He needs to grow up or you need a new boyfriend babe. It is critical bonding time. It will effect the child for the rest of its life. I am studying medicine and just happen to be taking the development classes. It is essential for one, if not both, of you to use those weeks wisely. I can cite medical studies to show your boyfriend if you'd like. He may also just be stressing about finances, it's very common especially during the pregnancy because they don't feel the baby is here yet. Whereas we can feel them moving and alive inside of us, and for many moms that means they are already here and apart of your life. Men either are the same way, don't change, or just need to meet their babies to wake up.

@m.tiffany1992 I feel bad for you. Your boyfriend sounds like an insensitive clueless jerk. Good luck girl.

My boyfriend said that me having to take time off for the bonding time after giving birth and heal time is bullshit and that he will not be taking time off for nonsense

I went back after 4 weeks and I’m in pain by the end of day. But that’s because I’m constantly running around cleaning a huge house

Well every state is different! I got 6 weeks and so did her father for “bonding time “ with pay . Look it up online so you know how it works in your state & with your employer

Thank you everyone, my boyfriend sits here and tries to tell me I’m wrong about everything about this pregnancy and how he knows everything 😒 he really pisses me off. I had made this post to show him that he know nothing about pregnancy and to grow up

I got 12 weeks. But not every job offers that. I didnt have fmla, just short term disability

Most jobs only allow 6 weeks and a doctor will release you after 6. FMLA is 12 weeks.

Yeah, it depends on your employer and how your labor went. But you need some time after to heal and bond with baby.

Yes you definitely need maternity leave. It's so important to take the time off to let your body completely heal. It will definitely not be the same after you have your baby. You will definitely want/need the 6 weeks off to fully heal and your cervix to go back to normal. And plus to spend time with the baby. You should google why 6 weeks of maternity leave is crucial for YOUR body and your baby. It teaches you a lot and your boyfriend doesn't have a clue what he's talking about. 😒

My sister's went back to work after a week it depends on what ur employer allows I took total of 9 weeks off a week before she was born and stayed with her until she was 8 weeks I didn't want to leave her and that's when we ran out of money

6 or 12 weeks. You need off.

You could go back if you wanted and if your doctor cleared you to go. But you definitely wouldn't want to leave your baby that soon. I only get 6 weeks of maternity leave at my job.

No, you need maternity leave. You have to heal. You will be in so much pain, I am guessing. The doctor will tell you how much time you will need off. Your boyfriend is wrong, no offense.