Okay, mommas I need to vent to someone please.. So my fiance goes to his Co workers house (female) at 1:30pm to leave…

That's suuuuper sketchy.

Girl I’d ask and if he gets mad you know somethings up

@jroe well it hasn't happened since it happened but next time it does, there will be a problem

@lacysmith0217, oh still that’s disrespectful that he lets her especially when you told him that it bothers you

@jroe no she calls him babe

@lacysmith0217, no that IS very disrespectful to your relationship. He shouldn’t be calling other women babe, that’s a dumb excuse! Any man would know better...

@abcd1131 yes... I got upset about it he laughed and said she calls everyone babe. I said idc you have a woman, that's disrespectful I think... I said that's just like me calling another man babe....

@lacysmith0217, girl she called him babe ????

@lacysmith0217, that’s kind of an immature reaction

@jroe I've tried he got mad and just laughed at me

Does he talk about her often? Or mentions stuff having to do with her?

So he got home at 240ish last night... and last night she called him babe in a text...... he just laughed at me.. bc I was upset....

Is it your fiancé that doesn’t have a car? I would say I think it’s time we look for a car for you. See what his reaction is.

U have a right to ask n he shouldn't get mad cuz if roads were reversed how would he feel

So is the coworker actually 60, or you’re assuming that? Young people are notoriously bad at judging ages. An older woman might be offering him something he is lacking. Don’t count her out because you think she’s “so old”.

Honestly has he given you a reason not to trust him or you just feel like you don’t trust him because of your past relationships?

I’d talk to him & come straight forward & say “I feel sketched out when you....it doesn’t make sense that you’re out for this long...etc”. Best thing you can do is communicate with him & like I said if he gets mad right away usually that means something is up that he doesn’t want you poking around.

Message me if you want to 😊 I’ve been through this before (similar) a bunch of times.

Part of me wonders if he is just trying to get fast food, drink (not alcohol), or simply drive a longer way home to decompress from work. I guess my brain assumes he is probably hungry by then and at 4am can't do a lot of eating in the house? Idk either way I hope all is well!!

@lacysmith0217, I hope for your sake it is just overthinking! My husband is in med school and he had to do a rotation at the children’s hospital. It’s crazy what kinds of problems can come from cheating spouses it’s no joke for sure. If you really want to scare him out of his wits and pull him back to earth pretend that you have a friend whose husband cheated while they were pregnant and look up some cases of what damage it did to their babies and make sure to go into full details because I guarantee after my husband did that rotation cheating was NOT happening! He wanted a perfectly healthy baby. It scared me when he was telling me the story not that I would cheat but that I had no idea the risks!!

@barebon but he doesn't drink. .. I'd I fell like I'm over thinking.....

@lacysmith0217, I know my dumb husband will plan drinks with the guys after work and say he’s working late just to avoid me getting mad. Yeah it’s irritating when he’d rather go drinking then spend time with family but I honestly would prefer a man to be honest over me being upset for like 2min. A while back I programmed my phone to get his texts since his wasn’t working and now I see all the plans lol shhhhh.... but seriously it’s never what you think. One time my husband helped a tutor a girl in his class in exchange for getting a great deal on a snowboard. I’m always freaking out about these circumstances because of past relationship experiences. It could also be that she is after him, or enjoys his company and he has no interest but still amuses her. 🤷🏻‍♀️Lol My husband has stated he knew girls he hung out with in the past might have been trying to go after him.

@lacysmith0217, I can’t imagine feeling that way with being pregnant. I would be a basket case. You are handling it way better than I could lol. I would have already been waiting on the porch for them to pull up. I would walk to the car and be like well damn why are you getting home later now. Props to you girl!! Just don’t stress yourself out about it because you are pregnant! But you are smart for getting proof first!!

@rockyrrt lol I didn't think about that.. I mean I may just spark up a conversation asking if he honestly loves me... and just tell him how I feel even though it's gonna start an argument. ..

@lincolnsmommy18 your fine I just wanna get some proof up first kind of lol before I open my mouth that way if he tries to lie I can call him out on it.. I just don't understand it.. I mean I'm 21 weeks pregnant with his first baby, he just idk he is spacing himself away from us..

Oh okay, I completely misread the ring part sorry lol. But still. I mean I had to have my wedding ring cut off because my finger was so swollen. But my husband doesn’t look at it as a way not to wear his... idk just go with what you feel is right!!!

@lincolnsmommy18 he done something with my ring so I can't wear it bc he said if I don't wear mine he isn't wearing his.. and he bottles moonshine lol

I feel like if he wasn’t doing anything you should be able to talk to him about it without him getting mad or defensive. It’s reasonable to just ask, tell him the way you feel. If he wasn’t doing anything he would want you to be comfortable and assure you nothing was going on. But I feel if he gets mad and defensive he’s got something to hide. He should also be proud to wear his ring. That shows he is happily married. The only reason he wouldn’t wear it is to hide it and get the look that he’s “single”. I know my husband can’t wear his ring at work because of his job but he made sure he bought the silicone ring so he could wear it. I would say always trust your gut!!!! First sign is how he reacts to you trying to talk about it... I’m sorry you are going through this..

@lacysmith0217, Thats kind of an odd situation. If you don’t think she’s the type he’d cheat with I’d go with my gut. Maybe they grab a drink after work or something. I don’t know what kind of work he does but I know that sometimes I’d get stuck after work or talking with coworkers and time passes quicker than you realize not to mention getting two people out the door. Maybe he’s waiting for her as she is talking to friends. Does he do recreational drugs? That could also be something. I wouldn’t jump straight to the cheating assumption because starting up that drama is always the worse!! Stay positive. You never know with these crazy guys!! Lol 😂

@malbhurtado I just have to clean out a path through the room so I don't fall and wake up my youngest lol hahaha but I mean I hope he would be a grown man about things ya know and not do it but now a days you can't trust many people...

@malbhurtado well he usually got home around 2:30ish.. when he first started riding with her.. our car had broke down and she gave him a ride to and from... she came here to get him, now it's I have to take him to her house. Or he gets mad. Says he will walk. And they were getting off at 1:30am... now he says they all work till 2am. But the 55 min drive puts him at 3am getting here but not 4.... he comes in high, which he has ptsd... I know he smokes and I guess she does as well.... and I just think it's getting to close I thought but watching out the window tonight when they pull up and see if anything is off.. I mean I hate feeling this way... and I can't talk to him about it... he gets mad.

@jroe yeah! that's what I'm thinking bc I mean I was in a relationship with my ex for 2 years and I ended up finding out he cheated 14 times. I just don't want it to happen again .. I already told him from day one not to cheat, nor lie to me, if you want something or someone else just tell me and we can go our separate ways... I can take care of my kids myself... I didn't need a man..

I agree, doesn’t sound right. I would confront him about it & tell him what’s on your mind & how you feel. Usually when people get mad at things like that right away that means something fishy is going on. From what you have told are a bunch of red flags.

@abcd1131 hahaha she's not a cougar! ! Only if yall could see her!! Hahaha I already told him if he does cheat on me with her then that's on him but when I find out me and all 3 babies are gone... and I'll act like I didn't even know him I'll hurt him way more then he ever did me.... which another odd thing is he never wears his band, he made me wear my ring all the time, I took it off one night to do dishes and I put it on microwave with his.. and the next day he mentioned why is your ring off? I was like I took it off last night to do dishes. So it didn't come off in water.. and now it's disappeared and can't find it anywhere... I think he done something with it, so he doesn't have to wear his....

That's suuuuper sketchy.

@lacysmith0217, woah girl she’s a cougar... for sure I’d definitely have a problem and call her out and see what he says about that call her names see if he gets mad lol.

@bcsweetie he says he works with all women but they are all old... his mom works there but she has chemo. Most days.. and then doesn't work all the time... I mean she was 60 years old I didn't think anything about it... but it's just getting odd lately, last night he got home at 400am.. after texting me at 2:25am saying he just left and was on his way home... and as soon as he got here he put his clothes in the washer, and didn't even kiss me goodnight like he always does... not even a goodnight...

@smithjasmine0325 well I mean he would make jokes like I'll hurry and leave so your bf can come over... blah blah but I can't joke about him messing with her he is like your f***ing nasty. . Blah blah... and randomly he's like you know I'd never cheat on you...

Girl I’d ask and if he gets mad you know somethings up

@abcd1131 she's like 60 something and messing with her sons best friend he is like 20s or 30s.. and my man is 26 but is into older women. I'm the 1st younger woman he has been with..

😪 girl something definitely sounds off. I wouldn’t allow it any longer.., does she have a bf or single?