Sorry venting.. please feel free to give any advice or small talks..
I haven’t been on here for a month, a lot has happen since then. I decided to stop trying. It was a year and something of trying to conceive and it never happened. I got tired of explaining to my partner what we should do. Because it was always me searching for ways to make baby making succeed it was like he didn’t wanna listen or do anything I recommend him to do, it always led to a fight, I thought to myself this isn’t healthy.. it can’t always be the “Woman” to figure it out is a “WE” thing not a “HER” thing and if he couldn’t get that I just made the decision by myself that isn’t worth trying.. besides this problem it was more deeper problems as well and I decided that it was best to separate, we still talk everyday but maybe isn’t that good that we do because it makes it harder to move on. Part of me wants to close this chapter but part of me just wants this space and break to teach him some growth and realize things got to change and hope we can go back together but stronger.. part of me feels I deserve wayyy more. But the history is what makes it hard to detach. the friendship of 10+ years before we got together.. the 3 1/2 years of being together.. took a big Lost loosing the twins a year and some months ago.. all that is hard to let go.. I feel so lost that I don’t know if I’m doing the right thing for myself. I wish a lot of things to change but I don’t know if they will. 💔
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You could always message me in private to talk about it. I know my situation is killing me inside too.
Did you guys try therapy to possibly work things out?? That loss would definitely take a huge toll on both of you, and I’m very sorry for your loss 😞 but if you feel you don’t want to be together then I agree that you should cut ties.
No therapy. Not sure it be an option. But he does understand that his not a good communicator he lacks on that and he knows he has a problem not showing emotions. Those are few reasons why I ended things with him. He never really express or showed his emotions about the twins. What hurt me is he would talk about it to others and females I don’t know about it but never to me. I have a lot of love for him and I would want him in my life of course but so much pain and broken trust and a lot of fixing to do but the real question is if he willing to do the work. Because I can’t continue to try and fix things by myself or put up with so much baggage..
@mary925, it takes two to fix things, you definitely can’t do it on your own.. maybe talk to him about therapy or having a good sit down? Find out if he is willing to put in the work to fix things, and if not then bye bye. You deserve better than someone who doesn’t want to better you guys.
@randysmomma, I lay everything out and talk to him but not too much in person to sit down and have a real conversation and point things out, maybe that’s where the big problem is too and I can be so realistic on that. We communicate more and say everything through a phone but not face to face like normal people should do. His the only guy I ever lasted this long with.
i feel like im in a very similar situation to be honest and its killing me.