I've been in my step daughters life since she was 1 she is now 7. Weve had our ups and downs but I feel like weve come…

She's only 7 mama, I'm sure she's missing her birth mom, I was like this at her age

@uglymombeautifulboy0910 I understand I lived with my step mom and dad all growing up I was in her shoes but never would I have imagined saying and doing some of the things she does. I understand shes 7 that's why I try to be empathetic but I have feelings too. Lately she acts like I'm a monster if she has to stay in a room with me for then 5 mins she wants to cry. Every time I say something to her shes screaming at me. Shes put her hands on me a few times thrown stuff at me and slammed doors in my face. She even said she doesnt want to go to her brothers Bday party because I'm going to be there. I feel like no matter what I do or say it isnt good enough. I try hard not to exclude her and make her feel loved but its getting me no where.

If shes still in contact with her birth mom it could always be her telling your daughter to say those things. A similar situation happened with my sister and her step kids. The bio mom had the child say the craziest things just to bring up the question "why doesn't she want to go there" to school officials

@adalynes.mommy yep she sees her on some weekends. She might be saying things. But whatever it is it has to be fixed I dont need her making scenes at school and ppl thinking shes being abused I have a son to think about and a baby on the way also. So I'm just stuck on what to do

@aileenquinter123 maybe have her dad sit down and talk with her? Try and get to the bottom of where her random change of behavior is coming from. You don't need her causing scenes that could possibly make dcs get involved. Especially since you're not doing anything they would just be wasting their efforts and your time.

It probably has nothing to do with you & everything to do with feeling disappointed about her relationship with her mother. Maybe she feels like she’s not a priority since she only goes over there on weekends. Does mom have another kid or a new boyfriend? She could be taking her frustrations with her mother out on you, the other mother figure in her life. Maybe she needs to see a counselor to help her with any feelings she may be having.

@ek620 yeah her mom just got married and has another daughter. Her mom keeps telling her shes going to live there with her soon. I know she has anger with that because she wants to live with her. But she cannot be putting her hands on me slamming doors in my house and being mean to her brother. Im the only structure that little girl has ever had and i'm sure she hates it because her mom lets her do whatever she wants. Like the other day she came back from her moms putting her hands on the ground and shaking her butt singing the twerk song. I told her she is not to do that here and it's been a whole thing because "I'm not letting her have fun. " i'm just pregnant tired and frustrated.

Don't bejust u and her have a girls day out and just talk to her

@lawsondeaja I've tried that multiple times it doesn't seem to help. She is fine while we are out and as soon as we are back home im a monster.

She misses her mom just talk to her let her know u don't trying to replace her mom

Im sorry i have a step daughter too who right now lives with us. Sometimes she can upset me but i mean i just try to make it work again. When she was little i think a lot of it was her mom she told me she wanted her mom and dad together and it really upset me.

@momof3dragons I've tried for 6 years to be understanding now im getting to the point where I have feelings too and now that i'm 23 weeks pregnant it isn't always easy for me to put on a strong face

@aileenquinter123 wasn't easy for me either. I don't think i'm having as many problems as you though. Shes 16 i been in her life sense she was 5. She goes to counseling for the issues she has with her real mom. Maybe that can benefit her?

@aileenquinter123 sometimes her dad thinks im being mean to her and i swear im just trying to help her and that upsets me as well

@momof3dragons yeah I'm going to talk to her dad about trying that. Yeah I'm always being told I'm too mean why because I don't want a 7 year old dancing shaking her butt wearing bras or talking disrespectful to ppl? I think that makes me a parent who cares.