I hate when people can’t control their kids. Went to the dentist the kids just climbing all over stuff, bothering people and messing with this women’s hair. Raising my son to be respectful and not be a pest to people because it takes the right person to say something to the kid and here the parents go getting mad.
Are you absolutely sure that child wasn't special needs? For example autistic?
Just in case you're wondering what the answer is... it's No you can't be sure.
Perhaps in addition to your already planned child rearing goals, it would also behoove you to teach your children not to jump to conclusions about other people's situations and abilities. 🤷♀️
I can't tell you how many times people have found it perfectly ok to walk up to me while my autistic daughter is having a meltdown and exclaim that "what she needs a good spanking"
And then are shocked that I don't take kindly to people suggesting I physically abuse my special needs daughter.
oh no I understand completely a kid may be autistic, having a “off day” or mom can be suffering depression. I still do not feel that’s an excuse or a reason for me to sit and be okay with something I’m clearly not okay with. Lol
no you don't understand.. but I'm not sure how I can teach you empathy. So with that realization I bid you a good evening.
@sassywvgirl but I wasn't responding to your statement regarding the post.
I was responding to your "if my autistic niece can behave the it's easily avoidable" attitude/stance. You're holding other children to the standards of your niece, which shouldn't be done.
Exactly. Not all children with ASD are the same. Generalizing in such a way is not okay.
I cant wait until your 6 month old turns 3. 😆🤣 Good Luck cause kids have their days and they are in a pandemic right now.
@momof3.98, definitely won’t be the case for me especially in a situation like this because I don’t ever wanna give someone the opportunity to hurt my kids feelings or get kidnapped so they won’t be bothering strangers.
@momof3.98, well that’s you. I don’t want anymore kids so will definitely make sure I raise the only one I have right.
@momof3.98, There is technically when we’re discussing manners and basic home training skills. But yes we will see you have a good night.
... my mom worked with all different levels of kids with autism and they would have their meltdowns but they all were taught to respect people’s personal space and to not run around wild any time she had to take them out in public .
Well there's not just autism in this world. Some kids don't have the "stranger danger" "I need to be careful" and while they also might be learning i she saw this kid and other kids one time and basing the behaviors of this one day.
Yes.. of course autistics can be taught. But it takes a while to learn things. My point is that nobody has any idea if the kid was autistic or not, and if they were what kind of services they are receiving and where they are with their therapy.
This is still a kid we're talking about. It's not like a full grown adult got in the OP's face, and was asking a million questions while running around a room.
So none of those kids ever had an off day? They were perfect in public 24/7? You can't hold every child to the same standard.
Girl you just wait until your kid is older. It's easy to sit and judge when yours is just a baby and you have NO idea how hard it actually is to have a toddler.
Exactly I thought the newborn stage was hard until I entered toodlerhood
A child having a meltdown and throwing a fit in public is totally different from a child bothering a stranger and being in their personal space. Obviously cannot control a toddler having a meltdown and a bad day but can control my kid not being in a strangers face, hitting them with toys, asking them questions and messing with their hair.
😂 just wait until toddlerhood. While your son is going to be “respectful” you’re going to have days where he is just like that kid. Remember that.
@littleonemorning, maybe spend less time degrading others and belittling people if you feel so strongly about compassion and empathy? This ain’t high school girl lol
oh honey. Hearing the truth is not degrading. You could have handle this much less holier than thou. Looks like toddler years will be trying for you. Good luck and good night.
@littleonemorning, thought you were done girl you still here? Clearly it’s hard for you to hear the truth that y’all be on here doing the same shit you’re so against. Lol And please speak for yourself. Just because your kids run you don’t mean mine will run me. We’re two different people, girl your struggles won’t be mine but anyway have a great night. Hopefully you’re done this time and stop replying. 😂
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I am sorry but no child is going to behave all the time, you’ll see once your son is a toddler it’s going to be completely different then you’d ever expect 🤷🏻♀️
It’s soo hard. BUT that’s the time when they’re testing us. If you don’t stay on top of their behavior it just gets worse. Just because “they’re toddlers” doesn’t mean it’s okay. Kids have to be shaped all day everyday, full time job.
@alishap1212, A child having a meltdown and throwing a fit in public is totally different from a child bothering a stranger and being in their personal space. Obviously cannot control a toddler having a meltdown and a bad day but can control my kid not being in a strangers face, hitting them with toys, asking them questions and messing with their hair. I won’t have days when my son is like this “kid” because I won’t be allowing it.
I do see where you are coming from bc if my daughter was acting in such way I would just walk away and leave however it is to say the what if’s so enjoy it as you have it easy
@ajaecymone184, You are entitled to your Opinion & I’ll give you my Opinion :I’ve been a mom 24 yrs of my life my son’s are 24yrs old ,17 yrs old &3 yrs old , all have different personalities. As an adult have you ever had a bad day ? Or not in a mood to talk with other’s or your soo perfect ? An adult should not confront a child that isn’t there’s #1 ,you should go to their parent if you have an issue with a child being a child ! I don’t tell people how to raise their children . Poor children are stuck pretty much home these days due to the pandemic “so maybe yeah they have built up energy,was it your hair the little toddler touched ? Was it your Dental Office you owned ? Where you could have a say so to a point if the child was jumping on furniture and could get hurt. Please don’t have more children you sound like You Have No patience /or empathy!
First off when did I say I confronted the child? I agree completely you never confront a kid you always address any issue with a parent so I’m not sure where you got that from but I never said I confronted a child nor would I. And as a parent especially with a pandemic going on that should be more of a reason to not allow your kid to bother strangers and be in their personal space. There is still a deadly virus going around so your kid should be with you and not running around without a mask on. Either way you are entitled to your opinion I don’t have to be okay with anybody pulling my hair, hitting me with toys, asking me 30 questions and in my face “because it’s a kid and because a pandemic is going on and most kids are stuck at home” lol that’s nonsense has nothing to do with not being patient or having empathy. You’re weird but agree to disagree. By the way I’ll have as many children as I’d like who are you to tell me because we share a different opinion on a topic I shouldn’t have kids? Lol please worry about your own uterus and go on with your day. 😂
Definitely not a fair judgment, as you do not know the child personally nor the situation.
Also, you should absolutely never speak to another child as if you have some authority over them, that in itself is rude AF, and if a parent tells you not to do that, and gets super offended, they are infact in the absolute right.
Let's just hope one day you aren't the one being judged harshly based on your child's behavior.
When did I say I confronted the child? I agree completely you never confront a kid you always address any issue with a parent. However, my statement earlier I was chiming in on the fact that many people don’t care and will in fact confront your kid and hurt their feelings so with that in mind you should always keep your kid in check because some people dgaf.
you stated it takes the right person to say something, parents shouldn't fear of others coming at them sideways because of their child's behavior, it's none of your business to begin with, so using that in the manner you are is not right. I mean if you dare so be it, but if you get told to go kick rocks and count mailboxes dont be surprised.
Speaking in general.
And sure some people are just shitty parents and dont care, but again, how do you know? Unless you know the child and parent personally you cant say for sure.
@the_pumpkin_queen, yeah I stated it takes the right person to say something because you will run into and meet the “right” person that won’t hesitate to be rude and disrespectful to your kid. This world we live in everyone is not kind and everyone is not going to be nice to your kid. Sad reality but definitely the truth so as a mom I don’t want to give that “right” person the opportunity to be rude to my kid so therefore I will not be allowing my kid to behave in such way.
And if your kid is bothering me and invading my personal space the way your child behaves is my business because it is now affecting me. It wouldn’t be my business if your kid was doing his own thing and not in my bubble.
You can’t say anything on here without people jumping on you. Obviously we all know parenting is hard. I also know people who have kids, without disabilities, who act so wild. Parents don’t have a grip on their children like they used to. My son is talked to if he even begins to act out in public. No standing on furniture. When he runs from me he is in trouble, quiet in restaurants etc. We can’t judge strangers bc yes you never know what kind of day they’re having or what their kid has to deal with, but in general, kids these days need some more consequences, spanking time out and immediate removal from restaurants and parties is not abuse.
Agreed completely and the crazy thing is that I see this way too often. Not just today at the dental office I always see kids running wild and doing whatever they want in public places while the parent sits back acting like they don’t see it or just sitting on the phone.
I feel were you’re coming from. I know kids like that who’s parents just can’t control them and let them do what they want.
Don’t get me wrong my kids have had their melt downs and been hyper in public, but never anything like this. Once they start to climb on things I stop them, when they get into someone’s space I correct them. And they Bette remember pull someone’s hair. Kids will have their days but that’s why as a parent you correct it.
I get what others are saying about kids with autism and that’s a possibility but more times then not it’s a parent who can’t control their kid. I watch a lady ignore her kids drink juice out the carpet because she didn’t want to deal with the tantrum that came with telling him no.
@ajaecymone184, discipline is huge for me. To many parents let the kids run them.
Toddlers are savages and just don’t give AF some days 🤷🏾♀️ good luck lol
Aren't they?! While looking you dead in the eyes too.
Sweet sweet angels.
Toddlers are hard to handle. They don’t sit still for nothin most the time. The parent shouldn’t have to be told to get their child out of a strangers face or touching anyone’s hair though. Especially during a pandemic.
Well your child is only 6 months old. He’s an infant. You’re not even close to the hard part yet. I could have 100 babies but I could never have more than 2 toddlers. You’ll see, you’re in for a big surprise. And just wait until you have a second one and they feed off each other. Don’t be so quick to judge.
Don’t plan on having anymore. But thanks for your input definitely won’t be something that I allow as a parent.
I imagine I'd be an individual that lacks empathy based on what I've read. I do not have an autistic child, and I've never encountered an autistic toddler that I know of, because as correctly pointed out, it's possible one may just not realize that the child is autistic, ok I understand.
Now, if a toddler is exhibiting behavior that is unappreciated (let's say by those who aren't directly responsible for raising them). Not just being loud and busy, running around; but they are touching people, hitting people (whether using objects or their own appendages), would a parent not remove the child from that situation? Would a parent then allow this behavior to continue? I understand children are children, absolutely! But aren't parents supposed to parent?
I've been a parent of one for 2 secs, lol, so I haven't yet experienced what is outlined above, but, if my child was hitting people, touching people who didn't want to be touched, talking to people who didn't want to be bothered, is it ok to allow that behavior to continue because "oh, he's ONLY 2, kids will be kids 😏"?
Also, would it be ok if I saw my child behaving like that, and addressed their behavior? Whether that looks like physically removing them or verbally requesting that they stop?
Oh wow , the names people name their kids.....
Does anyone's kids have a name that people butcher all the time? Have you ever considered changing it because of it?
http://www.aif.ru/society/people/vinovata_v_nishchete_organy_opeki_na_kubani_ugrozhayut_zabrat_u_materi_4_detey
Remember when people were saying that those of us who don’t post pics of ourselves or our kids are shady? 💅🏻
People are quick to vaccinate their dogs, but won’t vaccinate their kids 🤔 no offense. Just a thought.
watz·
Are you absolutely sure that child wasn't special needs? For example autistic?
Just in case you're wondering what the answer is... it's No you can't be sure.
Perhaps in addition to your already planned child rearing goals, it would also behoove you to teach your children not to jump to conclusions about other people's situations and abilities. 🤷♀️
I can't tell you how many times people have found it perfectly ok to walk up to me while my autistic daughter is having a meltdown and exclaim that "what she needs a good spanking"
And then are shocked that I don't take kindly to people suggesting I physically abuse my special needs daughter.
Ajaecymone··
If the kid was autistic because you’re right there is no way for me to actually know that I understand your point of view 100%. However, I’m speaking in general this is a problem I see very often at public places where parents cannot control their kids and let them run wild doing whatever and bothering people. I know a few people personally that allow this kind of behavior from their kids and it’s not okay in my opinion.
I’ve witnessed parents get upset when other people tell their kids to stop or not to do something when bothering them so honestly to avoid that why not check your kids and let them know beforehand? And even if your child is autistic I still wouldn’t appreciate your kid climbing on me, pulling my hair and asking me 100 questions. You can feel how you wanna feel about that but a lot of people don’t like being bothered and random people or kids touching their hair and hitting them with toys. I don’t care what your kid health condition is control them because if someone says something to your kid and they word it the wrong way you’re gonna be mad.
watz··
autism is on the rise. Again can you say with absolute certainty that your "general observations" don't include more autistics than you realize?
I'm not saying there's not shitty parents out there, but I don't think it's fair to make general statements about every kid you see that you perceive is misbehaving because you just don't know the circumstances or situation.
Ajaecymone··
Like I said even if a child is Autistic I still would not appreciate your child climbing on me, pulling my hair or hitting me with toys and asking me 100 questions. I don’t know if the child was special needs or not and honestly I don’t care to know because either way I wouldn’t like it and I’m sure it’s plenty of people out here that feel the same way I do particularly those that don’t have kids or those that don’t want them. I understand autistic kids learn different and have developmental delays very understandable. That’s more of a reason to come up with a technique or a way to keep your child relaxed during waiting times and in public places. Nothing wrong with me not wanting my personal space invaded especially during a time like this. I also wouldn’t address the child directly like I’ve seen people doing. I’d go directly to the parent.
watz··
have you even considered that perhaps the parent was special needs? (My own mother is autistic so I know that it's definitely a possibility)
Or perhaps the parent is dealing with depression? Or any other number of things that would make them not capable of "controlling their kid" in that moment.
I'm not saying you should "appreciate unwanted behavior" but what I am saying is that there's no need to go on social media just to bitch about a situation that you yourself admitted to not knowing all the facts about.
Ajaecymone··
People get on this app “bitching” about all kinds of things some that most of the time aren’t even mom related. Thanks for the advice but I will do as I please and post whatever I want. You can keep scrolling if you don’t like my opinion since it clearly hits close to home or use the block button your choice of course because I said what I said. Autistic child, mom suffering depression or whatever the case may be has nothing to do with me personally and I don’t have to be okay with your kid bothering me and my personal space because “you may be going through shit” or “kid could be Autistic”
watz··
all I'm saying is that we shouldn't be so quick to judge and show people basic kindness, and not go off on some tangent about "other people's kids" when you don't know all the facts
But hey if you disagree with that it's obviously your choice. I have no power whether you're a thoughtful human being or not.
watz··
@momtoboys1516 I'm not saying it is acceptable. What I'm saying is to show some basic human kindness and not bitch about a child on social media
Ajaecymone··
I wasn’t going off. I came on here sharing my opinion on the situation and what I do and don’t agree with it. Which is something that many mothers on this app do so honestly I’m not sure why when I do it it’s deemed as “going off” “lack of kindness and empathy” or “don’t have anymore kids” because many happen to disagree?
watz··
sigh.... your lack of understanding IS the problem. How can you not see that?
Ajaecymone··
oh no I understand completely a kid may be autistic, having a “off day” or mom can be suffering depression. I still do not feel that’s an excuse or a reason for me to sit and be okay with something I’m clearly not okay with. Lol
watz··
no you don't understand.. but I'm not sure how I can teach you empathy. So with that realization I bid you a good evening.
Ajaecymone··
take your own advice. Lol
Stephanie·
I cant wait until your 6 month old turns 3. 😆🤣 Good Luck cause kids have their days and they are in a pandemic right now.
Ajaecymone··
The pandemic should be the reason why your kids shouldn’t be running wild doing whatever and bothering people. Most younger kids can’t even wear mask and if they can it’s kind of impossible to make sure they keep it on the entire time. My 3 year old wouldn’t be running around in strangers face where he could possibly get sick and bothering them. He would be sitting by me away from people that could get him sick but that’s just me lol
Stephanie··
like I said, just wait. Never say never girl, we all eat our words. 😊
Stephanie··
and why are you guys waiting in a waiting room. We have to wait in our cars and the assistant comes and gets us.
Ajaecymone··
@scidg3, nope I can say whatever I want because my son will have guidance and home training. Lol but have a great day.
Ajaecymone··
@scidg3, not sure ask the dentist office.
Stephanie··
yes, I'm sure he will be perfect in every way!
Stephanie··
I don't have their #
Ajaecymone··
@scidg3, and if he isn’t I will love him either way!
Stephanie··
@momof3.98 Yes! Me too girl, meeee toooo. 🤣
Food Is Love 💕💕··
@scidg3, you are 100% correct in every thing you said !
Ajaecymone··
@momof3.98, definitely won’t be the case for me especially in a situation like this because I don’t ever wanna give someone the opportunity to hurt my kids feelings or get kidnapped so they won’t be bothering strangers.
Ajaecymone··
@momof3.98, well that’s you. I don’t want anymore kids so will definitely make sure I raise the only one I have right.
Ajaecymone··
@momof3.98, There is technically when we’re discussing manners and basic home training skills. But yes we will see you have a good night.