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Ladies I need advice! Amethyst is getting to a point with her attitude where I’m not sure what to do. She’s defiant,…

Ladies I need advice!

Amethyst is getting to a point with her attitude where I’m not sure what to do. She’s defiant, she’s starting to lie and tells me no to pretty much everything and tells me stop.

I’ve tried reasoning with her, time outs, nap times, taking things away from her and spanking after a certain amount of time having to tell her not to do something.

She gets into everything all the time, and I know that that is normal but when I tell her to not mess with something and I remove it she will throw herself to the ground crying.

If I ask her to stop doing something she looks at me and gives me that look like “I’m cute I can do what I want” or that “make me” look.

When I spank her she will cry for a few seconds then go straight back to what she had just got into trouble for.

I’m trying to train our dog and whenever I do Amethyst yells at me to stop.

I have caught her poking the dogs eye while she’s asleep or pulling her tail and when I tell her not to do that because it’s not nice she says back “I didn’t do it”

She acts like she is in control and my fiancé and I just don’t know what to do anymore.

Help!!

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kaycharwy312

Mrs.Santorno

Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего

If the spanking isnt helping I wouldnt do it anymore, it can teach hitting is okay, and that can be a whole new deal in itself.

I have found with my son that he will intentionally do something he knows is wrong to get attention. So for instance when he pulls the dogs tail I'll tell him "no no, that's an owie and we domt hurt the dog" I'll repeat my self up to 3x and if that doesnt work and I can tell hes doing it and looking at me to get a reaction, I'll take him to his room, put him in his pack and play and leave the room for about 5 minutes and then go get him, bring him to the thing he was doing wrong, reiterate why it's wrong and then I'll redirect him to something new and play with him with it! That's what I've found works for us !

kaycharwy312

Mrs.Santorno

Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего

@tinymama awe congrats!

tinymama

nina

Мама дочки (2 года)

little boy 😊

kaycharwy312

Mrs.Santorno

Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего

is your second a boy or girl ?

kaycharwy312

Mrs.Santorno

Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего

dang mama ! I dont know what to say lol! And it definatly doesnt help bein pregnant! :( I'm sorry ! The 2's are tough! They just love to push buttons !

tinymama

nina

Мама дочки (2 года)

I've tried to show her how upset and hurt iam when she doesn't listen, she just laughs and Pat's my back while shushing me and telling me it's ok.

kaycharwy312

Mrs.Santorno

Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего

just read your other comment about how she thinks that's a joke... have you tried showing her your very upset when she doesnt listen?

tinymama

nina

Мама дочки (2 года)

only for a short time before leaving the wall and doing as she please

kaycharwy312

Mrs.Santorno

Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего

I have no idea what I would do then, will she face the wall or stand in the corner ?

tinymama

nina

Мама дочки (2 года)

she doesn't stop screaming that's the problem, she screams until she makes her self sick.

kaycharwy312

Mrs.Santorno

Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего

I wouldnt go get her untill she stops screaming, I would walk in every once an awhile and just tell her something along the lines of " I love you, but you need to calm down and listen, when you stop crying I'll come get you"

It's so hard to do especially when they are crying for you, but you have to stick to your guns and show you are the boss. And when she does stop crying and throwing a fit give her a bunch of love and cuddles !

tinymama

nina

Мама дочки (2 года)

I've tried putting her in her pack in play for time out and all she does is scream until me or my fiance comes and get her. I tried explaining to her why it's not ok and even try to redirect with something new to play with which doesn't last long until she's doing something she knows isn't ok to do. This pregnancy really isn't helping either, I'm alot more emotional which really isn't helping in this case

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snarfyk

Maria

Мама троих детей

We've been dealing with this with my daughter. She breaks things, refuses to potty train (she'll go next to the potty then laugh and say, "uh oh"), just all around out of control. I will warn you, it will only get worse when the new baby is born. She may regress and call herself baby again. Just keep speaking to her.

2sweetie

Melinda Westad

Мама двоих (1 год, 5 лет)

This is all normal behavior for a 2 year old. It actually gets way worse at age 3 😩 If she’s throwing a tantrum walk away and don’t give her any attention. If you need to discipline her, take away her favorite things or put her in time out. With my son, simply holding his hand for a minute is enough to do the trick. Kids will continue to test boundaries. She’s asserting her independence

little_mommy_of_3

Little Mommy

Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года)

I highly recommend the book “how to talk so little kids will listen”. You can download the audiobook if you don’t have time to sit back and read

tinymama

nina

Мама дочки (2 года)

Where can I buy the book? I'll do anything at this point, I've had enough of her attitude

little_mommy_of_3

Little Mommy

Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года)

amazon or audible

tinymama

nina

Мама дочки (2 года)

@tacos4lyfe thank you

mybabybear

mybabybear

Мама сына (5 лет)

My son was like that for a while I ended up having a room for him where I can put him in a time out. He would scream and cry and kick but eventually he learned that he wasn’t going to come out if he kept crying and soon he stopped trying to open the door. I had to make this room unavailable for breakable things though.

tinymama

nina

Мама дочки (2 года)

My apartment isn't big enough for that otherwise I would be more than happy to try that out

mybabybear

mybabybear

Мама сына (5 лет)

I promise it will get better. I had a really hard time with my son but when he turned four he started to calm down. Can you use a corner for timeout?

tinymama

nina

Мама дочки (2 года)

I've tried using a corner but she never stays there no matter how many times I tell her to stay or put her back, she thinks it's a big joke 😩😫

kaycharwy312

Mrs.Santorno

Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего

If the spanking isnt helping I wouldnt do it anymore, it can teach hitting is okay, and that can be a whole new deal in itself.

I have found with my son that he will intentionally do something he knows is wrong to get attention. So for instance when he pulls the dogs tail I'll tell him "no no, that's an owie and we domt hurt the dog" I'll repeat my self up to 3x and if that doesnt work and I can tell hes doing it and looking at me to get a reaction, I'll take him to his room, put him in his pack and play and leave the room for about 5 minutes and then go get him, bring him to the thing he was doing wrong, reiterate why it's wrong and then I'll redirect him to something new and play with him with it! That's what I've found works for us !

kaycharwy312

Mrs.Santorno

Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего

is your second a boy or girl ?

tinymama

nina

Мама дочки (2 года)

little boy 😊

kaycharwy312

Mrs.Santorno

Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего

awe congrats!

junesmommy_15

China

Мама троих детей

Sometimes you have to ignore them. That may sound crazy but as long as they are getting attention they'll keep it up. Good or bad. Ignore her. Act like she isn't bothering you. She'll stop.

tinymama

nina

Мама дочки (2 года)

That's gonna be tough thing to do😩 my pregnancy isn't helping at all I'm more emotional and get annoyed and angry easily

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