Did anyone suffer or worry about gender disappointment?
I find out what this baby is on Wednesday and i cant help but worry ill feel disappointed if its another boy 🙈.
I'll be so relieved to know baby is healthy and thats all that matters! But im curious if anyone felt they wanted one gender more than the other.
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Yes I’m not gonna lie I have felt it a few times I just can’t help but long for a pink bundle ... the mummy daughter bond I will never have x
I thought I was having a boy second time round as my pregnancy was so different and I thought it would be nice 1 of each but when she said it was a girl I felt a sense of relief that I didn't think I would feel. I love that I've got 2 girls who are 4 years apart, they share toys and play together but they both have their own personality and preferences. To me I think I was relieved as I already had a girl I knew how to look after girls.. as stupid as it sounds lol. I looked after my sister from birth with my mum (step dad wasn't the caring type so it was me and my mum doing everything). There is 9 years between me and my sister and we have a good bond too. My partner has recently said "I want a son" but I said I'm happy with these 2 and right now I don't want anymore. Also we could go on to have another and 5 more and they could all be girls. I told him he's greedy lol that he should be grateful for a child not a son or daughter! Xx
I wanted a girl second time around but I am so so glad I got my second little Prince. The bond they both have is amazing although they fight like cat and dog now they are also absolute nutters together! I said I wasn't gona find out second time round but the minute she said do I want to know i said yeah it literally just flew out my mouth! All the things I thought before finding out it wasn't how it was when she told me it was another little boy it was the best because I knew my eldest had a friend for life not saying a sister wouldn't of been though. Its made my life a 100 times easier because although it might be cos there close in age they also have the same interest in things. I totally get what you mean about being close to your mum and i also know i will never see my future grandchildren if they do be born as I'm the mother of boys.
You will love this little baba no matter what you may feel slight disappointed if you don't get your wish but you will forget you even asked this question when your bundle is in your arms. X
Thank-you, yeah I'm hoping that any disappointment won't last for long if I do feel any! My mother in law has 3 boys and she says she would have loved a girl but couldn't imagine it any other way now and she's really close to all three of them, they'd do anything for her in a heartbeat. I'm hoping if it is another boy that Kylan will still have that common interest despite the 5 Year age gap x
@kerryy23 that was the main reason why I said yes to finding out because with my first after having him I had really bad baby blues it wasn't until I had my second I really realised how bad I was back then although it didn't last long but it was bad! I thought i might of been like that again with my second so the minute she asked me i changed my mind my OH was like I thought ye said ye didn't wana know😂 I was like tell me tell me I'm not joking my smile was from ear to ear holding the baby scan walking out of the hospital I know we're all different and I really do hope get your girl but if you don't either way your giving your first born baby the best gift in life ❤️ As for kylan he is going to love this little baba no matter what gender and so will you if it is another boy youll honestly love it wether there is a gap between boys are boys. My mother in law also has 3 boys and they are the closest ever I always say to myself I'd love for my 2 to be like this like they r grown men but together they act stupid and it's nice to see knowing I've got 2 little boys. I'd love another one but my OH says nope no more 😂
Honestly this is why I'm thinking I'm not going to find out, it's been suggested to me that if you do have a gender preference it's better to not know until they're here. At least then you'll just be happy they're here and healthy whatever gender. I think if you find out and it is a boy you'll be a bit disappointed the rest of your pregnancy xx
@kelsey234 that's nice to look at it in that way. Gives another perspective.
Yours are going to be quite close in age though. There's gonna be nearly 5 years to the day between mine (I'm due 4 days before Kylans Birthday 😂). I just feel like I'm majorly over thinking it, I feel so blessed to be having a healthy baby. I'll just have to try and convince my OH for one more if this turns out to be another boy and go for the best of three 😂
@kerryy23 my partner and his brother are 5 years apart and they are so close have had each others backs through everything and they work together aswell my partner has a building company and his brother works with him. I look at their bond and think I'd actually love tommy to have that so I'm honestly not bothered what I have now. Also remember teenage boys are normally 1000% easier than girls I was an absolute nightmare for my parents. 😂😂 and it's going to be expensive month on birthdays for you! Yeah why not go for 3 if you have another boy 😂 xx
@kelsey234 aww thats given me some reassurance about having a bigger age gap if your partner and his brother are close.. I'll agree with the teenage boy thing, My partners son (16) lives with us and to be honest you don't even know he's here half the time 😂.. I'll have to decide after this one if I want anymore haha, my OH isn't getting any younger and already has a football team 🙈 xx
@kerryy23, I loved not knowing ha ☺️😊😌 deffo makes it more exciting and that extra motivation in labour!
Haha funny thing is everyone all thought I was having a boy and I thought so too and I’ve always liked boys clothes more than the girls clothes
Just hate all the pink etc lol 😂
Find it so hard to find gender neutral stuff for Maya even now
I’m so happy they are finally putting dinosaurs and animals on ‘girls’ clothing instead of just fairies and unicorns lol 😂
Like what gives?
I love dinosaurs and so does Maya
Dinosaurs aren’t just for boys and palaeontologists are women too 🤷♀️🙄
But yeah
When she was born my mums friends and neighbours brought round clothes and stuff
PINK
Obviously grateful but I was like ugh
Still dressed her in it though, clothes are clothes end of the day lol 😂 xx
@kerryy23, Awe 😊😊❤️ having a close relationship with your mum makes it more understandable
I think they are probably getting more adventurous with their girl clothing range but when I was pregnant with Maya
It was just pink for days and then a small section of white and a row of blue lol 😂
So yeah I don’t know xx
@beebeejgill haha, I've been looking at the unisex stuff but I find it tends to sway slightly more girly or boyish so I havnt bothered buying anything, just going to wait til I know 100%. If you were to have another do you think you'd prefer a boy?
@kerryy23, As I said before I have no preference hun, I’d be happy either way ☺️❤️
All boys and all girls are different
As @mrsmowmow, the gender is irrelevant X x x X
But as it stands lol I won’t be having anymore children ❤️😊
If he changes his mind in the future then I’d just be happy he decided to have a child lol 😝 boy/girl wouldn’t come into it
Yeah I’m slightly worried that I’ll be a bit disappointed, I find the girls clothes so much more attractive than boys & because this is definitely our last it would be nice to have one of each but regardless I’m so happy to be having another and will love it unconditionally x
@toni_mcentee I thought I felt something around 14 weeks. Then nothing for a while, they've become a lot more regular over the last week or so though, and I was able to feel it from the outside last night. I think you feel something sometimes and wonder was it, wasn't it 😂
@kerryy23, omg that’s so exciting, I can’t wait until I can feel the little kicks, I’ve missed it so much 😂 x
@toni_mcentee it definitely won't be long for you now!
Make sure you update on Monday what you're having 😍x
Part of the reason I didn't find out the second time around, I was worried I'd feel disappointed. But honestly when she was born it took us around 10 minutes to even check if she was a boy or a girl. We genuinely did not care.
I feel like I'm probably over thinking it myself and it won't make any difference when I'm told, I'm just worried I'll feel disconnected I think.
For me it’s never mattered one of the reasons I never found out what I was having when pregnant with Maya ☺️
When I was pregnant in April I didn’t have plans to find out what I was having either
Partner wanted to though so would’ve had it put in envelope for him. But yeah
Some women and even men have a preference and there’s nothing wrong with that at all
As @abbyrose, said you’ll love the baby no matter and be happy 😊 xx
I did consider not finding out this time but I'm too impatient. I've been trying to convince myself its a boy. Looking at boy clothes in shops and avoiding the girls section 😂
I think it's normal to have a gender preference and feel a little disappointed so I wouldnt worry about it, no matter what once baby is here you will be happy xx
@kerryy23 oh asif! Mine the same as you but opposite😂 with olivia I had abit of nausea at the start for a few weeks and that was it the pregnancy was an absolute breeze, this time I'm absolutely exhausted, headaches, backache, really bad shortness of breath, dry mouth and really thirsty all the time and I'm really congested which I didnt know was a symptom but it is😂it's so weird x
@abbyrose omg, constantly got a blocked nose for no reason yes! I actually googled it a few weeks ago as thought I was getting the cold but nothing else came of it 😂.. that doesn't help either of us out with gender guesses then haha 🙈
@kerryy23 I know, I didn't even know I was pregnant and I said to brad ugh I'm really congested and my nose was annoying me then a few days later I seen that as a symptom I was like omg it makes sense now😂
Haha no it doesn't😂😫I hope you get your little girl though 🤞 If not 3rd time lucky😂🤪x
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