MIL moved in - Day 3 So, it's been 3 days since my MIL, BIL, and 91 year old grandmother-in-law moved in to our house…

I feel for you! I couldn't image having my inlaws move into my house.. I recommend wine, lots and lots of wine!

As we say in the south bless your heart!!! I can't even imagine it. I got chill bumps thinking of my MIL staying at my house. But your house your rules. Don't feel bad just stick to them.

No way I could be as kind hearted as you. Why won't the insurance pay for a hotel in the meantime? Why do you have to bear the burden when that's the purpose of insurance?

I'll be praying long and hard for you girl ! She sounds ridiculous ! Best of luck , the best you can do is stand your ground like you have been . Be strong mama!!

You must be an angel there's no way in hell I could deal with that. No frickin way...

Lawd have mercy. Dear sweet baby Jesus, help this poor woman . Get her in laws a rental to stay in so that her hair don't turn grey and she doesn't have to pimp smack her mother in law in front of her kids. And please lawd keep the ever leeching 38 yr old chronic stay at home son out of her kids room.

Hallelujer amen

I would never let a grown man share a room with my child either

Wow. I hope they don't stay for months . Living with other people is very hard.

1 question.... Why does it bother you for BIL to be sleeping while you're working? I understand watching tv because it could disturb you, but if he's asleep then he's not bothering you is he?

She said be open about your feelings, so be open and tell her there is no way that months is happening and they better work with insurance to get a place to stay! She wanted open!

Does he sleep all day? Not going to lie, as a functioning member of society, I get so irritated that my brother sleeps for most of the day doing so much of nothing.

And there is no way I'd let a grown man sleep with my kid, regardless of gender.

She asked for open, be open with her! Tell her to talk to her insurance and get a friggin hotel. Lol

Sounds like she's planning on taking advantage of an awful situation. Maybe I'm wrong but these posts always seem to turn to the family coming between you & dh, overstepping your parental role with your children & treating you like a guest in your own home. Set a date & stick to it

I don't want him bunking with my son because he works until 12am, then stays up until 6am watching TV, then sleeps all day. My son is 8 and doesn't have a TV in his room but MIL and DH were "thinking of just putting one in there temporarily". Really? So my son can try to sleep at night while BIL watches TV? No way!

Also, my mom comes to my house to watch my kids during the day. They are either playing upstairs in their room or on the main floor. My daughters' room is right next to my sons, which means they would need to be courteous and quiet all day so he could sleep. I can't have my three year old, my 5 month old and my mother feeling like they have to tiptoe around because a grown man feels like staying up until the sun comes up and then sleeping all day.

@ashley (that's my name too!) I'm in and out of meetings all day so I'd be talking on the phone for hours while he is trying to sleep on the couch just a few feet away.

My solution was to make him his own room in the laundry room. It's a huge room, albeit unfinished. But we could put a blowup mattress in there, a TV (if he wanted one) and it could be a place he could close the door and do whatever he wanted to.

I think the laundry room sounds like a great solution. Bil stayed with us for about six weeks and slept in the garage! It's attached to the house and gets heat, and is pretty empty...personally I'd have slept in the living room but it worked for all of us.

Your situation sounds like a nightmare!!

I thought usaa was going to help them out!!!

I applaud your parenting. Some ppl would have just allowed that. Smh

What kind of job do you have?

Well OP since your MIL wants you to be open with your feelings, let her know that you feel that they need to be moving out as soon as they are able. Seriously, she's nuts. I love my family, but I could never live with any of them again. EVER. It would have to be for a day or two, or a super crazy emergency.

O. M. G.

Not okay. Not even a little bit.

Fack good luck !

Oh my god that sounds like a nightmare. 3 of them living with you? my MIL would be bad enough never mind 3.. Is there no where else they can stay there's already 5 of you in your house and they want to stay there for months.. I understand it must be a very hard time for them losing there house. But if they can be moved somewhere in a few weeks why would they want to live on top of you? Put the foot down tell them there's not enough space for it to become long term.

I think MIL needs to be thankful that she is able to stay with you. You have a family of your own to raise though and that is not fair to your family for the 3 of them to stay there for months! I would be going insane. If they will be getting a house to move into they need to go with that house. Sounds like she is asking for a little too much.

I had a long talk with DH last night about it and he is in the same page with me, thank god! He said he is just waiting for her to hear from the adjuster how long they think it will take to repair and then he was going to use that as leverage for telling her they need to move into the house they will be getting FOR FREE!

Last night my MIL said she just didn't want to go to another house because she's worried about leaving her mother home alone for even a few hours. They left her home for a few hours at their house. I asked her what the difference was and she said "well, we know the neighbors there."

???

Did the insurance offer to pay for a hotel? Maybe bil could stay there.

I would be very honest with her! Thats a heavy burden to carry. I will pray for you, i would not be able to do this.

I feel so sad for you. I told my husband is his mother came to live with us again I'm packing and moving out. This is too much, not only for you but for your kids too.

Oh heavens no. I get overwhelmed when my boyfriends parents come visit a few days. I can't imagine 3 people in my house for who knows how long on top of three kids already. I will say some prayers for your sanity for real. And no a grown man wouldn't be staying with my child, especially when he works until midnight and even more especially because he is awake until dawn. Nope.

His brother still living at home has always been an issue for me but I've never had to deal with it so I just said whatever. Now, I do. Hahaha!

Today his mom said she wanted to pay us rent for staying with them. I said that I wasn't possibly going to charge them rent for a few weeks! That's what family is for.

I hope she got the hint!!!!!

I still think you need to ask her about insurance paying for a hotel until a temporary home becomes available. It's weird that that isn't happening.

I. Can't. Even. Imagine!

Hope these FEW weeks flow by fast!

They aren't staying in a hotel right now because Meme can't stay in one. Being 91, having a care giver everyday, etc. She just can't share a room with two other people, which is why we said they could stay here until they were placed in a home.

Ah ok. Makes sense now. I assumed one wasn't offered to them or it was rejected by MIL so she would have the opportunity to drive you insane. You're still a better person than me. I wouldn't have turned them away either, but I would for sure be letting them know how miserable I was!