So the donor to the child I’m currently pregnant with hasn’t talked to me since a week or so after I told him I was…

I would tell his family 🤷🏽‍♀️stop creating lives you don’t wanna be in.

I hate that men do that.

@leximonae1k, I’ve been thinking about it.

He told me he would be there for the child but he’s nowhere to be found 🙄.

I’m not even trying to be with him. Just don’t want this one to be without a dad too.

@brittanystewart304 I'm not in this situation but my thoughts are....I don't believe you can make someone be a father or a dad. If he chooses not to tell his family that's his business and I don't see what positive thing could come from it. You could get the court involved but a bunch of times it doesn't make men step up. I hope he has a good job cause he keeps producing babies like he can afford them.... Money and time!

I would defiantly tell them, babies are blessing. And I’m sure they would love to know that your mature enough to let them be in babies live, unlike him.

@scidg3, I’m not trying to make him be around or anything, but I feel like his family has a right to know.

I mean if I had a son and he was grown I’d expect him to tell me weather or not he wanted to be in the child’s life. I most definitely would want to.

I can’t say that I don’t care he isn’t trying to be around, because I went through this with my daughter and it bothers me, but if his family knew and wanted to be around then I would let them.

I would tell the family . But I wouldn’t expect him or the family to do anything for you or the baby . Only because you don’t want to be let down and if he wants to be in the baby life he will . You can’t force anyone to do what they don’t want to do . It’s his lost and he has to live with that forever and he has to answer to the most high. Keep being the awesome mother you are , stay strong and even if they don’t help screw them .

@luv_2b_amomma, I’m not trying to force him at all. I don’t even message him, but I feel like they should have a right to know. Just in case they would want to be around.

@brittanystewart304, not saying your trying to force him at all . I’m saying some people are douche bags and jerks . It’s a-shame even knowing about his daughter he isn’t around . But that’s somethings has to live with and answer for . Hopefully the family wants to be involved. But if not , stay strong and continue to be a great mom

I feel like there’s still plenty of time for him to tell his family. Plus he’s there for his other children because they are physically already here, there’s not much he can do for the pregnancy right now. He should try to keep in contact though.

@luv_2b_amomma, my daughters dad and his side of the family has NEVER been in her life. She doesn’t even know what he looks like. And by the looks of it, this child I’m carrying will have to go through the same thing bc if the donor to it 😔.

But the way I see it, more lovins an everything for me.

@modom16, when I told him he first tried to say it wasn’t his just so he wouldn’t have to deal with it. And may not be much he can do now, but he could ask how the appointments have been goin an stuff but he doesn’t even acknowledge this pregnancy. && he doesn’t want to tell his family because he don’t want them to talk shit about him and be upset with him.

So clearly he doesn’t want to be involved, which is fine.

@brittanystewart304, hopefully he comes around and I hope the family is open and loving . It’s sad when kids don’t have both parents around . And if he’s around for his other 2 kids I’m thinking he will come around for this one but maybe it will take him some time to come around . Give him a little more time to come around and see what he does . Then I f he hasn’t did anything by 25 weeks or so then I would tell the family . Hopefully you don’t even have to do that .

I wouldn't... cast them all out and get child support when you can. Telling them wouldn't affect much I can imagine.

@brittanystewart304, I’m sorry you have to go thru this again! One day you will a great man and great father to your babies . Momma all your baby’s need is you and who wants a baby daddy to stress over let it be his loss. And definitely let his family know your having his baby, I’m sure his family will love to have you and the babies around you never know until you try😘Good luck momma xoxoxox

@melissaredfield87, thank you ☺️

I see it both ways. At the end of the day this is your baby and you just want what’s best but I don’t really think telling HIS family for him will be the best way to make any sort of hopeful start to him being actively involved. It’s really his choice about when he tells his family. For now in my opinion you just do you and your babies. Good luck though for whatever you decide is best.