Ladies would you help your So with bills that are less that 1.000 a month? I don't want to be selfish but I feel like a…

@nachely12 no I'm not offended I really ask for everyone's experiences to see how to make the financial part of my marriage better

@prettyflower1033, wasn’t trying to offend I promise but I understand u will find a way

@nachely12 I was just worried about the savings having to go on maternity leave and all and planning to stay at home for at least 6 months after birth was my major concern.. But I understand thank you

You are being selfish sorry 🤷🏻‍♀️ if he happens to ask for help is because you as his significant partner should pick up whatever he can’t do. Bills shouldn’t be a his or hers and plus it’s so much better when there is two incomes coming in the house that way u both can rest take days off when u want too. Anywho just my opinion everyone is different but me if my man puts a thousand on the table I want to b able to slap the table right back with another thousand

@dinamarie1995 oh got gotcha thanks

@jrhynard25 thank you for sharing I appreciate it makes sense

Every couple does things different when it comes to finances. It’s just important to find what works for you guys. I would guess if he’s struggling to pay his portion of the bills it’s a good time to sit down and talk about how to fix it. We have not always shared finances. We were older when we got married and we both are established in our careers. It took us some time to start sharing finances. Initially we just both contributed a set amount to a household account where we paid all of our bills out of as well as where we allocated money to savings from. Then we both maintained our own “fun” money. It was a good stepping stone to sharing finances but still allowed us our own freedom to spend our fun money as we each wanted to. Over time we transitioned to sharing money. Having a budget and talking it through regularly is really important. Good luck! 👍🏻

Ever since we moved in together our money got put as one. We don’t split. Even though I call his money my money as a joke lol. I have a car payment but his checks pay it. And we console each other with every purchase we make for our selfs. Not like we will say no but to make sure we have the money. I also write down all bills and sort them out with all of our checks to make sure they will all be paid on time and we have enough.

@raqueliiosiis Yes thank you I will definitely talk to him and come up with a better strategy..

@taylorsmommy1017 I guess I'm just worried about not working after the baby arrives. Thanks for replying.

@alyssa5792 Thanks for sharing this with me

@beccaaalynnn11 I would never watch him struggle..

@beccaaalynnn11 yeah most definitely watch him struggle at all just doesn't want his expectations to be the same after I have the baby.

@prettyflower1033, no worries good luck. Talk to him maybe think about one of you paying the bills. Like with us my husband pays all the bills including my car payment. I’m in charge of grocery shopping and buying whatever we need in the house

@raqueliiosiis Thanks for breaking this down for me. I appreciate it

There’s no such thing as helping my husband with bills they are our bills. Our money is together. All our bills get paid from the same joint account, my credit cards his credit cards EVERYTHING! Our money gets put away in the same savings account and we have a rainy day fund that we keep in the event something goes wrong. I think the mentality that you don’t have to help your husband is ridiculous when you get married your a team and I’m sorry but if you think a man needs to pay for everything your logic is flawed. My husband makes more money than I do and we normally buy whatever we want unless it’s more than 100$ then we communicate with each other before buying it.

- Do you guys split the bills ? Personally, I made more money than my ex, but he always tried to pay everything. It was a southern learned thing for him. The man pays. Which is cool. Our first date, I always sneak my card to the waiter at the beginning, he managed to pay anyways 😅 I was so shocked. And in awe. It was new to me. But yeah. Why watch him struggle ya know. Help build your castle. But make sure he knows when you have your baby that you won’t be able to help much. If at all. 💪🏻❤️

In my marriage we don't have my money your money it's all our money like its our house and our children , and the things in the house are ours why when it comes to money ppl start saying mine or yours

@beccaaalynnn11 its rent and utilities combined. Like most people have major bills I'll rather him not complain about our bills

- Are they extras ? Something you don’t use or benefit from ? If not then yes. You’re a team.. $1,000 ain’t shit. Does he blow his money ?

@prettyflower1033, Ohhhh. No. You are married. His money is your money & vice versa.

@aileen_west yeah I definitely agree

@ek620 see the thing is he can. Not sure How to explain this. He just believe that we should just split everything. Or pay some of the bills even if it has to come out of my rainy day saving.

YES! You are a team

@noenahiza Hoping that they will pay me maternity leave for 6 weeks.

@prettyflower1033, It sounds like if he’s unable to pay the bills then you might need to go back to work sooner than you had planned to. Have you talk to him about this?

@prettyflower1033 okay than that's a different story. Are you going to have any type of income while being on maternity leave??

YES obviously if we live together are married and have a family to provide for then I say if you can then absolutely ! Team work makes the dream work :)

@ek620 Although he is soon to be the only one with an income.

@prettyflower1033, Then yes, I think you should help pay the shared expenses. You two are a unit. I would never expect my husband to pay for everything on his own.

@ek620 Yes he is my Husband

@noenahiza yeah I agree we are a team although he knows you will be on maternity leave and won't be returning to work for at least 6 months or so

@prettyflower1033, Do you guys live together?

@ek620 Rent &utilities

I would i mean we are a team and not just becuase his the man he has to pay for everything, i see no problem in paying bills

Need more info. What bills? Things that are shared like rent & utilities? Or things that are solely his?