Actually don’t know what else to do😢 No matter what we do we just can’t get Harrison to go to sleep. We’ve asked so many people for advice and tried it all and nothing is working. It’s got to the point now that I dread night time as I know it’s going to be hours of listening to him cry and whine because he has to go to sleep. I’m literally in tears every night😢
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
What can I do to sleep comfortably at night?
What do YOU judge Clearly, no one is a perfect parent nor do we know everything. But what’s something you judge a parent off of or just irks you?
Well it’s official we are doing remote learning in the fall. The school board voted and went along with what the superintendent wanted. I can’t even say I’m upset or mad about it cause I do think it was the right decision and we had a bit of a warning that this was how it was going to go. Even though I’m in a good position, a sahm, and very fortunate I can still say it sucks lol. What about your kids school?
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer. My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk outside without this information. Children of color are being targeted and killed too. It’s not just adults. I let my son know we treat everyone equally and with respect. I let him know that we love everyone for their differences. In every aspect. Color, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual preference we love everyone.
Tammy ·
I was like this a few months back i ust to cry my eyes out because he would just scream n scream, it was only a couple weeks ago when i started letting him fall asleep in my bed because he climbed out the cot because he was that worked up n cut his lip. Never felt so bad in all my life. Is it you leaving the room why hes not settling? Where does he nap in the day time? Xx
Kathleen ··
Мама двоих (младенец)
He just gets excited when he comes into our bed and wants to play then it’s not long till he’s crying again. He cries when we leave the room. We’ve also tried sitting in the room with him but he still cries at that too. We’ve even tried rocking him to sleep but he cries at that too and throws a tantrum which usually ends with him slapping me, scratching me and me crying😢 The only way me, my partner and everyone who’s looked after him can get him to nap is pushing him up and down our hall in his pram with white noise on. I don’t like him in his pram at night as I’ll be sleeping and not able to watch him all night. It’s gotten so bad now that my parter’s parents and my parents have started taking him 2-3 nights a week as I’m really struggling. He’s such a good baby until it’s time for him to go to sleep😕
Doona ·
It's not for everyone but have you looked into the Ferber Method. I hated the idea of it at first but we're now on our 2nd night. Last night it took half an hour of crying with me going in and reassuring him at intervals for him to settle himself. Tonight it took 3 minutes!! I am gobsmacked. Last night he slept for a 7 hour stretch, woke for a feed at 2am and then slept another 4 hours. That's the most he has ever slept by far! Hearing him cry sucks but he is now sleeping better and so am I! Good luck xx
Kathleen ··
Мама двоих (младенец)
Yeah we’ve done the cry it out method and all the different types of cry it out. We can’t leave him to cry as he’ll just become inconsolable and not sleep at all. For some reason he doesn’t like cuddles or being comforted when he’s upset. He just pushes us away and it just gets worse the more we try those methods😕
Jamie·
When I sleep trained Theo I used a really gentle method. I put him down and I sat in his room, right next to his cot, with my hand on his back. I slowly moved my hand off him, then out of the cot, I did this at the start of the night and then every time he woke throughout the night. Then one night I just didn't stay and he put himself to sleep. It took us a week to go from him waking, crying for a feed every 40 minutes to him putting himself to sleep and sleeping 12+ hours a night. The first night was hard, he did cry, but he knew I was there. He was also used to getting boobie to sleep in my bed. So it was a massive change for him.
It may take weeks of sitting in with him before he'll let you walk off and fall asleep alone, or it may only take a few nights.
I hope you find a method that works for you and get to sleep soon! X
Kathleen ··
Мама двоих (младенец)
We have tried the gentle approach too. He’s not a cuddly baby and doesn’t like to be touched a lot. I don’t know why. We’ve tried keeping our hand on him, stoking his head or tummy but he pushes us off. Thanks anyway xx
Amy Williams·
How much is he sleeping in the day I noticed with my daughters if they had more or long naps they wouldn’t sleep. I would get up at 7/8 nap at 1/2 then keep them up until bed 7ish. Feed them bath( Asda vaper bath works wonders) get dressed cwtch up with a warm bottle then try putting them down when they’ve dropped off. It worked for me hope you find a solution soon. X
Kathleen ··
Мама двоих (младенец)
He usually has 2 naps a day. Usually a 2 hour nap and a 1 hour nap. He loses his shit if he doesn’t get those naps😩 We tried that before and it made the whole night time situation so much worse which I didn’t think was even possible😭 Thanks anyway xx
Beth ·
Мама дочки (3 года)
With Maya it was a strict routine and not letting her sleep in the day but she was 2.5 by this time so a nap in the day wasn’t really needed.
I found out nursery were letting her nap in the day and it literally stopped her sleeping until 12/1am! When she usually went to sleep 8pm
Maya had been in my bed and room since birth and on the boob...
I first got her off the boob and within a week I moved her into her own room! Where id do dinner bang on 6, bath 7... bath until 7:30 (using bed time bath), massage using the same cream...some stories and bed time songs... I’d then sit with her until she had gone to sleep, just keep laying her down etc!
Next night I’d leave for a few mins then come back
Gradually increasing time
3rd night I left straight away, came back 10 mins later and she was sleeping... she slept through the night for the first time x
Kathleen ··
Мама двоих (младенец)
He can’t function without his naps at all. It makes everything so much worse when he’s not had them. We tried it before but it was just awful and HV told us he must really depend on those naps and to go back to letting him nap. He doesn’t really react to us talking to him or reading stories to him. It’s like he just ignores us?🤷🏻♀️ Stories and songs don’t do anything for him. As soon as he’s placed in his cot it all kicks off😒 Thanks anyway xx