@alice-quinnsmommy, i appreciate it! Lol

@braindeadmama lol, it's not a problem. I will accept it so you can see the other posts, I explain some of his issues in one of them.

Not really an “lol” moment because this is a shitty situation. I apologize for my inappropriate “lol”

I followed you because i want more to this story lol

@sweetsap88 Yeah, she will not do anything to go against him or push him. And no not Muslim they are like opposite side of that scale.

She could put him on child support, or take him to court. Yea, cousin and cousin marriage can be difficult on the entire family, especially when there are disagreements between the spouses. I thought they were Muslim until you mentioned a pastor, consanguineous relations are common in that group.

@sweetsap88 I know, they are just the sweetest boys.. he is the father, she will not leave him because she doesn't want to be alone and I believe the fact that they are cousins is another reason she won't leave because of what it would cause to the family around them. I tried to tell her if she left she could get help and they would get what they need but she wouldn't ever listen to me and always had an excuse.

Whhaatt? I look at babies and children and can't understand why anyone would want to hurt them, directly or indirectly. They are so innocent. Is he not the father of the children? She can take him to court and put him on child support, even though they are married. Then she could use that money for their care.

Does she want to divorce him though?

@leroydoom oh, I agree. She talks to the Pastpr of the church she goes to that i used to go to but he told her there isnt anything in the bible technically about not marrying your cousin, so the one other person she talks to about it literally tells her that it isn't even a means to divorce...

Yes that's a huge reason we aren't friends, there's a lot more to it than just that but that's like all over other topics so won't get into that lol.

@alice-quinnsmommy Ugh, she needs serious counseling, and I mean that sincerely. It wouldn't be so bad if her actions were only harming herself.

I want to throat punch her and I don't know her. 😅

I can see why your no longer friends.

@leroydoom she kept pushing, saying she wanted another baby and her husband replied with, "what if it ends up like the boys?" She responded with, "So what?" I don't think they will because he really doesn't want to. I pray the same thing. It is, this was 11 years ago and we live(d) and they got married in North Idaho. I don't know if it's actually in place there but they came from California where I'm pretty sure it is.

Its majorly illegal (felony) in Texas.

I just pray for those innocent little boys and hope to God they don't have anymore children together.

Also, isn't incest, I don't know, illegal in most states? Couldn't they actually be charged? They can't play the, "well we didn't know" card.

(Genuinely curious.)

@leroydoom That's what I had been saying. She has to know if she can't tell anyone.

@leroydoom that's just generations of siblings and cousins just being with eachother instead of going out and getting others..... oh that is nasty!

@alice-quinnsmommy when you have to keep it a secret, you're embarrassed of what others will think, and you know in your heart what you're doing isn't right. Smh.

There's a reason why marrying into the family is frowned upon.

The family The Hills Have Eyes was loosely based on were inbreeding, they were said to have so many deformities that when they came down to shop at the big stores in the city before Christmas, the city locals could spot them easily. They inbred so much that they literally made up a secluded town of their own kind in the mountains. 😷

@leroydoom Yeah, and she has kept this a secret from the majority of people except the actually family and a few people for years acting like this is totally crazy and out of the blue. 😷😷

Now I totally see what you mean by they had a hand in their son's conditions. Genetically, their chances were astronomically higher of inheriting a passed-down disease.

How is the family okay with that? That's just crazy.

@alice-quinnsmommy 😱😣 just, ew.

@leroydoom it would be weird if you found out, but these people grew up together. He is 7 years older.. thus guy literally held his wife as a baby....

@leroydoom @leroydoom Yeah, first cousins, and the kids I am talking about is the little boy and his brother I've been posting about who is in critical condition and expected to be leaving us soon.

I had the "what if we found out we were actually related" talk with my son's father and we both agreed it'd be too weird to stay together. (I have some cousins with his mom's maiden name, but its a fairly common one, which led to the conversation 😂.)

Those poor kids (since I believe I have an idea of whom your talking about.) 😢

@alice-quinnsmommy woah, and they're related? This just plateaued to a whole new level of disgusting. 😕

@emily526 Yes, just constantly through the entirety of the friendship talking about how negative he was and how sick of it she is. I think there is more to it than just that though, because they made a big mistake in being together as they are actually related so I think she's more worried of how it will affect family dynamics with everyone else. She doesn't believe in divorce, which I can get on board with, don't just give up or anything but when a relationship is absolutely awful and the situations are severe the best interest for yourself and your children should trump ANY other thoughts you have.

@alice-quinnsmommy She absolutely could get help until she was able to get on her feet. He sounds like he doesn't have his families best interest in mind. I have a friend in a similar situation. So tired of hearing her complain about how terrible her husband is yet she won't leave because of the same reason, she doesn't want to be alone.

@emily526 Yeah, she won't leave him because she doesn't want to be alone. That's not even the worst part of their relationship, there is so much more just with that, but I can't even understand HOW he could think it's okay not to, last year he remodeled both their bathrooms, the living room, pulled out the island in their kitchen and did new trimming everywhere, then re did the stairs from carpet to wood... He's extremely selfish and she won't do anything about it. I even tried to tell her that if she did leave she would be able to get help from the government until she could do something herself and they would get what they needed.

I'm confused at the part that says "your husband doesn't want to pay for them". If my child is sick and needs something and my husband is the sole provider and refuses to get what they need he can GTFO.

@fakoffyeh Okay, so I'm not the only one who sees it that way. I am trying to be supportive for this family because they are going through a lot right now, even though we aren't close and this is one of the many reasons why, and I love the kids but no one around them sees this and I just ache for the kids.