She’s taking advantage. You don’t get help, your in a relationship. What you have going on has nothing to do with her. Don’t let her manipulate you.

Tell her to grow the fuck up.

I’ll be 28 in January. I get help with one bill (my Nana pays my phone bill because she gets a major discount on it), other than that, I pay my shit.
I had my first at 21 and yeah, I wanted to go out. My parents watched him so I could go here and there, but I didn’t get full night’s away. If she’s 28 and only has a 1 year old, that means she could have had 6 years to be out and about partying/clubbing, whatever. Life changes when you have a kid. Definitions of fun change. All nighters mean staying up with your kid, bottle service isn’t about the booze anymore, it’s about milk and juice.

Bills and necessities should always come first, entertainment is last.

If its only your husband working then its like just one income why she complaining? She a grown ass women if she got money to go spend then she better learn how to save it to pay her bills. 28 is to grown to try to act like a irresponsible child.

You don't. She's an adult. If she has go out money, she has utility money.