Honestly at 13, the things they hear at school from other kids are probably just as bad.

I remember watching The Players Club and Fight Club when I was maybe 12 with my Uncle and half the time I didn't know what it was about.

Nope. Not in my house. They have plenty of time when they leave home to watch whatever they want.

I agree with your DH. I'm not a big fan of censorship. I don't want to shield my kids from things that go on in this world. I would use it as a teaching point. I would rather they learn of it from me than someone else. I'm sure at 13 they've seen much worse in every day life. But, of course, that's just me and how I plan to raise my kids.

I would understand most R rated movies because yikes... But Olympus has fallen is a pretty good movie about saving the White House lol. I could see the language and violence but it's not the worst movie I've seen. He's just tying to save the president. But that's just my opinion your the mom.

I said no but I also talk about my son about morals, ethics, birds and the bees.

I am very open with whatever he wants to know but even if he hears worse at school, my job as his Mum is to monitor how much content he is exposed to.

My son is fine if I say, "no mate, I don't think that movie is appropriate." He'll just accept it and move on.

I'm not his friend's mum and I can't control what he hears AT school, but I do when he is home with me.

His brain is still developing and I am very careful with what he is exposed to as it may cause anxiety and fear.

I'm just doing my job.

@ MommyNes

My mom was like you! Didn't allow me to watch R rated movies until I was maybe 16/17 she started accepting the fact that I watched some. I remember being at sleepovers and calling her to ask if I could watch a certain movie and she shut me down and all my friends would be so pissed. ????

I found out about blow jobs and other inappropriate things from my sixth grade peers. As an adult, I wished that subject was broached by my mother at 13. I was very, very confused. That's why I think it's alright if it's with a parent, that way, uncomfortable things can be explained honestly instead of finding out from classmates and feeling slightly traumatized.

That's my perspective, though. I'm also the mom who told ds about the birds and the bees matter of fact and scientifically when he showed interest at six.

For that particular movie I don't see the big deal

Yea I'm pretty old fashioned too.

I wouldn't because movies are worse these days and I would be worried about what would pop up. It's really up to you. I chose what's best for my own family. For my kids, I don't care what they hear at school. If it's not our lifestyle then I'm not showing it around my kids. I think there's a big difference with what you show your kids at home verses what they see at school. We, as the parent can only hope that your child applies what you teach them in life, in everything else they do. Your own actions (what you watch and do) are observed by your kids so I think it makes a difference. Sounds cheesy but I'm old fashioned. And I agree with you on the media and being influenced by it.

Meh I've never been one to accept the "they've heard worse at school" or anything of the like.

Not just for kids, but adults too, what we accept as common/okay is what becomes common/okay.

You can't try and say a certain behavior is "bad" and then allow it casually to be watched/heard. I mean that goes for all of us...

Case in point, I started watching Criminal Minds a few weeks ago. At first it was kinda hard... Definitely a darker show than I usually watch & felt kinda heavy/blegh. Now, 4 seasons in & it's common, doesn't feel so bad. Now DH makes comments about my messed up show when I have it on when he's home.

Basically, if it has behavior you don't think is appropriate, then it should probably not be casually accepted as okay viewing.

By age 13, they've heard WAY worse at school (AND, many are cursing around their friends as well). Mine are 15 & 13, and both have watched R-rated movies since much younger...maybe 4th grade...buy more-so scary movies or action. But, they were taught at a young age that those words are bad & not to use them (& they don't around us, their teachers, or other adults....I KNOW they do around their peers, as I've caught them before).

It would depend on the age, 16-17 and mature sure, watch whatever. Younger than that no.

I would only be concerned with my teenager watching a rated R movie if it contained any type of nudity. The cursing, I don't really care. But I would not be okay with my 13 year old watching nudity.

Ehh, for me it would depend on what the R rating was for and the maturity of the child.

We screen all movies (for DH & myself too) by reading the parental guide on IMDb (only once has it misled us into thinking something wasn't as "bad" as it was).

We go by more of the content than we do by the pg/pg13/r rating.

There are some pg13 movies we steer away from, or that we don't ie DS (11) see & others that we've cleared.

If there were more than a handful of curse words & they were in regular conversation as opposed to "oh s***" when a plane or something is fixing to crash then he wouldn't see them.

Like I said though, there are plenty of things DH & I don't watch ourselves so it's not really an age/rating issue for us.

ETA: We also don't watch regular TV or most popular shows. We haven't watched a new sitcom in years bc they're so bad.

Nope! I don't allow my 12.5 year old to view M or MA movies without me and I always read the synopsis to determine if I feel even then if it would be inappropriate.

I feel the realism in movies can play on ones psyche. Especially if the audience is too young

Your are definitely not being ridiculous.

When my girls are in their teens the rules will still apply. No nudity,horror and profanity. You won't be watching and listening to that stuff here. That's not being overprotective thats me keeping as much of the negativity/mess out of our home that I feel my girls don't need to see or hear. Besides all that stuff just bothers my spirit. So when you're 18 you can make your own rules but I will not contribute to it in my home. Music included. Edited version over here. I will say thank God for the fast forward button because some movies and shows are good but they have some scenes that will annoy my husband and I so we just skip it. But this is only on our own time not family time.

Older pre 2000 r movies. Yes I might. R rating really has changed with content over the last decade. Where many are a soft porno or overly violent and graphic where it seems too real. I screen everything that doesn't have a pg rating. there are even pg13 movies that really rattle me.

Language everything but f*** is said on basic sitcoms now a days that are rated family friendly. So why should I care about the f word. I have a bigger problem with the b word than the f word.

@nes

I think it's the exposure to what the media puts out there, is why kids are having sex so early these days.

Maybe I am too overprotective!

Depends on the child. I know that I could handle such things at 13, but every kid is different. I also don't give a damn about swearing in front of kids, as long as they are old enough to understand that they aren't allowed to repeat it. Even violence and sexual content aren't really that much of a concern to me. I trust that children are smart enough at 13 to tell fake violence from the real stuff, and honestly, I don't really care about sexual content.

Hmm I don't know. 13 seems like an ok age to watch rated r but I know when my daughter is 13 I'll probably have a problem with it. She might be the only 13 year old in her entire school not able too though ?

Isn't it scary that kids these days are having sex at 13. And here we are worried about the content in movies. ?