Sooo up until June of this year my boyfriend, daughter, and I lived with my boyfriends mother. We lived with her my whole first pregnancy until my first daughter was two. We moved about 30 mins away from where we were living, and his mom moved too... to a house about 5 mins down the road... Well she asks to come over or have my daughter come to her house about every 3 days or so on average. At first it was kinda nice because I needed some extra help since we had our second daughter in July. Now I feel like I’m in a good routine, and don’t really need the help... I’m a person who really loves personal space, and I don’t know how to nicely tell her I don’t want her coming over/my daughter going over there that often. I usually say yes because I feel bad saying no. She is a very nice lady, and I know she is lonely because she lives alone, but I don’t want to feel like I have to yes all the time just because I feel bad for her. Ugh. I don’t know what to do.
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Just talk to her. Y’all lived with her for 2 year. She probably just misses having you guys and your daughter around
It’s always good to set boundaries in the beginning but you should definitely ask your boyfriend to talk to her or both of you. Just to establish personal space.
Maybe you can have a set schedule with her like “hey______, you can have (your daughter) on Wednesday and Saturdays. I really want to have her on the other days to do whatever. I mean I wouldn’t completely take away her time because she’s lonely and that’s grandma. My dad who will be a grandad I already know it’s going to be a joy ride.
This sounds like my grandmother she always wants my girls to come over or she is always at my house I even moved to get further away doesn’t matter she moves to
We were hoping moving a little further out would give us more personal space, but then she moved too... really close to us. It’s so frustrating. I love my space too. That’s why we moved out in the country with about two neighbors.😂
I agree, talk to her. I'll bet she's lonely... I actually live with my parents and the times I've taken my daughter places by myself, my mom (while she appreciates the quiet time to clean and things) misses her A LOT.... Says that she's better company than my father, who does speak more than 2 words all day long...
My Mom would have gone crazy already if not for my daughter.... 😃