What do YOU judge Clearly, no one is a perfect parent nor do we know everything. But what’s something you judge a parent…

Omg reading this makes me not want to go out ever again. But then again I would get judged for that too. It would be me not taking my kids out so I'm limiting their out door time, etc. Lol

I don't wear my rings everyday because I have dry hands and always need to lotion them.

I try not to yell at my kids but sometimes I do.

I always try to not judge other parents because it's already so hard being one. I feel like we should help each other not attack each other.

With that being said, I do judge parents who smoke and those who knowingly put their kids in the line of danger for their own amusement. Ex. I was at a skating rink and I kid you not, this lady put her little toddler on the ice with no skate, no jacket, and no mitts. All this just so she can take a picture. ??‍♀️ the rink was booked for a private party so only about 15 kids but still that's stupidity.

Yes wild children in stores if my 3 year old knows better your 6 year old definitely should. I get when kids don't listen my daughter has her days but when parents don't say a word it frustrates me even more.

Perfect mom's on social media. Girl i know the real you than bad mouth the POS baby daddy and theyre just the same.

When parents leave kids with Grandma than get an attitude about how they raise them or fight for rights to taxes? Like why you don't pay for them?

Parents who smoke weed. It's strong you don't get that smell off regardless of it being legal where you are it's a drug.

Parents who fight over who's parents do more for the kids? Uh better come back would be how much you do for the kid.

I'm around a lot of younger parents ?

I have older children and working on baby #4 maybe I should have clarified the age group in regard to hovering so you mom's with babies don't get your panties in a bunch. Yes, use your common sense with your small children, if you are suffocating your child by not letting them find their own way, then you are a hovering parent and keeping them from accomplishing their own goals and setting their own limits. Not staying behind a 2 year old baby on a play structure is something I judge. So what I've got a long list? I've earned that right.

@ell you judge when you see a "preggy" who don't wear a wedding band have you thought about how much swelling a pregnant woman goes through I can't even put my wedding set on I guess that means I just open my legs for everyone. Also, you DO NOT have to be married to have children or be able to support having a family!!!!

Some of these reasons why you judge is beyond rediculous Im super glad your a perfect person and parent.

Seriously judging for being over sensitive for germs or kid always sick you sound very contradictory. A child may have an autoimmune disease and can't fight off simple colds like you or I can so that parent has to be cautious about germs.

Wow some of you are a piece of work...

Mine goes to her grandparents every weekend. She loves it, they love it, and I love it haha. Usually I’m working though.

Parents who send their kids with the grandparents every weekend. ???

When parents bring their sick babies/children around other babies/children, and also older people (friends, family, teens, adults, whatever etc.) who are sick and think it's okay to be around your baby/child and don't care to mention that they're sick beforehand.

@vee, definitely not much of a judge here. I try not to judge because I’m not perfect by any means. And thank you. I’m not sure if I’ve joined it or not but I’d like too.

@tabetha I misread your comment and thought you said you DO judge parents with mental illness and I almost gave the verbal asswhoopin that would be my bye bye from bb???

We have a group for moms with mental illness, I can't remember if you joined or not? I feel like you did. If not, get ahold of @awesome if you wanna join :)

I dont like to judge (im not perfect, i do judge occasionally in my mind) but parents that dont actually parent thier child, no rules, no manners, no respect for themselves and others and no consequences for bad behaviour. Also dirty kids with no shoes on in the shops (in the trolley is ok but not if they are walking around) dirty like feet are so caked with dirt and grime they are black and clothes, face smeared with old food and crap.

I’m not married with no intention of doing so. Does it make me any less of a mother to my son? Does it make me any less able to love and care for him? No.

My parents were forced to get married because she was pregnant and they divorced when I was 9. During that time my mother resented my dad and resented us for being born. A baby is not a reason to be married anymore. Kudos to those who get married and stay married but it just isn’t for me.

It’s the 21st century and people are judging for not wearing a ring? There are bigger things to judge for ?

I try not to judge, as I know people judge me. It makes me feel less of a mother. My big judgement is people who judge Mother’s/Father’s with mental illness. Like just because I’m a single mother with depression doesn’t make me any less of a mother. Most days it’s crippling. I don’t wanna get out of bed, and can barely wake up, when I’m awake I struggle to do much of anything. Some days are great. Some days I feel on top of the world. But most days I feel less of a person, and more of an empty shell of a human. But my children are still fed, bathed, and clothed. I can’t always say the same for myself though. ?

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People that get in my business when they don't know what's going on, my mom and I were at the fabric district in la and my 5 yr kept stopping in front of me and everytime I'd almost crash into her with the stroller so I told her you need to stop doing that or I'm gonna run you over and as I was about to tell her to come walk next to me some twit comes over yelling at me threatening to call the police on me and my mom pops out of nowhere ready to hit this lady cause she's literally 2 inches from my nose. That was some crazy shat but it really pisses me off when people eavesdrop and then get all hostile when I was just trying to prevent my kid from getting hurt.

I can only think of one time I’ve actually been in public that I’ve judged a mom. Her daughter (probably 12-18 months) was crying in the cart, and she just kept yelling at her to “shut up,” then eventually smacked her in the mouth. My phone was dead and I couldn’t call anybody, and I had my child with me so I wasn’t going to confront her, but I went to the manager and told her the situation. She got security to follow them, but I’m not sure what all came out of the situation.

Some general things I judge:

-CIO before 6 months. Even after 6 months, it should be a very strictly modified CIO. A child should never be left to cry until they fall asleep.

-Moms who get drunk or high after their kids fall asleep if they’re the only adult there. Not so much judging, mostly just concerned because all I can wonder is what would happen in an emergency situation that’d require them to drive.

-Moms who leave their baby in a bassinet/crib/punkin seat etc. all day instead of holding & interacting with them.

But I just want to point out one thing I saw on here— please don’t judge moms if their child isn’t wearing socks or shoes. If I put ds’s socks and shoes back on Everytime he ripped them off, I would do nothing with my day other than put his socks and shoes on lol. I always put them on when we go out in public, but whether or not they stay on is a different story.

@rayne you’d be surprised at how aggressive pediatric dental centers can be... and how much they take advantage of those who are uninformed.

I judge your parenting if it’s not like mine.

Honestly guys????‍♀️

Kids that have caps on all their teeth, or are clearly full of cavaties. Makes me feel sooo bad for the child ? but even then I think about how I don’t know their story, they might have issues that I’m not aware of.

I judge people who judge people for stupid reasons that are sometimes out of their control...

Yes it's a stupid thing to judge about and it isn't reliable in the slightest.

Yes I do judge myself and try to better myself always. I try to be opened minded to different point of views and not to personally attack people who think differently than me.

I’m not sure you understand the meaning of throwing someone under the bus, pp.

So you judge yourself then? Since your judging someone with a different opinion then yours.

I also haven't read all the comments regarding the ring comment but yes I responded, never called he any names and responded because I do not wear a ring as I am single. Kind of a facked up thing to be judged about, doesn't comment on my parenting really so I replied.

I judge parents when their kids nails are super long ....

Also judge when I see parents who make threats and don’t keep them or who are completely inconsistent. Like my SIL will threaten 25 times in a row to put her daughter in time out but never does, gets frustrated and just gives up. I don’t judge many parenting tactics (except abuse) but I do judge when someone has NO tactic, or is rrealllllly inconsistent.

I judge parents who just take their doctors word for everything because they’re a doctor.

I judge parents who refuse to practice safe car seat use. And hands down judge parents who not only smell like smoke, but their kids do too. I don’t judge for smoking but if your kid smells like it then that’s so facking wrong. AND if you drive high or drunk with your kid (in general but def with kids in the car)

A couple more but overall I try not to judge.

When I see parents give their children coffee.

@chelsea, because it’s an ignorant comment. If she said unwed mothers, maybe she would have made more sense. To say she judges pregnant women with no ring is ignorant because not everyone wears a ring.

Lol I don’t wear my wedding ring sometimes. And I have no excuse other than I can’t find it.

Is this worth the read?

So Ellie judges women who don't wear wedding rings. Big deal stop throwing her under the bus. She answered a question she is a stranger on the internet. You dont have to prove yourself to her. Why do you all need to call nasty names.

So to answer the question I judge people who shame different opinions just because they believe differently.

I judge people who judge parents over their children throwing tantrums in public

I judge parents who put their romantic interests above their children.

For example, let’s say a 23 yo got with a teenager and let him take care of her young children OR a mom doesn’t want to be with her abusive SO anymore so she ditches him and her kid, so she can be free. That kind of thing.

@Elle , that’s crazy. I’ll just let my Lupus and Rheumatoid arthritis know not to flare up,so my fingers don’t get swollen and I can’t wear my wedding rings. Those people you’re judging could have valid reasons for not wearing their wedding rings . ??

Also, not everyone feels the need to marry.

No wedding ring lmao wow...lady this is 2018, get with the times.

I judge the parents that condone and even encourage provocative dancing and dress in young girls. Like those videos of super young girls twerking among people and the mom is standing by clapping her hands and laughing. So disgusting.

Also parents that are very lenient with their son(s) but very strict with their daughter(s). My mom was like this and it irritated me to no end. So unfair.

Overweight kids.

@elleef I am married but also don't wear my rings currently...when pregnant (like right now) I get horrific carpal tunnel syndrome and my hands and joints swell like a mofo. Maybe I should go get them resized so I'm not judged ??

If you are going to judge parents for not letting their kids spend enough time outside playing/exploring, then you can't also judge parents for their kids looking dirty. I frequently watch my two nephews (3 and 6), and there is NO WAY to keep them clean for longer than 15 minutes unless they are stuck in front of a tv all day.

People who absolutely refuse to use car seats safely.

Massive coats, straps falling off their shoulders, chest clip to their belly button, FF before two or even when they’re nowhere hear maxing out the seat limits. It’s not difficult to properly strap your child in, it’s just plain lazy if you don’t.

@elle So all I have is a promise ring and baby #2 on the way... does that make me a good girl?? Sit your old ass down. If the girl/woman is happy that's all that matters. No need to be married or engaged to have a family.

But I agree with PP! When I see children doing what ever they please with NO type of discipline I do judge. No matter how old your child is you should at least try to let them know what they are doing is wrong.

Don't know if its been said.

Probably have a lot of people disagree with me.

But i judge moms who make their husbands plate first instead of their kids.

no discipline whatsoever. I've had issues with my neighbors for the last 5 years - she still speaks to them ever so softly.

@mamabird I'm sure you 100% dont look like a junkie! Are you noticably off your face on drugs phsysically and verbally abusing your children in public? As i said maybe it's just the area I've grown up in and the things I've been exposed to. I can tell a drug addict with neglected children from a mile away. There's NO mistaking it!!!

Honestly, I judge any parent that tries to give advice on things they have no actual knowledge of. Like for cancer parents, autism parents, mental health like adhd ex.., asthma or diabetic parents, etc. Don't try to tell them how to treat their kid if you have no actual experience or knowledge with it. Dont say, "My cousin's friends uncles grandkid did this and it worked." just no. Show them support and that's it. Like my problem lately is people telling me to try natural remedies to cure my kid cancer. Like just please go somewhere. ✋ It's not helpful however you mean it. It doenst help the parent. I promise you the have researched like crazy and know more than you. It just makes you look stupid and it can be offensive.

I probably look like a junkie drug addict. I have psoriasis all over my body including my scalp and face. It looks like red dry patches. My hair is super dried out from the medicated shampoo I'm on. My veins are bruised from a bunch of blood I've just had taken for medical reasons. I've not been wearing make up so my super dark circles are very noticeable lol

I am most certainly not a junkie drug addict though.

@ttdub yes you can tell they come from a bad home because the parents accompanying the kind of kids I'm taking about are usually junkie drug addicts.

I don't know maybe it's just the town I come from, but yes you can tell a neglected child from a mile away! Nobody expects a baby or young child to be spotlessly clean, that's just ridiculous! Kids in general are pretty filthy! I know the point I'm trying to make, maybe it's just not coming across properly or you don't have families like that where you live?

I only judge if it's an actual danger to the child. Smoking, car seats, obviously coming from a bad home, things of that nature.

Sometimes we moms have hot mess days so I don't judge if the kid doesn't match, has pizza on their face, or mom looks like she just needs a nap. We have all been there.

Okay the flat head one actually made me angry. My daughter has a flat head and I’ve tried EVERYTHING to correct it myself. I held her 5x more than some other people I know and she still has a flat head at 6 months while those other babies have perfect round heads. Get your facts straight before you automatically think neglect.

One thing I will judge the crap out of is seeing the parent all cute and warm with cute leggings, boot socks,and cute boots while their kid is literally in shorts and a t-shirt sometimes with flip-flops and no jacket with a snotty nose because their sick that makes my blood boil I see it too many times down here ?

A few of these really suck but wow, Elle yours takes the cake. That kinda dumb s*** is why I do hold bb grudges. Now I know who's judging innocent people who've done* nothing wrong(except in your mind). Single moms who bust their ass... Divorced moms... Widows... Women who conceived when a man forced himself but they kept the baby anyway... Women who don't like jewelry, or outgrew/lost/broke their ring. Like that's the literal dumbest f*** ing thing to judge* about.

I always get bad looks cuz I use a leash on my son

So you'd probably judge us every weekend in the summer time cause we straight up look like we just rolled out of the jungle book since we camp so much.

Sticky hands, sap everywhere, smelly, dirt in every spot, etc. And yes we still might go into town on the way home to grab something from the store. You seriously cant "just tell they come from a terrible home" by looking at them.

I judge moms that judge me. When people assume I don’t discipline because I don’t spank. Or they make fun of me for the fact my daughter is close to 3 and still rear faces because she’s small for her age and hasn’t exceeded the height or weight limit. Or tease me for being a helicopter parent, which I am in a lot of ways. I assume they’re not taking good enough care of their children when they point out these things. I rarely wear my wedding ring and my children are in daycare so they’re often sick and I swear I cannot keep my 3 year olds face clean no matter how hard I try!

I don't just mean messy kids. I mean like ferral kids that you tell come from a really bad home. Like babies nappy hasn't been changed for god knows how long, or you can tell the child hasn't had a bath for a week. I don't just mean dirty kids that you can see are looked after and just messy, i mean kids that you can see just by looking at them, that they come from an awful living environment where the parents just dont give a stuff about them.

I judge mums that take pictures of their sick kid and post it all over Facebook. Get off Facebook and go look after your poorly child! ?

When you're talking on your phone shoving a whole burger in your mouth, obviously not watching your kid who is digging in the freaking garbage in the mc Donald's play area. I judged so hard today. When you don't strap your kid in the carseat correctly and get batchy when someone says something. I'm pretty laid back and don't care what other people do with their kids, but some things are common sense.

I will always judge when I see a parent smoking around their kid.

1. It's terrible for them. If you don't love yourself enough to quit a nasty habit, at least love your kids enough to limit their exposure.

2. It smells. Very bad. I know kids that have been picked on because they send their kids to school smelling like an ash tray.

I went to Walmart last winter and saw a mom smoking in her car, with the windows rolled up, and two elementary aged kids were standing outside the car in the cold. Talk about pathetic!

I guess it's a good thing a lot of u don't know me in real life

I’m obviously getting judged because I don’t change my kids outfit before I go out. Really that’s what people judge about? Glad I don’t care if y’all judge me.

You guys would jusge the shat out of me then ? my kids always look messy because they love to play in the dirt. My house is clean they get baths regularly, their clothes are always clean, but they do have lots of stains from spilling food, painting, etc.

I have dress clothes for them that we were for holidays or going to dinner, but their "work clothes" have stains.

Judge away ?

Edit to add: my 13 month literally never has socks or shoes on. She refuses to wear socks,shoes, or hats, so I dont even bother with it.

When a child is stuffed into a stroller they are blatantly too big for just for an easy life.

I don’t know that it’s judging but I get bothered when parents put kids in their basket in infant carriers. And when they put under 13 year olds in front seat

And how many are guilty of some of these?? I've totally taken my baby out in her pjs still.

Filthy looking children. Dirty faces, dirty clothes, no shoes, messy hair. It speaks volumes about how they must live at home. It literally makes me sad when i see it. ?

And @elle some people don't believe in marriage! Not speaking for myself, but i know a few people who don't. A ring and a piece of paper doesn't mean a thing. I know married people that are hands down the worst parents I've ever seen. Marriage doesn't affect the welfare of a child.

?? I’d get judged hard by a couple. I’m a really bad helicopter parent. Like if a park is too crowded for me to hover, I’ll go to a different one just so I can be sure to follow my kids around like a puppy. ?

I judge moms who give birth to brown eyed babies.

FB moms but you know damn well they are dirty and lazy -_- or being lazy af and bashing your kid because they are just like you.

Flat head really? ??‍♀️

I'm a single mom and was single pregnant as well since ex and I had separated prior to me finding out I was pregnant, we were together for 12 years prior to that. I assume it's folks like me that you're judgement is aimed at and if so judge away, I'm a good mother and we are good coparents. My daughter is not getting any less love due to it. One of my best friends no longer wears her ring because her soon to be ex HUSBAND cheated on her so I guess you'll judge her too which is one of her concerns, although I've told her she should not care it's folks like you that make my best friend worried socially.

@aaron I also hover over my 2 year old at the park. She likes to climb the ladders and loses her grip since she's still a bit small to climb the solo so if I am not right behind her she can fall and get hurt and I don't believe getting hurt is a way to reinforce why you should or should not do something. She knows to wait for mommy for help so you would probably judge me hardcore, again feel free to do so.

I am not guilt free when it comes to judging either although I feel the things I judge for are more realistic. I judge those who get black out drunk in front of their children. I judge those who smoke with their kids in the room. I judge those who let their children stay in dirty clothes they wore they entire day before with food stains all over their faces. A few others but those are my big ones.

I knew this post wouldn't go over well..lol

Kids not in their car seats properly and the chest piece is down low and the straps are off the shoulder. Than when someone mentions something, the parent tells you to mind your own business ??‍♀️

I’ve worked retail for years and years. I judge parents hardcore who bring their kids out for non-necessities in awful weather. It never failed when I managed my portrait studio, school would be canceled because of a freaking blizzard and I’d get a call, “can I bring my newborn in today for pictures?” And now I work in an outdoor mall. There is nothing here you NEED when there’s an ice storm happening. Stay home and stay safe!

Little girls who obviously haven't had their hair brushed in days ??‍♀️

People who constantly depend on their family or friends as daycare while they go get s*** faced multiple times a week

My head is completely flat in back. The whole thing top to bottom. My eye sight is fine. Where did you get that info? As far as I know there are no developmental issues from an untreated flat head. I've researched it pretty thoroughly.

I don't wear my wedding ring because I am scared to have my finger degloved ?. I also don't like the rubber ones.

That's a lot of assumptions you're making based on something that a parent can have absolutely no control over. Judging someone's obvious actions, like smoking, is very different than judging something that has a genetic component.

Please don’t feel bad that my son, or any other child, needed/may need a helmet. It’s no different than someone needing contacts or braces. It HELPED him. They are EXTREMELY lightweight, mostly styrofoam. He didn’t cry or fight me to put it on. It was actually more difficult for him to adjust to not wearing it, because he had to learn to be more careful, and not bump his head.

ETA: when you “don’t know” something and have to “assume” that means you’re uneducated on the subject and need to do research before spewing judgement.

I said more than once I know it’s not the parents every time. I am talking about actual flat head which can harm the babies sight it’s so bad. I try not to judge, but I do. Pardon me for judging something like everyone else on the planet does. I don’t know if it wasn’t preventable. Therefore I assume and I judge. That’s what the post asked. I’ve explained myself more than twice. And this is my last comment :) ya’ll are sure dramatic. ?

My sister was fully aware that her daughter was born with a head shaped like mine and like our mom's. It really isn't a big deal. ? Instead of defending your judgement, you should be using this info to correct it.

@morgan you're assuming the parents aren't doing anything about it or worrying about it. Should they walk around crying all day so everyone knows they're concerned?

You can lol at that all you want. It came from a Pediatrician. As far as I’m aware, you aren’t a doctor, but correct me if I’m wrong. And I never said it was a good thing. I said that he likes to see babies practicing safe sleep, and flat spots often result from that.

I would suggest you do some research. You will see that a lot of times these flat spots aren’t preventable. You don’t want to go around judging a parent for something they can’t prevent, do you? Don’t be ignorant.

Seriously, do some research. Off to Google you go.

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Omg guys. Alright, I answered the post and that’s the one thing I find myself feeling judgemental about, even when I try not too. Not bothering lol have a good day ?

ETA a lot of the time I think moms aren’t even aware that flat head happens. It should be mentioned A LOT more to help new Moms.

When parents who are smokers walk with their kids outside...

Also parents who feed their kids crap all the time!

My sons was also on the side of his head, not the back. It obviously wasn’t from him laying down, which is why we had such a hard time with it. It’s incredibly common with twins and large babies, and yes, can definitely genetic. My husbands head is shaped exactly like my sons was before we got his helmet.

Yes. We have FLAT HEADS. Why is it an issue exactly?

Lol @ flat head being a good thing. Babies can sleep properly and not develop a flat head. But okay. And maybe I need to clarify, I mean FLAT HEAD. Not a small spot from sleeping on their back. I said before, I know it isn’t always from the parents. I judge how they let it get so bad and I TRY not too.

And yes, In the 90s it finally became a thing because of sids. Flat head went up, and sids went down. I still can’t help but see babies that need helmets and feel bad for them.

I’ll be back to add.

Morgannaa, my mom has a flat head. I have a flat head. My niece has a flat head. It can absolutely be genetic. Except for hats and headbands not fitting correctly, we've had no issues. What a strange thing to judge.

O.M.Gee.

@elle, I'm sorry but you just sound ridiculous. There are a multitude of reasons why people may not wear their rings. My husband and I both never wear ours for work. I work for a global bottling company and he's a welder. We CANNOT wear them most of the time. So effing what.

Not wanting to grow the hell up when you have a kid

Not taking your kid to the doctor when they are clearly sick!!

Damn @Aaron you win the judgment award.

My son had torticollis because he was a twin and smooshed so tight into my pelvic bones before he was born. We tried physical therapy and aggressive repositioning, but he still needed a helmet. It got better, but not perfect. Probably only I can tell at this point, but it still makes me a little sad. So thanks for making me feel worse. ?

My kid is sick all the time ever since he was a toddler in daycare. ?‍♀️

Imagine 8 toddlers touching and mouthing EVERYTHING in a small room all day!

@el - I'm married and never wear a ring neither does my husband. ??? A ring doesn't mean shatt...

Do you not think someone could tragically lose a spouse?

Or maybe married then divorced?

Or just had children and didn't get married. What exactly are you judging here??

mamabird- it's illegal in my state too. I don't see how this isn't illegal everywhere.

“Parents afraid of germs, parents of children who are always sick”

Huh? That makes absolutely no sense.

Judge when they are cautious about getting a sickness and also judge when they do fall ill?

@mamabird that’s awesome. When I was a kid I used to dread going to my moms best friends house or staying with her because she smoked in the house and in the car with just a window cracked. It made my stomach hurt so badly and I couldn’t get the smell out of my thick hair?

I'm so glad it's illegal in my state to smoke with anyone under 18 in your vehicle. I've never seen it here but I do hope more states follow with this law.

Damn @ell I probably get judged everyday!! I’m married but almost never ever wear my ring or band! I really don’t like wearing jewelry. Plus I’m left handed so I hate having things on my left hand!!! I’m sure people judge me all the time with my 2 kids and no wedding ring on lol

@elle wow that really sucks. I’ve been married for a while and have never been a jewelry person. Here and there I forget my ring and now that I’m pregnant I have swollen fingers, it sucks to think there’s someone out there judging me for NOT being able to wear my ring.

I judge mom's who judge so harshly about stupid trivial things. It's the #1 reason I won't go to mommy groups and don't mind not having mommy friends.