What do i do now? Im trying to get over it. I can't even bring myself to write in them now. There was some very personal, very traumatic stuff in thete. Stuff I've never talked to anyone about
I would be pissed. I am entitled to my personal space and personal belongings without them being touched. This would be a gross violation of my privacy and I wouldn’t be able to keep quiet or keep my cool.
I just feel betrayed. He never apologized, I dont know if he's even sorry. When I'm upset with him, HE gets pissy and starts acting luie its MY fault. I love him but he's sooo immature sonetimes. He's twice my age!
I would ask him exactly what he thought that was going to accomplish. Writing can be very therapeutic and it's not okay he messed with your mental health like that by violating that privacy.
My husband found a notebook of poems I wrote when we were packing up my house to move in to an apartment with him after we got married. He started to read the first one out loud and I fought him - literally ran at him and attempted to wrestle it away from him - until he gave it back. I was on the verge of tears. Those poems are mine... They helped me get out a fair bit of anger during my late teens and early college years. I was not (and still am not) ready to share them with anyone, not even him. Having had that seemingly insane reaction to him even jokingly read them, he's never messed with anything else of mine that is handwritten. I was pretty embarrassed losing it like I did with the emotional outburst, but it definitely got the point across. Do not get in my personal space. You really may just need to sit your husband down and tell him that you are so, so upset that he felt it was okay to go through your journals. Explain to him that they are your way of working through things and there is never a time that he has the right to read them. Express the damage he did by his actions. I hope he will at the very least apologize... My husband did. If he refuses to see the issue, I'd get a lockbox for them. Don't give up writing. It's always been a great way for me to heal. And if that is what it does for you, keep at it.
I’d have a huge issue if my husband read my journal (I don’t have one, but if so...), but my bigger issue would be after seeing how much it hurt me- that he’d be unapologetic. So not only was he disrespecting your privacy, but now he has a lack of empathy and care for you and your feelings. It’s a small thing that means things a lot deeper and bigger. I wouldn’t be able to get over it in that situation. We’d need some long talks and a lot of groveling before he’d be allowed back in bed.
Just Another Spider Riding Aussie 🕷🇦🇺·
Hope that he read something about him on a day I was pissed at him, to teach him a lesson for being nosey! 😋
deborahjq·
Ask him if it was worth it.
The EK 💁🏼♀️·
I’d be angry. I’m entitled to my privacy & reading my journal would be a huge violation of my privacy.
Melissa ·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (10 нед.)
What do i do now? Im trying to get over it. I can't even bring myself to write in them now. There was some very personal, very traumatic stuff in thete. Stuff I've never talked to anyone about
Queen Meeks·
I would be pissed. I am entitled to my personal space and personal belongings without them being touched. This would be a gross violation of my privacy and I wouldn’t be able to keep quiet or keep my cool.
Melissa ·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (10 нед.)
I just feel betrayed. He never apologized, I dont know if he's even sorry. When I'm upset with him, HE gets pissy and starts acting luie its MY fault. I love him but he's sooo immature sonetimes. He's twice my age!
Marne ·
I would ask him exactly what he thought that was going to accomplish. Writing can be very therapeutic and it's not okay he messed with your mental health like that by violating that privacy.
BunsInMyOven·
I’m so sorry 😢 I would feel violated
L·
Мама двоих (младенец)
My husband found a notebook of poems I wrote when we were packing up my house to move in to an apartment with him after we got married. He started to read the first one out loud and I fought him - literally ran at him and attempted to wrestle it away from him - until he gave it back. I was on the verge of tears. Those poems are mine... They helped me get out a fair bit of anger during my late teens and early college years. I was not (and still am not) ready to share them with anyone, not even him. Having had that seemingly insane reaction to him even jokingly read them, he's never messed with anything else of mine that is handwritten. I was pretty embarrassed losing it like I did with the emotional outburst, but it definitely got the point across. Do not get in my personal space. You really may just need to sit your husband down and tell him that you are so, so upset that he felt it was okay to go through your journals. Explain to him that they are your way of working through things and there is never a time that he has the right to read them. Express the damage he did by his actions. I hope he will at the very least apologize... My husband did. If he refuses to see the issue, I'd get a lockbox for them. Don't give up writing. It's always been a great way for me to heal. And if that is what it does for you, keep at it.
Veemit Chell·
Write something real weird and wait till he reads it. Like "hid the body, now to forget it happened"
Melissa ·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (10 нед.)
Lol good idea
Ali ·
Мама сына-младенца, беременна (27 нед.)
Did he read your entire journal? I would be pissed off. I agree with @techie_grrl, find a safe place to store them and don't give up on writing.
Melissa ·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (10 нед.)
I'm not sure but there were three and he's talking shat about stuff that happened years ago.
Lanie Jay·
I’d have a huge issue if my husband read my journal (I don’t have one, but if so...), but my bigger issue would be after seeing how much it hurt me- that he’d be unapologetic. So not only was he disrespecting your privacy, but now he has a lack of empathy and care for you and your feelings. It’s a small thing that means things a lot deeper and bigger. I wouldn’t be able to get over it in that situation. We’d need some long talks and a lot of groveling before he’d be allowed back in bed.