Okay so I know everybody usually has a different opinion on these things I’m about to ask but I’d just really like to know what you ladies think about them!
1. Since I’m a SAHM is the house work all my job?
2. Since I don’t work & I’m not married to my SO, is it out of the “norm” for him to still kind of share his money? (Not like put me in his account or whatever but should it be a big deal if I need/want to get $20 out to get something or if I’m going somewhere)
3. Even though he’s worked all day in the heat should I still be the sole caretaker of our daughter when he gets home?
Several people tell me that since I live with him and we have a child his money shouldn’t just belong to him and that if/when I need a little bit it shouldn’t even be an issue for me to go draw it out of the ATM. Also, me and him have had the debate about he works and takes care of the yard so the house work is all mine (he does help with the dishes and laundry though) we don’t usually have any issues anymore about him helping with our daughter when he gets home he usually volunteer but I’d still like to hear some opinions on it 🤣
1. I believe the majority of the housework should be your responsibility. Do you need to keep the house at 100% 24/7? Absolutely not. We all have off days. But at the very least everything should be in decent shape when he gets home. That being said, if there's something you HATE doing or aren't good at, he should pick up that slack. For example, my husband sucks at doing laundry (or maybe pretends to lol) so I do the laundry on my day off.
2. He should share his money with you. I think it does depend on what it's for however. If he's paying all the bills and providing you with all you need technically he is sharing his money. Let's say you want to get your nails done, should he pay for that? My opinion, it depends. Can you he comfortably afford it? Does he buy things for himself? You should be treated as an equal. So if he's going out with the guys once a week, you should be able to go out if you choose as well.
3. I've always said when I get home from work my husband's responsibilities with our daughter don't stop. But at that time, we share the caretaking. Why? Because he worked all day taking care of her and I worked my job all day. It's not fair for me to come home and tag him out meanwhile I need to continue "working". We share the responsibilities until she goes down to sleep. Once she's in bed idc what he does that's his time and my time. Sometimes we spend it together and sometimes we go to our own spots and relax.