Random but serious question for SAHMs who don't work.
If yall want to buy something do yall just buy it or do yall ask your hubby/SO first?
My SO only works. But i always ask him for whatever i want to buy. First i have to see if there is no bills to pay then if i see all bills are covered i'll just ask him for money or sometimes let him know what i need it for! 🙂💕 But he nevers says No to me unless there is bills to pay rather get that over with.
My husband works but I control all the money so I get what I need when it’s necessary. If it’s a big thing then I’ll talk to him first
When it sometimes that we need or for the girls no but when its something like a big purchase and we dont need it yes or if it something for myself yes i ask even though i know the answer is yes.
I always run it by him. Even when I do work I tell home when I am getting something over a certain amount. Not necessarily asking but to see how he feels about it. He does the same.
he makes pretty much all our money (I do work part time but don’t make nearly enough to support us so my money is grocery money) so I always ask him first. usually he okays the purchases but sometimes he will ask me to wait. But we see both our incomes as Our money rather than his money or mine so he runs purchases he wants to make by me to.
@red_carr, well if you ever need someone to talk to, I can message you my phone number(:
@haleynicole thank you I'm just hoping things get better
If it’s a big purchase I don’t “ask” but we talk about it. If it’s something small then no
When I was a SAHM, if it was more than $15-$20 and not an absolute necessity, I'd bring it up. Not really in an asking way (because my husband would hate me feeling like I need permission), but in a discussion way. I'm the practical one in our relationship though...so honestly I can't really remember a time he suggested we hold off on a purchase. I get super anxious about money, so he trusts my judgment above his lol. If anything, I've started to talk myself out of stuff that he's had to talk me back into!
I just buy it. But I don’t like spending money in general so I usually don’t. For big things, we discuss them together first. He’s usually the one asking me because I’m more logical with money while he’s a bit more spur of the moment. Before I was a SAHM I was the breadwinner though, so a big chunk of our bank account is money that I personally made while working.
Not really because I’m the one who handles the money and pay the bills but if it’s something big for me I’ll ask but he doesn’t have a problem because one I rarely get for me and he knows everything else is taken care of I just ask out of courtesy so if he had a big purchase planned he can voice it then.
nope it's never been a problem, I go out and pay the bills, get the things we need, I get groceries, etc he works and hardly gets one day off out of the week so he knows that I can manage the money without him being there. Only if we make big purchases (appliance wise) we obviously talk about it.
Yea. My hubby is the same with work but says he doesn't trust me with money...
Food, gas, medicine and medical supplies and anything child related I don’t have to ask. I have a budget on what I can spend on myself, so does he and that goes into our individual accounts every month. This way we have a little independence and I love surprising my hubby without suspicion. Big purchases are always discussed and often planned. The budget is planned three months in advance around here but these policies work around our house.
I don’t have a regular job but I do have a source of income. My work takes maybe 2 hours a month. My husband is the one who works outside the house provides the benefits, the majority of our money etc.
I always ask or bring it up first unless it’s something cheap like bath salts or A candy bar or something like that but even than I get bad anxiety from it all so usually I just say something even though he doesn’t care as long as I don’t go crazy but anything big we always talk and discuss first
@mombie. Exactly... he doesn't see that. He thinks its easy
@red_carr, they will never understand until they have to do it everyday
It depends on what it is but we usually talk over all purchases though.
We discuss all purchases. If i want it to be a surprise I just say “hey, can I get $xxx out of the bank?” And he usually doesn’t ask questions
We usually have a list we leave clipped to the calendar that we both add to. Whoever goes shopping just takes the list. If it's something real expensive we talk about it first.
It depends on what it is. We make ends meet and sometimes have a little extra and we usually decide what we’ll do with it together. If I’m out running errands and wanna grab food or something I won’t ask, but if I wanted to buy like hair dye or something I would talk to him and make sure I’m not forgetting something more important we need to get first.
My hubby gets mad when I'm out and buy the kids and myself food
Unless it's really expensive other than that no I just get whatever I want
Most of the time I just buy it, if it isn't stupid expensive. For some things I'll tell him "hey, I'm ordering this". Sometimes I'll ask first, if it's something fairly expensive or something we don't really need but I want.
I always ask or if its something my son needs I just let my SO know im buying it
@red_carr no never says no just if we don't have the money we have to figure it or wait till we do
Depends how expensive of a purchase it is, but I usually just buy things.
I guess I overall ask about everything except for groceries. Sometimes I don't depending on the cost
I ask for everything but he always tells me to wait or no
@red_carr, he is pretty good about it but sometimes it's a big no so I'm glad I ask
I just buy it. 🤷🏻♀️ My husband don't care!
But I hardly buy anything big or anything for me. It's always for the kids.
I work part time but my husband makes 90% of the income. I ask if it's something for me or something big
Ok crazy question djm....so when yall buy baby clothes do yall wash them or use them straight out the pack?
Since you ladies seem to have really good advice... How do yall feel about buying baby clothes from a thrift store?

WHAT DO YALL THINK ?? IM AT OVULATING OR...THIS IS A OVULATION KIT
Yall want to know something sad?? I have never been to a buy buy baby.
It depends. If it's something cheaper I usually just buy it, but if it's a little more pricey I usually let him know. I dont HAVE to ask, but I still do! Lol