Not so nice 1st OB visit
Not so nice 1st OB visit
I am 35 with 3 children, a 10 yr old boy, a 2 year old girl and a almost 4 month old girl. We were not trying for baby #4 (actually had my surgery consult scheduled for Jan 9th to get my tubes tied). Now obviously I know how babies are made and knew that using the pull out method wasn’t 100% effective as birth control. However, this new OB I saw today was a complete jerk! He had the audacity to lecture me on having another baby so soon and was appalled that we didn’t even use condoms. Okay Mr. Doctor, obviously we knew what we were getting ourselves into by not using protection. It’s not like we aren’t excited about this baby, we just simply hadn’t planned on a 4th. Then he does a trans vaginal u/s and sees the sac but no fetal pole (well a super faint beginning of one). According to my LMP I am 5 weeks 5 days. Usually you can’t see anything really for another week or so. He said “I’m not trying to scare you...but...”. No, you’re trying to be pessimistic. His whole demeanor was that of someone who thinks that they are Godly and that you are lowly and should be ashamed of yourself. It’s not like I’m the 1st or last woman to get pregnant 3 months after having a baby. I’m definitely finding a new OB! I don’t want to deal with someone like that for the next 9 months ? Sorry I had to vent. I was really excited for today’s appointment and he made me feel like crap ?
deleted-user·
I’m so sorry to hear that? why are ppl so mean. My ob told us we could start trying pretty early after having my daughter because he knew we want our kids close and he told me where I was breast feeding it could take a second anyway for us to get pregnant but have at it and try. My baby girl is 7 months and he expected around this timeframe for us. I can’t believe how mean he was! I don’t know what your medical history is but he should have been way nicer about it
deleted-user·
My last OB asked the type of birth control we were planning on using at the 6 week post partum appointment and I told him the pull out method and he goes...well then I might see you sooner then you plan on seeing me...hoping I get the same OB again.
My baby is 10 months old.
deleted-user·
What a jerk. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. We weren't planning this baby at all either and tracking my cycles and pullout method has worked for us. Both of our children, 6yo and 2yo were planned. I realized we mad a mistake when I was showing a friend how to track her cycles and noticed we had just done the deed and I was ovulating which I thought wasn't for another few days. Oops. Lol. Unplanned doesn't mean unloved. And you shouldn't be made to feel bad you're an adult and know how to handle things. Definitely get a new doctor.❤❤❤
Jennifer ·
Thanks ladies! And yes @Sophys, we’ve practiced the pull out method and charting for the past 5 years and up until now only conceived when we planned to as well. This baby is very much already loved and I’m just upset that the doctor made it seem like such a huge mistake. Our baby may not have been planned but it’s very much wanted ❤️
deleted-user·
Honey, you are the one who has to raise them and provide for them. It is absolutely none of his business how close your kids are in age! Find another dr!
deleted-user·
I am feeling exactly like you right now. Your not alone. My mirena fell out and we had drunk sex.
I told the dr and without her even asking about my plans for family she told me to go get the morning after pill.
I couldn’t afford to spend $40 on it at the time, and to be honest I just didn’t want to anyway.
I think it’s a bit rude that she insisted, she could have just asked if I was interested first, or if I wanted more kids.
We have 3 kids this baby will be the 4th
I know it’s not perfect, but it has happened and we are going to love it.