I want to scream at my husband. He’s being so selfish doing all these fun summer things that I can’t do. I want to make…

I’m sorry you are going through this. Sometimes I feel like men just don’t understand. Maybe he is scared of the big change a baby brings and almost acting out. But still if that is true he needs to grow up an realize he is in the wrong. My husband and I always do everything together within reason so when I was pregnant and couldn’t go kayaking he would go but he was considerate of me being bummed out and didn’t do it all the time. He too got a motorcycle and went riding with my step dad and I had to put my foot down because they were doing it all the time all weekend every weekend for a little bit. I had to explain that we needed time together too before things changed with baby coming. It’s all about communication and I hope he can see your side too. My husband is so much more understanding this pregnancy than last because I think he was absolutely clueless about what our bodies go through. And sometimes he just needs to be told/asked to do stuff like I will say hey can you come in here and help me clean this because I’m having a rough day and want to get it done but need some help. Or hey carry the baby because I don’t need to be lol.

@the.real.og, thank you. I’m relieved now. I won’t be over doing it any more trying to work full time and get the house in order. Plus my husband will be able to still go out but he will be able to see me trying to do things and hopefully want to help or more. Work won’t be happy but I dont care.

@hollya1221, good luck to you too. We just got married last year and I don’t plan on getting divorced. He just needs a wake up call is all.

@the.real.og, yeah I think we have settled on Friday being my last day. As in two days away.

@the.real.og, my other child has been at his dads for most of the summer. Which isn’t helping my emotions because I miss him. So yeah I feel like I’m only here to grow this kid and he gets to have fun.

@the.real.og, riding his motorcycle for hours, paddle boarding with the female coworkers, going to the gun range, and riding the 4 wheelers at the dunes. When he’s not doing that he’s at friends houses hanging out or at work. Soooo I don’t think I’m out of place in saying he needs to spend more time at home to help get it ready or I’m gonna start maternity leave now.

@ohnstadk, oh don’t get me wrong I have been very generous, he bought a motorcycle and goes to hang out with his friends. He does things all the time. Like he’s never home. But I am now 34 weeks and the babies room isn’t done. The crib isn’t put together. Like nothing. I can’t do it all and work full time. I’m in enough pain as it is. But he needs to start helping me as well. I don’t mind once in a while but it’s all the time

Honestly I'm the opposite, I don't want my boyfriend to suffer just because I know I wouldn't be comfortable going to the beach, I encourage him to go out all the time to the gym, with friends, out drinking... that way when my twins are here he won't be stressed, worn out and feeling taken advantage of a bored. The more he has to stay just cause of me the more I feel that gives him space to be resentful and I don't want that. Ironically encouraging him to go out all the time has the opposite effect and he chooses to stay with me, instead of feeling forced to

@jacob_mommy, I agree.

@nbentley88, I’ll try, I don’t think it will work though. He also just bought a motorcycle. And he thinks I should just continue to work. I get that we need the money but my body cannot take it any more. I’m 35 and have a couple health issues that are making things a lot harder at the moment.

@jacob_mommy, I’m sorry. Mine doesn’t try to make time for just us. He’s all about him and what he wants. I just want to take time off from work so I’m not miserable. He sees how bad I am but it doesn’t register for him.

I would just voice your feelings. I was feeling like that too, I'm like super needy with him this pregnancy but they don't realize it unless we come forward about it. Hugs mama