/suffield, everything else out that way. They're not diverse enough for my level of comfort.
The EK 💋··
I don’t get why he’s so set on leaving... It seems silly to be stuck on it being “trashy” with no other valid reason. If I could build a house in a town with lower taxes and available land, I’d jump on that in a heartbeat. Property taxes aren’t cheap in most areas around there. Plus it would leave you open to afford private school if you wanted or just free up money for early retirement, travel, whatever you wanted.
Mandy··
exactly! I found a 1.75 acre lot for around $90k....do you know how on heard of that is?! Not to mention this town is good enough now but it won't be good enough in 10 years when it's been improved... makes no damn sense. He had lupus and wants to retire when he's fifty and this would be the best of both worlds. We could have our snobby rich custom home and still live well within our means so we can have all the luxuries he wants...I think at the end of the day he's had this certain idea of how he wants to live in his head he isn't willing to budge...I'm about to bounce and build my own house though if he doesn't figure it out quick
scream.queen·
My husband's not a "town" guy. I lived in a town with under 6k people. He grew up in the middle of no where. We lived in town for 2 years and he had enough of all the people being up your ass. Now we're at his grandmother's homestead because he inherited her house and my in laws live next door but we all have land. We're planning on tearing her house down and building in 2-3 years. Those are our only neighbors for a couple miles. The population in the township we live in is 51 and it's almost all amish lol. I like it because its peaceful and my boys can go out and ride their dirt bikes and do whatever without a care in the world. I do miss town life because everything was all right there when you needed something.
Hopefully you two can compromise on something.
Icebergahead·
Мама сына (9 лет)
I have moved so many times I swear it is over 20x in my life. These have been why:
Crisis, better schooling and now as a mom, better place to raise dd. I am ok with changes.