Creeped out!
A new guy at work just tickled the back of my neck! I cringed and told him "Don't ever touch me, that weirds me out!" On Monday he pulled my braid as I was grabbing parts for him, I also told him don't ever do that. Ugh. I don't feel comfortable working with him EVER! A coworker told me that when she walked past he said "what's cooking good looking". I feel he doesn't deserve to work here. I can't feel like I'm going to be harassed at work. Like who does that?? I'm so creeped out and grossed out. Ugh. What would you do in this situation? I've reported this to my manager.
The creep that was fired did the doodles. New guy found them
Lol he's 40! At least. It's disturbing...
So the creep was fired! And the new guy is cleaning out his office and he doodles the office girls names with his last name on them?!?! Who does that???
That's crazy! I'm glad you got out of there. And smart to take the girl with. Just because you said he was a nice guy was not asking for it. But some guys are stupid and literally think that's a pass and opens a door for them to come on to you. You totally did the right thing. Did you make a police report?
The guy I work with has been making soooo many mistakes I'm sure management regrets not letting him go. Friday he lost very important paperwork and acted like it was nothing. 'It was an accident' my boss sent him home right when he got back. He's a warehouse guy and a delivery driver. His job isn't hard, but he messes up everything. Not to mention a total creep!
That's crazy ray. When I was younger I worked at a 711 I had been working there for about a year there was an older guy whose daughter was older then me well i was always nice to everyone just how I am. Anyway his gf broke up with him the week before and he was talking about it non stop and I told him it was too bad he was a nice guy and I was sure he would find someone else. Well a few days later it was him and I working and the District managers daughter was doing orders as she did that for a few hours a week (14 yr old) well the store had no customers and I was in the corner and her basically cornered me and was trying to kiss me i had to fight him off of me like seriously push him off me i walked in the office grabbed my purse and walked out the door looked at the kid and said put that on the counter I'm taking you home. I still had 4 hours left on my shift. I drove her home and told her to have her mom call me to explain why her work was not done and why I left with out clocking either of us out. I then called my store manager and told him what happened and what I did. So since he lived around the block he went into work the rest of my shift. Well shut hit the fan district manager called me that night thanked me for watching out for her little girl and he was pulled off the schedule until they investigated. Three days later they pulled him in and asked if he knew what sexual harassment was he explained sexual harassment and they showed him the video tape of it and fired him on the spot. He tried to say I was asking for it. (I never even seen the video but they asked if I wanted to call cops as well) Ya that's why I fought him off me. Your boss should take it very serious.
Yay! They are interviewing a replacement for this guy!
They wrote him up. And assured me that it's not tolerated. So if anything like that happens again he's gone. I doubt he'd do it again.
I avoided him like the black plague. And told the service manager I don't want to interact with him.
Not sure what the laws are where you are but in most places if somebody touches you without your consent regardless of how much force was used to touch you if it was without consent you can charge them with assault even if no pain or injury occurred.
If your workplace doesn't do anything about it then I'd go to the police.
I don't feel like I should talk to a grown man to tell him to NOT touch me. Seriously. He's at least 15 years older than I am. He should know better. Telling him not to touch me is enough the first time. I said it very stern and I'm never playful. Meaning we don't have a close friendship to joke around for him to even be the slightest confused about our work relationship.
I've told him to not touch me just last Monday before he tickled my neck on Saturday. Yes I think he doesn't deserve to have his job. If he was tall, dark and handsome I'd feel he same way. I don't like being touched. I'm working, I hold a standard. In no way would his appearance change anything. Being in a relationship and being at work I would never think this is acceptable. I work with good looking guys and they never act like this. It's flat out disrespectful. I'm sorry, but I demand respect. And I deserve to feel comfortable at work. Why does this guy just waltz in and get to be dismissed for his actions? No. Not cool. He just started and has already proven he's a liar and blames others for his mistakes. And now he's harassing people? Wtf no. He doesn't get to lie and harass people and get to keep his job.
Before he dose anything again, place your phone on record and say " I don't want you to touch me ever again I have recorded the last assaults, if you ever touch me again I will have to resort to protecting my self with physical force if I feel the need. I have also reported you to the manager so your assaults have been made aware."
Would you not talk to him. Tell him you're not happy and if it doesn't stop, then you'll go to the manager? Some people have zero social skills and really don't know they're making someone uncomfortable. Could you really see someone lose their job and livelihood over tickling your neck? Also, if he was tall, dark and handsome with an Adonis body would you be as freaked out? Not meaning to play devil's advocate but I just think everyone should have the right to be told how they are behaving and a chance to fix that behaviour before possibly being fired.
You're right. It shouldn't matter. I'm hoping I won't have to work with him any longer. Ugh, what if he's friends with the vise president?
Wow, she really thought it was funny? I'm not married but I do wear a ring on my finger as if I am. I always talk about my SO and baby. It's very known that I'm taken. Idk what type of person thinks tickling the back of the neck is appropriate. My SO would seriously have a heart attack and come to my work and kick his ass.... no yelling. I can't lose my job, but I do need to feel comfortable where I work. I won't let this go. I'm Uber creeped out.
To add, my manager was sorry I had to go through that. And apologized, as long said she would get with the vise president of the company about it first thing Monday, that was after I talked to the owner. She was glad I talked to him. She personally doesn't like this guy , he is such a liar!
When I Was working in fast food this one guy was always hitting on me and would call me Velma from scobydoo and get extremely close to me and I always walked away from him and told him to stop talking to me the way he was and he didn't he didn't believe that I had a husband and my manager wouldn't do anything to stop him because she thought it was funny I had to have my husband come in and yell at him just to get him to leave me alone I got in trouble for it and that was my last day there I never came back to work they still don't think he was a problem
I'm glad to hear they did something about it. I've heard of story's of women being raped in military and it's brushed under the rug.
Idk how some men think acting like this is ok? Like where we're they raised?
I hope they get rid of that creepy guy!
I had a similar situation, but it was while I was in the Navy. I was at my first duty station and had started dating my now ex husband. There was a guy working at the same clinic as me who would constantly tell me I needed to break up with him and be with him instead. He also didn't like the fact that I wore a simple diamond ring that my sister gave me. He would tell me to stop wearing it so it didn't look like I was married even though I wore it on my middle finger. He would constantly say stuff to me and try to put his hands on me. The thing that really set me off was when he came up behind me and started touching me in front of others. I walked away as fast as I could. My mentor followed me and asked what was going on. I finally told her everything and we told one of the chiefs. After I went forward with what was going on a lot of other women came forward to say he had been inappropriate to them as well. It took me, one of the most junior sailors at the command, for others to come forward. The guy was court-martialed. He was demoted in rank and lost 1/2 months pay for a few months. I wish I could say I didn't ever have to see him again, but I had to continue working with him for several months. I just did my best to avoid him.
Sorry I left my long story on your post. I really hope things work out for you tomorrow.
I had that happen to me 1 time. I reported it to the manager and he didnt really want to do anything. I went over bia head and still no results. So after about a week of this pervert doing it, i told the manager i was going to start carrying a taser for my protection and if he touches me again i will use it. Then i said this conversation is being recorded and if you fire me for bringing it i will use this recording to sue the company for allowing this man to sexually harrass me. He was fired on the spot.
It seriously took everything in me to be calm when he pulled my braid he was standing right behind me. I wanted to punch him so bad! I was sitting at my desk when he tickled my neck, I knew he was coming but didn't turn around immediately when I heard his footsteps because I was working on something. Ew I'm still grossed out about it. I don't want to tell my SO, he would flip! I am having a meeting with the vise president of the company on Monday. I let my manager know immediately and didn't hear back from her quick enough so I went straight to the owner. I pray I won't have to work with him any longer. I feel he should go, if not, I'll have to start looking for a new job.
Lmao. Go mama@chantilly
I can stand people in my bubble.
I'd say he's about 45 with the mentality of a 4 yr old. @serena
Nobody has ever done that before! I was like what the hell are you doing and slapped in the face and he was like I want to hear the baby.. I started yelling that it don't work that way and next time I'd kick him in his junk. ? my manager was like "ok calm down, them hormones are something else!" Lmao
OMG! I would have been so pissed! I'm sorry that is horrible. But seriously who does that? No one at work should be touching your belly or put their head on it! Let alone hit your stomach. I'm glad he got fired! I had a girl at work who would always ask if she could touch my belly to feel her move. I'd say yes sometimes but mostly if tell her I didn't feel good lol but I really just don't like to be touched by people.
I worked with a guy who was so creepy! He rushed me when I was pregnant and put his head on my stomach I slapped the hell out of him! Then a few days later he kept calling me a b**** bc I told him to leave me alone and I wasn't interested in him. Then towards the end of the night I was in the office and he was cleaning the oven. I walked out of the office to go to my station. He looked right at me as I said excuse me and the a****** hit me in my stomach with the damn cleaning stick he was using! I went off and wrote a note to the GM. I made copies so I had one and had an extra. He took the one from the office a threw it away! So I posted the other one up there and the manger that night saw him on camera take the note! He locked the office and the next day dude got fired. I was about 6 months pregnant with my son.
I agree @chrismay and I have no idea @rissa... Hopefully since he's been horrible from the start they just let him go.
My manager text me back after I talked to the owner. I seriously feel his fingers on my neck still. I'm traumatized. I'm meeting with the managers on Monday about it. Ewww just ewww
Actually, I'm not waiting until Monday. I just left the owner a voice-mail to call me back regarding something that's really bothering me.
I hope she will report him to HR, I'll let her do her job I don't want to go over her head, yet. I'll check with her on Monday to see what she is planning on doing. This guy even threw me under the bus then called me on the dispatch phone to tell me "sorry, I threw you under the bus". Who does that? He lies about bringing me parts from our distribution centers and I say something to my managers and he tries denying it all! I have to write down everything I say to him so it doesn't come back on me. Which is ridiculous because I've worked here for 3 years and I do my job WELL! I shouldn't have to protect my integrity because some new guy says I didn't tell him what he needed to do. Ugh.
We do. It's even an outside company that does our HR. But I Googled him and nothing really came up.
I'll Google him when I'm finished pumping!!!
Unfortunately she's not working today. So if nothing is done on Monday I will go to the owner. I'm still grossed out!
Everything about him creeps me out. He has a very strong creeper vibe.
Sounds like creep guy has a mental disorder. Odd behavior like that is never just some creep; it has more to it unfortunately. Sadly from the medical perspective it's very hard to treat them which likely he will get another job and do the same