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squishymommy1
squishymommy1
Многодетная мама (5 детей)

Take your freaking shoes off!!!!!!

Take your freaking shoes off!!!!!!

Why do people think its ok to walk on someone else's light colored carpet with their shoes on, and then give you a death glare when you tell them to remove their shoes. It's my house, you want to walk around in it...you will do so without your shoes on! It's not that much to ask, and also doesn't require a whole bunch of attitude either.

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deleted-user

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I've always told myself I'd have this rule when I got my own place. Were in appt right now with WHITE carpet and if we stain it, we pay to replace it. It's already costly to shampoo it every couple of months. I tell the guest to either remove your shoes or pay to shampoo the carpet! Even the cable guy put on those plastic shoe cover things when he installed our cable!!! I must invest in those haha!!

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Not trying to be rude to anyone who grew up doing it btw. I live in Toronto and its pretty safe to say if I tried that in anyone's house I'd get cussed n vice versa

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I'm from ny and u deffff take ur shoes off at the door!! Only time I don't is if I really really have to run to the bathroom right away lol

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It really chaps my ass when I ask people to take their shoes off & I get a bs excuse as to why they're not going to. Eg.

We had a couple & their 2 boys staying with us for a few weeks. I told them all the rules like no shoes in the house, if something looks dirty then clean it, etc.

Well the guy tried telling me that he needs to wear shoes inside because his back hurts. Batch please!!!

Dh & I both have back problems & we still go shoe-less in our own home to keep it clean.

Disrespectful asswipe!

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deleted-user

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Where I'm from no one wears shoes in the house I personally think that's nasty I'm a germ a phobe. Why would u wear your nasty shoes that u wear outside where animal poo, pee u don't know what's been there n walk in a house? I don't care how often you clean your carpets that's disgusting and rude. Why would you get mad for people asking you to remove your shoes. Especially if they have a baby? My lo is 7 months n crawls all over and always puts his hand in his mouth or on his face I wouldn't want someone's germs from outside on him

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I never ask people to remove their shoes. If they do that's cool if not that's cool too! I despise being without shoes in someone else's home though. I have particularly smelly feet and its very embarrassing. I remove them if I'm asked but warn people hey my feet smell awful. Also when my mother tried to enforce the no shoe rule I stepped on a sewing needle my sibster had dropped and couldn't find and it went almost all the way through my foot. So that may have stemmed an unnatural phobia lol

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deleted-user

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Pp I'm in Virginia and I've never been in a house where you took your shoes off until I met my husband.

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Growing up we didn't, but I married an Asian man so in my home we do. Even my 17 month old stops at the door, sits, and waits for us to take off his shoes.

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deleted-user

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I'm from Virginia and we most certainly remove our shoes in the house. If we're having a get together outside then I don't mind if people walk on my hard floors with shoes on, just stay off the carpet. Mopping is much easier and quicker than shampooing carpets. If I'm at someone's house and they just walk in with their shoes on then I won't take mine off either. Other than that I take them off. If I ask you to take your shoes off at my house and you don't want to and you give me attitude about it then you can stay on the hard floor or leave. Simple.

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For me I always looked at it as an asain thing. It's just automatic and polite to do so and honestly ignorant to not do so. It's how I was raised but since getting married to a white American I've learned its not universal but it's implemented in my home. You don't know what you are stepping in everywhere you go and then to drag that throughout your house...and if you have kids on the floors...eck....unless you clean it everyday...just gross IMO

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Anyone comes in my house, they better take their shoes off! Lol. Sorry but I hate shoes inside. Unless I'm having a party or something.

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I have hardwood, and animals so I never ask people to take their shoes off. I don't think asking guests to take their shoes off is weird either. I just respect whatever the custom. I do hate walking barefoot in someone's house when I've worn sandals though. And I never remember socks lol

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@kensley Gotcha! I'm so OCD about dog fur that I swiffer 3-4 times a day lol

@heather I make exceptions for big events like that. If its a party or something I won't make people take their shoes off but I will deep clean my floors the week after :)

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It's the common thing for people to take their shoes off when they come in your house here. I have light cream carpet too and I would find it rude if people didn't take them off.

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i love when people say im unable to take them off, its too hard to bend down. well then we will have one of the kids take them off for you lol. but we have to take ours off at their house ugh!!

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I live in texas and don't think I have ever been in someones home that has asked me or expected me to take my shoes off. I think it's weird. If I want to take my shoes off then that's ok, but if someone I didn't know too well asked me to take them off I would feel u comfortable.

I just had a baby shower and there were 40+ ppl there. Not a single person took off their shoes. I would say taking your shoes off is not a common thing around here. we vacuum a few times a week and steam clean 2 times a year.

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I've never noticed stink foot from a visitor.....

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We have a friend who walks inside, takes his shoes off and places them on the carpet... Drives me nuts!! I pick them up and place them outside or on the tiles near the door with all the other shoes. I have asked him not to etc but he forgets as at his place that's what he is use to. If I need to clean I don't mind ppl wading there shoes in, but most have work boots with mud etc on so that's a no!!

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Glad I have hard wood floors...? Sh*t

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deleted-user

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Hmmm i live in utah.. but growing up i only took my shoes off if somebody asked.. other then that it wasn't common around here..

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I've never been to a house where people wear shoes inside! It seems really really gross to walk around outside and then track all that nastiness around inside!

I always thought they just did that on tv shows!!

Come to Canada OP! Land of shoes are for outside only!

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deleted-user

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Yeah. I'm not taking off my shoes for anyone.

My standard replynis always: "oh, you want me to take my shoes off? Well unless you intend to rub my feet, it's not happening"

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Interesting.

I always take off my shoes. All my family and friends do as well,unless we're walking through. Ex they came to pick me up and I needed a few minutes or something.

I wouldn't even want to wear my shoes in the house. Much prefer barefoot.

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@kensley please explain to me why pets make such a big difference to you? I'm sitting here staring at my floor trying to figure it out lol

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I think it varies a lot depending on where you live. Unless your shoes are actually dirty, then I prefer people to leave them on. The natural oils in your feet are more damaging and attract more dirt than a clean pair of shoes. Just ask anyone that works in the carpet industry. I actually wear shoes inside most of the year. But if a see a pile of shoes by someones door, I will take my shoes off when entering their house. I don't think either is right or wrong, it's is just about personal preference.

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It is totally unacceptable to wear shoes in our home. Period! If I go to someone's house that is dirty I won't take my shoes off. If they ask me to I tell them I can't come in because if I take my shoes off and get my socks dirty my shoes will get dirty and I hate that.

I clean my house daily and wash the floors almost daily. I have 3 children and one of them along with my husband has major allergies. I hate having that uncomfortable conversation so I just prefer to stay home lol

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squishymommy1

squishymommy1Многодетная мама (5 детей)

Errrrr....I live in WI lol. Not common here. At least in southern WI. Everyone tries to walk into my house with shoes on.

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deleted-user

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Well, I'm from Canada and have never been anywhere that people keep their shoes on.

Wouldn't you think that if you wanted people to feel comfortable at your house that they would take off their shoes? I don't know about you guys but I'm way more comfy without shoes.

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deleted-user

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In FL, it was not common for people to remove their shoes in the house.

In WI, it is common for people to remove their shoes. I think it just become habit here because you have to take your shoes off 6 months out of the year anyways from snow & slush.

Personally, I don't really care either way. Granted shoes are disgusting, but whatev. I've got too much other stuff to worry about....

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I believe it is a western culture thing. My friend lived in Japan for years and was trained to always take off his shoes. He thinks its so strange that people here don't remove shoes. For me personally i want people to feel comfortable in my house and i don't expect guests to remove shoes.

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I didn't grow up with having to remove my shoes. It just wasn't common practice where I lived. I walk around my house shoeless, but don't care if others do or don't.

If I go to someone's house more than likely it's a friend' s home and I take them off because I'm comfortable there. I don't really visit anyone who's a stickler about not wearing shoes in the home. I just don't know anyone like that. If I did, I would just remove my shoes though. No biggie

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deleted-user

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I'm with @steph I don't understand how it's unsanitary to walk on people's floors without shoes on. If I feel someone's house is so dirty I need to wear shoes inside, I'm probably not going in your house lol

Shoes off in my home! I'm super anal about my floors. They're hardwood and I have a dog but I promise you will not leave my house with black feet or socks! Why is that? Because I don't let people track all the dirt, dog pee and poo, bug guts, spit, gum, motor oil or whatever it is you stepped on with your shoes through my house!

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deleted-user

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I don't understand this whole leaving shoes on because walking shoeless in someones house is unsanitary? Where the heck does that logic come from?

If someone walked in my house with their shoes on I'd smack them upside the head. Seriously? I was my floors every second day, you walk outside all freakin day with your shoes stepping in god knows what. Makes zero sense.

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deleted-user

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Is wearing shoes in the house an American thing? I live in Manitoba, Canada and I would NEVER wear my shoes in someone's house! Not only is it incredibly rude but it also seems incredibly dirty and gross to wear shoes throughout the house.

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I wasn't raised to take my shoes off when I went over to family or friends homes, they never asked anyone to. So I'm not used to taking shoes off in someone else's home. It's a little weird for me.

That being said... I have no problem if someone asks. :) I'm not trying to be rude if I don't do it right away, you just have to let me know because its not something I'm accustomed to.

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I also totally respect peoples decision to leave shoes on I just don't want it in my house. If it was a large gathering I'd make the exception but only because I probably won't have a carpet so light that it stains easily

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I dont think its cultural. There is many americans who practice taking shoes off for sanitary purposes.it is also less toxic.

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Personally it doesn't bother me, I don't take my shoes off at home. But when I go to someone else's house, I usually just take mine off as common courtesy.

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My aunt and uncle have the cutest little sign on their door that says barefoot lounge..i want one. You step in gum, dog poop, God knows what else outside I don't want it on the floors my kids play on. My friends dad was a.clean freak!.he didn't allow shoes and there was wipes at the door you had to wipe your feet with and if your socks had any stains, off they went! He was an ass anyways but that house was immaculate so people didn't mind taking them off

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I kinda feel the opposite. I absolutely despise carpet, but we have it in this apartment. I don't care if people walk on it, unless they have muddy shoes. Other than that I don't make or assume people will remove their shoes. I just want people to be comfortable when they come over to my home. My dog is not allowed on the carpet though. I'm not having that.

Some people don't think to remove their shoes and have to be told if it's such an issue. Then some people have embarrassing foot issues and don't want others to know. I don't mind if someone asks me to remove my shoes when in their home, I'd rather them ask than them assume I'm just trying to mess up or disrespect their floor/home. Not everyone is aware of customs of different cultures.

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Dude if I had mocha brown carpet people better be taking their shoes off!

sorta related but not really I was looking online at furniture and there was a picture of a white sectional sofa and a woman sitting sideways on it with her shoes on it! A white couch and this broad has her shoes on it lol

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I feel like this is more of a cultural thing. It's common etiquette to take shoes off for most Asian households yet in Europe it's common to keep shoes on. I usually offer guests indoor slippers if they don't want to walk around without shoes.

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I take my shoes off when I go to someone else's house. I even pack slippers because I hate having bare feet or just socks.

I also hate having to ask people to take their shoes off, so we have a sign on the front door "please remove shoes :)" saves hassles.

Oh and we have mainly floor boards, but I still don't like shoes inside :)

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I also feel like its good manners. If I go into someone's house and they have carpet and all their shoes are by the door, I automatically take mine off because I don't want to be rude.

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I grew up with no shoes in the house, we had to take them off and up to our bedroom they went. My house has light colored carpet in it so no shoes whatsoever. I have never had a problem with people taking their shoes off in my house. I leave a pair by the door and people get the hint. At someone else's house, I always ask what they prefer, because it isn't my house and I'm the guest. If I expect it, then what's the big deal if its theirs too? It's gross walking in a house with dirty ass shoes.

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Thank you!!! Omg finally someone who understands!! Smh

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I'm filipino (2nd generation living in canada) so it's a basic thing that you always take your shoes off at the door. All the get togethers with our family and friends at each others houses have always followed the common courtesy of taking off our shoes at the door to not dirty the house with the crap you get on your shoes. The only situation I have had someone been asked to keep on my shoes was for home renos.

Even then I don't see a problem with people with foot grossness or something like that since I would take that over some dirt and crap on the bottom of someones shoes.

Also to that how are you comfortable with shoes on for basically 16 hours a day? Yes I consider slippers as shoes but even then how is a house slipper different from a sock?

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It's cultural for me not to wear shoes in my home. It's considered unclean. I take them off before I enter the door. Weird to some but hey everyone's different!

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squishymommy1

squishymommy1Многодетная мама (5 детей)

I WISH it was assumed, but sadly with all the people I know it isn't. I also don't want high heels being worn on my hardwood. Unless of course they plan to pay to refinish my hardwood when they scratch it up/gouge it.

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In Islamic homes its mandatory. I also think why do I want shoes that walk around outside or who knows where on my clean floor making it dirty right after I just swiftered it!

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My husband and I have mostly hardwood and some WHITE carpet (it's terrible and I can't keep it cleaned) but we always take our shoes off and our bestfriends NEVER do and they'll lay on the couch with they're shoes on or stick their feet on the coffee table with their shoes on. It drives me crazy, I would never do that.

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I wouldn't find this weird if I were to ask my in laws or my family, but I would never ask my friends to take off their shoes in my house. Its just weird.

I had a friend that would always ask me to take my shoes off when I came over and I just found it so weird. It made me soooo uncomfortable.

I also thought it was weird that they just piled their shoes up at the door. I mean at least put them in a closet or something. o.O

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Is shoes in the house an american thing? I've never been anywhere that people keep their shoes on inside.

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I always thought it was stupid to do. I just clean my carpet's regularly. The only exception is if the carpet is white, but then again Maybe you shouldn't have chosen a white carpet

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Yeah foot juice grosses me out as well. So I give people cute slippers. I bought some from 99 cent store.

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I'll always take my shoes off when I'm at other people's houses unless it's very dirty. Here it's common, I don't have anyone around me who'll keep their shoes in other people's houses, unless the owner of the house says to keep them...

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I don't have carpet but we take our shoes off at the door. My inlaws don't and it drives me crazy.

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I kinda second marieroberts.. I feel uncomfortable walking around other people's houses barefoot.. I mean unless its family or someone I'm really close with.

And that's why they recommend you get your carpets cleaned every three months..

I HATE feet.. So maybe I'm a little biased about the situation.. But I'd rather vacuum and spot clean my carpet than mix everyone's foot juice.. Some people have stinky, sweaty, fungus feet and I'd rather the dirt from my porch over their sweaty socks and smelly feet..

But to each is own... I wouldn't give attitude to anyone who asked it.. It's just not for me in my own home..

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No one is allowed to walk on our carpet with shoes and the dog isn't allowed in any rooms with carpet. I don't care if people give me the death glare, my house, my rules. The end. ;)

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Ohhh my goodness.i can strangle someone.its a serious offense in my home. I used to feel bad asking ppl take shoes off when they enter.now I dont care.its my home, my rules.its a lot cleaning involved.

They ruined one carpet, they stained my second carpet because they have dirty socks too.its gross

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That's frustrating. Thankfully almost everyone that visits us takes off their shoes when they see us take ours off at the door. We also take ours off if we visit other people and they take theirs off.

I think tan carpet is the devil, but have no clue what other color I would get lol.

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I've never heard of people making others take their shoes off in their homes until bb. Its strange and uncommon here.

We just clean our carpets twice a year.

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Ugh. When my mom visited after baby was born, she kept wearing her shoes in the house. We hoped she'd get the hint since we take our shoes off the minute we get home. No such luck. Finally, after she came in with sopping wet shoes, my husband said, "We don't wear shoes in the house", rather pointedly. She replied, "Oh, these boots are hard to get on and off." And kept her boots on! I was so annoyed lol. Pick up on people's social cues so they don't have to make everybody involved feel uncomfortable! How hard is it?!?!

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yeah... I kind of feel the opposite.

it's the FLOOR - it gets dirty. we always had nice carpet growing up, and my mom never made ppl take their shoes off. she got the carpet cleaned regularly. just a part of life lol

to be honest, I think it's a little rude to make ppl take their shoes off when they come in. at the same time, your house your rules, so I would abide by it and take my shoes off, if that's what you asked...

if it's raining or snowing or something, it's common sense to just take them off no matter what, but other than that, I wouldn't just do it automatically.

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Omg this annoys me too. I asked hubby's friend to take his shoes off and he goes "well you let the dogs walk on the carpet". Yeah, I do, stfu and do what I asked you, or you can stand in the kitchen the whole time.

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Yes!! My mother in law lives with us (is actually moving out tomorrow..woohoo!) Anyway, her dog peed on our rug so we had to get a new one and it was cream colored and all I asked was that she took her shoes off when she got home since you have to walk over it to get to the bedrooms, she gave me so much attitude over it and only did it a couple of times and now the rug is ruined. Just cause it's not hers. Ugh, two rugs ruined because of HER.

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