Are you ever really ready ?!?!
Hey ladies, just wanted to put a question out there to everyone. Everyone tells me that you're never really "ready" for a baby, and that if you waited until the time was perfect, there would be no time left to have one. So I'm just wondering who here feels they are REALLY ready? Based on (stable job, financial independence, stable home, benefits, spouse is ready) etcetera.
Are you ever really ready ?!?! Hey ladies, just wanted to put a question out there to everyone. Everyone tells me that you're never really "ready" for a baby, and that if you waited until the time was perfect, there would be no time left to have one. So I'm just wondering who here feels they are REALLY ready? Based on (stable job, financial independence, stable home, benefits, spouse is ready) etcetera.
Since everyone is telling me to.. Here it is.. Well on mom life you stated your procedure was for a hole in your stomach.. But on instagram you "kicked cancers ass" and basically had throat cancer?.. I don't like liars!! Why lie?! I lost the people i loved most to cancer! That's not something to fucking joke about! I lost all respect for you! And if you really do have cancer why lie on mom life saying it was for a hole in your stomach?it just makes no sense to me!
Before i started this module of school i asked everyones opinion on if i should stop and go back after the baby comes or keep going for another month . I was having a hard time really exhausted contractions etc and everyone just said your going to feel like that thats normal etc . NOW everyones including my teachers are like you should stay home maybe its time for you to stop your over doing it you already had a hard pregnancy why are you pushin yourself so hard WTF you weren't saying that 2 weeks ago ughhh i knew I shouldve just listened to myself .
Sometimes you know your body better than everyone else. Not every woman will produce high levels of hcg throughout pregnancy some it can take weeks some it can take months don’t trust a blood test don’t trust a urine test trust your heart and when you know it’s times it’s time this doctor was not a gynecologist so he did not give me a quantitative blood test to actually see what my hcg level is at I hope this helps some of you ladies who just feel like giving up and stop testing because of what everyone else thinks or what a doctor tells you trust your body you know your body better than a blood test and a pee test and god will lead you to the right path
Do you really think the way you are raised Has no impact on when and how you decide to have sex? I read a comment on another thread that really rubbed me the wrong way. Something about how teens have sex and there's just no stopping it no matter how you raise them.
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All those things are stable for me, and I still get nervous.
Eva Schultz ·
Me too ! I keep thinking is there more that I should prepare before??
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I'm beyond ready!!! I've had baby fever for years. ?
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I think all those things can be aligned, but when you are a FTM - there is so much you don't know. Yes, a lot will be winged and yes there is a learning curve. But there will also be some curve balls thrown your way.
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Nope, not ready!! Most people I know haven't been. My friend is pregnant, bought a house, has a good job, finished her qualification, got married, perfect really, and still she's worried about things she planned to do in house etc!! I'm only starting tracking etc so if takes time I don't mind as I'm trying to buy a house, finish exams etc. If it happens I'll manage because all this should be finished in 9 months!! But all the people I know who got pregnant at difficult times managed just fine and wouldn't turn back the clock. There's never a perfect time in my opinion!
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My husband and I have been married for a year, just purchased a house, he owns his own business and I have a stable job. The thought of starting a family was an exciting one and something we looked forward to. Our first month ttc ... We did! Now it's very surreal and you start to think about everything down the road. It's scary but it's going to be so worth it. It doesn't feel real right now, but it will. Someone once told me that that babies are born with bread in their pockets. I think you learn and grow as you go and you have 9 months to be as ready as you'll ever be.
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My soon to be hubby is finishing up his first year of grad school...I work full-time and have a bachelor's degree.
We are planning to TTC in May...that's before he's done with his second degree. His parents disagree with our decision, but we're going for it anyway.
It's normal to be nervous no matter your circumstances!
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Has anyone experienced others being unsupportive of TTC due to your situation?
It hurts. :/
Eva Schultz ·
That's unfortunate that they disagree, but ultimately it's your decision and you guys are the ones who will be dealing with it, not them! I haven't had anyone tell me it's not a good idea, most people have been encouraging me to do it but I have been hesitant because of work
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I would say we are as ready as we will ever be. I believe if you wait for the perfect time it won't ever come. As long as you're stable & both of you are ready I say that's good enough!
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My future mother in law says she's "too young to be a grandma". Which is super hurtful...because it's not my fault she chose to start having kids at 21. Should I have to wait till she's "ready"?
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Seharper you do what is right for you and your husband! I can only imagine when I get my BFP that others will be judge mental on how I got there! I am currently a SMBC to a 10 yr old that I adopted when he was 3 and now I am currently TTC with anonymous donor sperm. Having said that: this is right for myself and my son. Do what is right for you guys!!
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Excellent question! My husband and I have been married for over 5 years, and we just started TTC 4 months ago. We put it off because we both didn't feel "ready" and had other things we felt needed to be in place. Now that I'm finished with grad school, we both have careers, and a stable home we figured what was there left to wait for? That being said, I think I'll still get a feeling of "OMG how will I do this?" when I finally get that BFP. Good Luck!
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I agree with you. By the time you're really ready it's too late to really enjoy that time.
I've worked in countless daycares and most (if not all) parents, who wait till times about up, are exhausted!
Granted all life changes takes adjustment. It seems financially you have the money to do lots but not the energy.
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I feel like I maybe never be ready.
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My mum says your never ready for a baby. But you make do and do the best you can with what you have x