Am I being petty? Both my children have the same dad but this baby will have my last name due to circumstances that have occurred during the entire pregnancy (a lot of things I really don’t want to get into at the moment). My 3 year old does have his last name but I want to give my new baby my last name. We haven’t spoken for some time now because I have a restraining order on him and he wasn’t to happy about the baby anyway cause he was to busy giving out community d***, getting other ppl pregnant and so on.... the situation is all bad as I stated but don’t wanna get into it much.
I would still use yours. It's an honor to have a child have your last name and if he already isn't trying to claim this baby because he is too busy out being a d*** then he doesn't deserve that honor. Your child will understand. My cousin has 2 kids with the same father he wasn't around for the 1st so his last name is hers (and is about 3-4 years older), the 2nd has dad's last name when he got his sh** together. Both still know they are full siblings and have no problem growing up with mom and dad.
@hedoesntlovemeanymore, that’s what I was thinking. I don’t want them thinking they have different fathers. But one would have his name the other mines so... but I still get what your saying cause I’ve thought about that.
It's not petty, but would the kids think something of having the same parents, but different last names?
Thanks ladies :). It’s just that I have tried to be nice for so long and keep him involved but it’s useless at this point. I’m doing this alone with support from only my family so it’s only right.
Not at all, if he hasn't really been a support to you then by all means give your baby your last name, I would.
@heilwife317, I completely agree. Thank you.