Ladies I need advice!
Amethyst is getting to a point with her attitude where I’m not sure what to do. She’s defiant, she’s starting to lie and tells me no to pretty much everything and tells me stop.
I’ve tried reasoning with her, time outs, nap times, taking things away from her and spanking after a certain amount of time having to tell her not to do something.
She gets into everything all the time, and I know that that is normal but when I tell her to not mess with something and I remove it she will throw herself to the ground crying.
If I ask her to stop doing something she looks at me and gives me that look like “I’m cute I can do what I want” or that “make me” look.
When I spank her she will cry for a few seconds then go straight back to what she had just got into trouble for.
I’m trying to train our dog and whenever I do Amethyst yells at me to stop.
I have caught her poking the dogs eye while she’s asleep or pulling her tail and when I tell her not to do that because it’s not nice she says back “I didn’t do it”
She acts like she is in control and my fiancé and I just don’t know what to do anymore.
Help!!
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We've been dealing with this with my daughter. She breaks things, refuses to potty train (she'll go next to the potty then laugh and say, "uh oh"), just all around out of control. I will warn you, it will only get worse when the new baby is born. She may regress and call herself baby again. Just keep speaking to her.
This is all normal behavior for a 2 year old. It actually gets way worse at age 3 😩 If she’s throwing a tantrum walk away and don’t give her any attention. If you need to discipline her, take away her favorite things or put her in time out. With my son, simply holding his hand for a minute is enough to do the trick. Kids will continue to test boundaries. She’s asserting her independence
I highly recommend the book “how to talk so little kids will listen”. You can download the audiobook if you don’t have time to sit back and read
Where can I buy the book? I'll do anything at this point, I've had enough of her attitude
My son was like that for a while I ended up having a room for him where I can put him in a time out. He would scream and cry and kick but eventually he learned that he wasn’t going to come out if he kept crying and soon he stopped trying to open the door. I had to make this room unavailable for breakable things though.
My apartment isn't big enough for that otherwise I would be more than happy to try that out
@tinymama, I promise it will get better. I had a really hard time with my son but when he turned four he started to calm down. Can you use a corner for timeout?
@mybabybear I've tried using a corner but she never stays there no matter how many times I tell her to stay or put her back, she thinks it's a big joke 😩😫
If the spanking isnt helping I wouldnt do it anymore, it can teach hitting is okay, and that can be a whole new deal in itself.
I have found with my son that he will intentionally do something he knows is wrong to get attention. So for instance when he pulls the dogs tail I'll tell him "no no, that's an owie and we domt hurt the dog" I'll repeat my self up to 3x and if that doesnt work and I can tell hes doing it and looking at me to get a reaction, I'll take him to his room, put him in his pack and play and leave the room for about 5 minutes and then go get him, bring him to the thing he was doing wrong, reiterate why it's wrong and then I'll redirect him to something new and play with him with it! That's what I've found works for us !
@kaycharwy312 is your second a boy or girl ?
Sometimes you have to ignore them. That may sound crazy but as long as they are getting attention they'll keep it up. Good or bad. Ignore her. Act like she isn't bothering you. She'll stop.
That's gonna be tough thing to do😩 my pregnancy isn't helping at all I'm more emotional and get annoyed and angry easily
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
I’ve posted about my defiant toddler many times before but I’m really at a loss now. She deliberately disobeys. Like, she knows what “no” means and if she’s doing something she knows she’s not supposed to I can ask “do you want to go in timeout?” And she’ll answer “no” and SOMETIMES stop.. I can’t take her anywhere cause she refuses to listen. She runs wild, screams, throws tantrums etc. At home she’s just as bad and absolutely nothing I do or say helps. Timeout doesn’t work, hand poppings don’t...
Ok so I want a peaceful debate on toddler discipline if it goes sour then I will delete the post but
What is y'all opinion of spanking (not hard or painful to child) or tapping the hand when told several times not to do that certain thing
Do y'all find timeouts more helpful or spanking or bribing?
I'm at a loss for words with my daughter. She's almost 2 and every time I tell her not to do some thing she smiles at me and does it anyways and thinks it's hilarious
I just told my friend she needs to stop all that random dating she’s STILL doing during this pandemic! Maybe this will make her stop?
If the spanking isnt helping I wouldnt do it anymore, it can teach hitting is okay, and that can be a whole new deal in itself.
I have found with my son that he will intentionally do something he knows is wrong to get attention. So for instance when he pulls the dogs tail I'll tell him "no no, that's an owie and we domt hurt the dog" I'll repeat my self up to 3x and if that doesnt work and I can tell hes doing it and looking at me to get a reaction, I'll take him to his room, put him in his pack and play and leave the room for about 5 minutes and then go get him, bring him to the thing he was doing wrong, reiterate why it's wrong and then I'll redirect him to something new and play with him with it! That's what I've found works for us !