Opinions needed. So my husbands childhood friend who we see every so often who also is the brother to my husbands…

I would send some flowers and a card giving your sincere condolences. I'm sure they have much more in their mind right now than to judge you for not coming.

In my personal opinion I wouldn’t be able to handle seeing the baby, especially with being pregnant and all. Pay them a visit maybe or send flowers or something showing your condolences that way. I’m sure they will understand.

I couldn't go to view. That would rip my heart out and give me nightmares forever. Plus I've seen a lot of women on here leave the app cus they miscarried and could no longer stand all pregnant news and baby pics on here

I would just be honest and ask them how they feel. They might want that support of you there or it could be painful. Maybe you could sit in the back kinda out of sight?

When i was pregnant with my son my best friend and his girlfriend got pregnant too and due 2 months after my son was born but their baby was stillborn and i avoided bringing my baby around them for a long time because i didnt know how to handle it myself but once i finally did my bestfriend told me that he loved seeing my son even though it hurt him to think about the son they lost and the first time i went over there with my son his girlfriend had tears in her eyes and it broke my heart i felt so terrible.

It is up to you 100 %don't feel guilty..you don't need any extra stress your almost at the end of your pregnancy..most people who are sick or pregnant or with a newborn I haven't usually seen at a funeral/viewing of a deceased..the body gives off many toxins /gases of organs shutting down when we pass away especially if they aren't in the morgue having an embalming..in the Jewish culture which I am we don't usually embalm the deceased....may that baby be in the arm's of the Angel's sad situation for them

From personal experience... I always resented people for not being there for us when my baby died at 38 weeks. I felt everyone pushed back and put their own feelings and opinions before our needs. I felt hurt when most of my close friends and family decided not to show up or even say a word when we did the service and funeral. I second what another previous poster suggested about possibly asking them directly. I always hate when people just assume what's best. Obviously not everyone reacts the same but once again this is from personal experience. Good luck and just try to be supportive.

Thanks ladies.

@liza286 can't imagine what you have gone thru 💓

@sherrynygirl 💜

Update: so we ended up going. It was awful but I’m glad I did. I was sobbing before I even got up there. It just hit so close to home. Me and his wife just stood there hugging each other sobbing so hard. Because the boys were supposed to be less than a week apart. They also said something about getting together soon which I’m glad about. I didn’t want this to cause us to not see each other if that makes sense.