done having kids
For those of you who are done having kids, did you just like know or what? We have two kids. Ds is going to be 4 on the 30th and I just had dd Feb 6th. My fiance says he doesn't want anymore. As of now, I don't feel like I want anymore either but I honestly don't know. I've always wanted three kids. We are still young (I'm 21, and he's 22) I'm no where near even thinking about having another at the moment. I really wanna get settled in life with good income and a nice home before having anymore if we do. So really, my question is, how do you know you're just done having kids?
I'm 24 with 6 I'm more then done. With my last almost 3 months now I couldn't work and that pregnancy was so hard on my body. All though my labor and delivery went okay I don't want to go through it again. My husband wants one more and I can't imagine having another. Maybe when I'm 30 but no time soon. Compromise I guess lol.
I’m 29 with 4 kids. 3 boys and one girl (7 weeks). I’m done. I literally signed my tubal papers yesterday. Hubby agrees no more kids. Especially because I didn’t expect to have my first two at one time, lol. It sounds like you’re still somewhat unsure. When you know, you just KNOW.
Personally, I’m ready to go into my 30’s with them not being babies and enjoy doing things with them being older...and get some sleep. Lol.
That being said, I am really enjoying the time I have left with my last newborn right now.❤️
We originally only wanted two, we had an oops baby, and then decided to have one more as a nice even number. After that I was DONE!! No more! Both myself and my husband were happy with not having any more.
Well our youngest is now four and we’ve decided we’d like just one more! So never say never. ?
I always wanted three and my dh wanted two. I started having kids in my 30’s and after two dds, dh got a vasectomy. We both agreed that fostering/adopting is an option for us if we ever want to expand our family. If i was younger, I don’t think we would have made it permanent though
I only have one child. When she was 3, the baby fever hit HARD. My dh and I ttc for close to 5 years with no luck, but by the end of those years that feeling of “I NEED to have another baby” had basically disappeared. The older and more independent my dd gets, the less desire I have to start back at square one. So for me it was gradual, but at this point I KNOW I don’t want any more kids.
When we got married, my husband wanted 11 kids. I said no. I only want two and if we have one boy and one girl, I’m done. So I had my son at 27 yrs old and then my daughter at 29. It was perfect but I didn’t get a tubal because my husband still wanted more. He would be upset if I did without his agreement. Time went on and we had another girl. I was 31 yrs old. Our children are all so cute and darling, what’s one more? So he talks me into baby #3. But It’s weird, after my third, I wanted one more to even out the score. My husband was done but I wasn’t. So we tried for one more and had a mmc. I was devastated but I still wanted one more and we got our rainbow baby now. I’m 18 weeks pregnant. Then We both new that we were done. I’m 36 yrs old now. My husband is content with our family. I’m content. I also feel old and can’t take anymore pregnancies. It’s this feeling you get and you just know when you are done. It’s like there’s no one who needs to convince you. You just know it. If you are not sure, don’t get permanent birth control.
My sis had a hard time getting pregnant but she eventually did and has a boy and girl. Her girl is 6 and her boy is 3. At the time, she felt she was done. She got her tubes tied but three yrs later she feels regret because now she wants one more. She’s 35 yrs now. Sometimes you also get the feeling you are done and then get a tubal. It can happen yrs later too that you want one more.
It’s a hard decision but again, if you are unsure now then don’t get permanent. Maybe to avoid regret like my sis is to be on birth control for a few years and if you feel you are done two or three yrs from now, then get a tubal.
@TC I've basically told people I'm scared I won't ever be done and end up with 20 kids ? bahaha no , gosh no ! But I know the feeling, I only THINK I'll be done after my 4th if the spd gets worse just because it's excruciating ?
But I haven't conceived my fourth yet so I really don't know ?
I knew because we always only wanted 2 kids. Plus we started later on having kids. I was 31 with my 1st and 33 with my 2nd. Would have loved to have a girl, as I have 2 sons, but that’s just life for me and I’m ok with that. There was no way I was going to try for a girl because i probably would have ended up with 3 boys lol. You’re still very young so I wouldn’t count out having another just yet. But only u 2 can make that choice!! Good luck and congrats on the newest addition
I’m 8 months with baby 3 now. We had always said 2 or 3 but throughout this pregnancy it’s kind of turned into 3 or 4... so still not sure if we’re done after this baby ?
We are older though and have put a time frame on it, basically if we aren’t ready to try for another baby in 2 years (as this one is turning 2) then we aren’t having more. We really struggled for over a year with whether or not to try for this baby as life was getting easier and the world seems to be set up for 2 kid families - but I definitely wasn’t done.
I have five kids and still don't feel done. Lol. The baby fever is more fleeting, than it has ever been before, tho, so I see that as progress ??
Dh got a vasectomy, tho, so that window is closed for good. Some days I already feel stretched so thin, so our decision was mostly bc I wanted to make sure we had time for the kids we have. (Ok, my decision bc dh was happy with 3 ?)
Well after dd (#3 child) we said no more but then when she started getting older i thought maybe another in a few years.. to my surprise i was already pregnant. ? definitely definitely didnt plan it. I was depressed for like 2 months, but honestly I am happy now I'm 18 weeks. With dd I was sad with every faze knowing it was the last and i'd cry. This time I'm ready to be done. This is like my "bonus baby" haha since we weren't really wanting another. This time its like a silent whisper deep inside.. like I know this chapter is closing in my life forever and i'm ok with that. That is why I'm getting my tubes tied. If you dont feel like that then you aren't ready to be done. Trust me. Thought I was done after my daughter nope definitely not now I know I'm done.
I never wanted any kids. I'm now expecting baby number 3 and I can say after this one I am fully done. I already have 2 boys and would like a girl to complete the family but weather this baby is a boy, Girl, alien (like my oldest wants it to be-.-) or a dinosaur (like my youngest wants it to be-.-) I am fully done x
I would love another, but the bf doesnt. He has a 10 year old from a previous relationship so he doesnt want anymore. He originaly only wanted one when we first got together, but changed his mind but my baby wasnt planned we were planning on waiting for a couple more years. As much as im dying to give him a younger sibling closer in age, im happy with just my boy.
imo when there’s something in you saying you don’t want any more is when you’re done. Kinda like when you’re full and you just know you’ll vomit if you have one more bite lol
Im done with my 2 boys. I enjoy sleep and want to go back to work. Also Adding another is another mouth to feed and I just want to have a nice even amount. Two is great for us and financially manageable. I cannot imagine us with 3
It’s funny cuz when my husband and I did our pre marital counseling and talked kids I was certain I wanted 6 and he was on the fence about one. Then I got pregnant and my world flipped upside down. It was nothing that I dreamed of. I had a horrible pregnancy and that’s when I knew I was done. But After we had her my husband wanted 10 more of her. Lol so our thoughts changed...Now I’m pregnant with our son and I’m CERTAIN this is it. My pregnancy has been just as hard and I feel like I got lucky with a boy and girl set. There’s no desire in my heart for another one. And I feel that alone is enough reason to stop. I would want to be excited about a child and not resentful. So that’s how I know. My husband goes back and forth with it but we’ve had an agreement that I’m getting my tubes tied during my c section. I’m 24 and he’s 32 so the age difference is the one reason he wanted to consider stopping. He doesn’t wanna be the old dad while our kids are growing up lol
My son turns 3 in May. My daughter is 13 months old. I didnt feel done after having my dd. I didnt want one soon after but I didnt have that feeling. Well now I'm pregnant and definitely know "the feeling" of being done. I never want to go through pregnancy ever again lol. I'm getting my tubes tied after this one.
Yeah when I got pregnant with this last baby(she's 8 weeks now) I told my husband we would know if we are done (she is my 3rd) 3 days after she was born I just knew I was NOT done, we want one more but after that I'm pretty sure I'll be DONE. I had severe SPD and I'm sure my body will be so over having babies!
Husband will be getting a vasectomy and I'll be getting the boob job I want after breastfeeding 4 babies!?
When I had my fourth I thought maybe I was done, but I wasn't sure. I'm pregnant with my 5th now. I'm so excited for this baby, but I'm actually really excited to start giving away all of the baby stuff I store in the garage. I NEVER had that feeling before. I know I'm done, I have no doubts.
I was so happy finding out our second was a girl. Our family feels completed now. There's just a small part of me that says what if? You know? Right now I'm taking a break from birth control and hormones lol. I'll get on something eventually but I just want to give it body a break. I don't do very well with birth control, I always get every negative side effect. But we'll see what the future holds. Thanks ladies! I figured when you're done, you just know.
I have 3 and 20 month old boys and currently pregnant with twins. The first thing I told my Dr was that I wanted my tubes tied. I’m completely miserable. Only 14 weeks, horrible back pain, headaches, and sciatica that Tylenol doesn’t help. Always sick and tired. Can’t sleep because my other kids don’t sleep through the night. My desire to go through this again at any point is nonexistent.
I always said I didn’t want any kids then had my daughter, when she was 9 months I got pregnant again with my second daughter. After me and there father separated I said I didn’t want anymore. being with my hubby now who has no kids we are unexpectedly expecting a son any day now lol this is my last as it will be my third c section. Needless to say I will be gettin my tubes tied
I know I'm done because my husband is WAY done ? he was really clear when I got pregnant with #2 that it was the last. I'm ok with it because I don't have that desperate need for another baby like I did with my other two. I'm a good 10 years older than you though, so I don't have as many years left to change my mind.
I think going with something like an IUD would be great idea. If you and your fiance are still confident that you don't want more when the IUD expires, you can talk about taking more permanent steps if you'd like. But the great thing is if you change your mind you can have the IUD removed and ttc immediately.
I always wanted 3 kids but now I have a boy and just had a girl a couple weeks ago. Once I found out it was a girl we said we were done cause we have one of each. I wasn’t sure I would feel that way after she was born but I do I honestly feel like my family is complete now. And after the complications I had while in labor and after my emergency csection it scared me enough to really not want to even try to have another.
Life changes & presents you with different situations through time. At this specific moment, you don’t know how you’ll feel years in the future.
My husband & I are 25 & 24 with two daughters ( 5 & 2 ) & our third (& LAST) baby on the way, a boy. The moment they said boy at the gender ultrasound, we both knew we were done.
We had the conversation on more permanent pregnancy prevention & decided he would have a vasectomy &/or I would have a tubal ligation. That’s not saying 7 years from now, I won’t have the urge for another baby. If that time comes, I’ll deal with the way i feel about it, but i don’t see myself looking back & regretting the decision to not have anymore children. we are making the decision now, for our future selves, that we do not want a fourth.
I think most people will tell you that, when you know, you know. There won’t be an inkling or question of it in the back of your mind. You’re at peace & settled with it
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