Hey, I'm sorry to be posting this. My Ex left me when we found out that I was pregnant at 4 weeks and made my life a living hell. He was pushing for abortion, but i couldn't bear that thought (I'm 28 years old and pregnant for the first time). I ended up losing my job, because we worked in the same building and I hit him I the face sehen he called me a whore and a psycho. And had to move back home to Germany to get away from him and to get some sort of support for my future son. My Ex says that I'm the one that messed everything up and destroyed him almost to death. I don't understand what he means. I tried to be the perfect woman, to make this pregnancy easy on him. I'm 24 weeks now. He says he never wants to have anything to do with me ever again. I asked him directly if he still wants to name his son, have my German number to stay in contact and be there for the birth. He asked why he should expose himself to my manipulations and the hatred of my family. I assured him that our son won't be used as tool to trick him.... I asked again to get an easy yes or no answer to those three mentioned questions to know what he wants. He said he doesn't want to answer my questions and has been silent for 3 weeks now. My number is soon expiring and I'm blocked everywhere else. He says I'm in control of communication, I'm the one changing my number. But I asked him if he wants it and he didn't respond and blocked me everywhere? Why is it so hard to answer those three questions and why is it so easy for him to cut me out and move on with his life, blaming me to be the reason of all misery, calling me malicious, a liar, a cheater and a manipulator.... what did I do and why am I not getting over him.... I could need a therapist right now.... My family told me to stop contacting him....
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@katyte170 it's been rough. He hasn't talked to me in almost 3 months... and I'm working really hard to not contact him. I just want this to be peaceful and happy.... it's still like a bad dream. Thank you for your words
@tv.kunde, I’m so sorry to hear that. I’m glad my words could at least help a little bit :)
Thank you for telling me this... I was so hopeful that he'd calm down.... never thought this man I loved could turn into this beast... he's been silent now for over a month.
Being the father is purely biological, being a dad is something earned. If he doesn’t want to be a part of your precious sons life or would not enjoy his time with him then you both are better off without him. Raising a kid as a single parent is not easy but it seems like raising him with his toxic influence would be worse. Focus on your son and building a life for you two, whatever that entails. I’m so sorry you have to go through this because no one should have to. Don’t forget that your happiness is also important. And it seems that him in your life would also not result in that. Sending you my strength and positive vibes.
@tv.kunde, just realise,that he is a sick person and his healing is not your problem. Be careful, they always try to get their „victim“ back after a while and promise everything to come back. And then repeat the same game. Be strong
@eu.k I read your message a hundred times. You're right. It's so hard to accept and realize this. I never thought he could be that kind of a coward... never thought I'd ever end up in a relationship like this or have my first and maybe only child with a man, who seems to hate us for nothing I did. I did everything I can to make us happy and fought so hard for the relationship...it's hard to realize that some battles can never be won... that love can't heal everything or guarantee a happy ending.... thank you so much for taking time to reply to me so honestly....
@savalana I read a bunch of articles regarding that today.... Seems like I was just used for something he needed... first I was this goddess he did everything for and now I'm discarded.... No real love.... breaks my heart. Thank you for your message :(
Hi.. read some articles about narcissists and psychopaths, maybe it will help you to find out if your relationship is just temporary on crisis or you handle with somebody,who wants to destroy your life
@katyte170 thank you so so so much. I'm tearing up. Can't wait for my little guy to be here.